How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you people seriously not know that the clearly-invited people are always listed on the exterior envelope?!

Ms. Madison Reede
Means that you are invited, and may not bring a plus one.

Ms. Madison Reede and Guest
Means that you may bring a plus one.

The Smith Family
Means kids are invited.

Mr. and Mrs. Steven Smith
Means that your kids are NOT invited.

Get with the program, people.

Eh not always. People getting married at a brewery are probably not hewing to the most formal standards like that. We got married at a restaurant/bar and we certainly didn't. I'd much rather someone have asked me than assume the most restrictive policy and not come.

Also FWIW it is 2021 and women have their own first and last names. Stop addressing things to Mr and Mrs Oldfashioned. That is weird and off-putting. When I see invites like that, I feel like I don't need to bother even responding since they can't bother getting my name right and clearly only care about or pay attention to my husband.

“EH,” I’m pretty sure we can tell the kids aren’t invited on account of THE BRIDE AND GROOM SAID NO KIDS UNDER 21.

And by the way, I didn’t address as Mr. and Mrs. Oldfashioned. But the deliberately clueless OP asked “wHaT d0 I doooo to InTerpret thIs MYSTERY,” and I’m helping her get over herself.

[Anonymous]

In some states under 21 can’t be in a bar/brewery at all.

[Anonymous]

When u Rsvped did you say all 4 of h were attending? If so I would call and say I just saw the note about no kids. Are you still ok to call come or would they prefer your kids didn’t attend? If they say no to your kids I would decline for all of you.

[Anonymous]

“No kids” family events are such dick moves.

[Anonymous]

I have a 9yo. Just knowing the Wedding was in a brewery would not make me think no kids unless the invite specifically said so. Breweries have family events all the time..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“No kids” family events are such dick moves.

Being so entitled as to think of a ceremony between two people as a “family event” is a dick move. Want a family reunion? Plan, organize and PAY FOR ONE, cheapskate.

[Anonymous]

1. Your kids are not welcome. There is nothing to “interpret”.

2. I wouldn’t fly to California in the midst of a global pandemic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 9yo. Just knowing the Wedding was in a brewery would not make me think no kids unless the invite specifically said so. Breweries have family events all the time..

Except the bride and groom have literally said no guests under 21. So would you still be in the dark?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“No kids” family events are such dick moves.

Being so entitled as to think of a ceremony between two people as a “family event” is a dick move. Want a family reunion? Plan, organize and PAY FOR ONE, cheapskate.

The bride and groom are asking people to pay to fly to CA, stay, dress up, take time off. It’s their prerogative to not have kids, but it’s not particularly kind or welcoming to OP’s family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
The bride and groom are asking people to pay to fly to CA, stay, dress up, take time off. It’s their prerogative to not have kids, but it’s not particularly kind or welcoming to OP’s family.

Or, OP was invited but the bride and groom don't really care all that much if she comes. Obligation invites exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“No kids” family events are such dick moves.

Being so entitled as to think of a ceremony between two people as a “family event” is a dick move. Want a family reunion? Plan, organize and PAY FOR ONE, cheapskate.

The bride and groom are asking people to pay to fly to CA, stay, dress up, take time off. It’s their prerogative to not have kids, but it’s not particularly kind or welcoming to OP’s family.

I'm sure OP did the same for their own wedding. No one wants to pay $150/plate for a 13-year-old and 16-year-old. Especially with extra costs associated with moving a wedding twice and Covid restrictions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“No kids” family events are such dick moves.

Being so entitled as to think of a ceremony between two people as a “family event” is a dick move. Want a family reunion? Plan, organize and PAY FOR ONE, cheapskate.

The bride and groom are asking people to pay to fly to CA, stay, dress up, take time off. It’s their prerogative to not have kids, but it’s not particularly kind or welcoming to OP’s family.

An invitation is not a summons.

Don’t want to go? Send regrets. Don’t want to go without our kids? Send regrets. See how that works?

[Anonymous]

1. Was the invite addresses to your children by name or “the Smith family”?
2. Did you rsvp for 4 - what was the reaction?
3. You have a large family, can you call someone with similar age kids to discuss?
4. Can you call the bride or groom (whoever you are related to) and ask for clarification? Can the kids come to the ceremony and next day brunch? Rehearsal? All events including the reception?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a 9yo. Just knowing the Wedding was in a brewery would not make me think no kids unless the invite specifically said so. Breweries have family events all the time..

Except the bride and groom have literally said no guests under 21. So would you still be in the dark?

Except it wasn’t on the invite and it was in the fine print on a wedding website. The bride and grooms parents should be spreading the word or the invite should have been explicit.

[Anonymous]

Oh OP the invitation means no kids except for yours! And at a brewery doesn’t mean that someone will be carding as drinking is an adult activity! Go ahead make their day !