Gender Disappointment- looking for proactive ways to get over it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find someone equally disappointed with the opposite gender, and arrange a switch. What could possibly go wrong?

LOL

[Anonymous]

The best solution is to give birth to the baby. You will seriously love them. I felt sad about the sex of the baby in my first pregnancy. And then the baby expectedly passed away in my second trimester. I felt so silly to have cared about the sex. What I wanted was the baby! Then my second baby was the same sex. I loved them from the moment they were born. You can have your feelings and it’s good to acknowledge them. But know that you will love the baby so much that you will look back on this and possibly feel a bit sad that you had worried about it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We just found our our babys sex and I am very disappointed. I do not want to feel like this! Im wondering if any others who have experienced this have advice on how to get over it? Are there particular things you focused on that helped? What helped you get on board and move on? I legitimately feel like I am grieving a loss- as stupid as that sounds.

I'd be grateful for healthy baby and not whine. I feel sorry for this child because even in the womb it knows you wanted another gender. My parents wantedanother boy do I was a disappointment the moment I entered the world and I always knew it even though they never said a word.

Maybe get some therapy and stop projecting your crap on OP. The fact that OP is asking for how to help her adjust makes her NOT your parents.

OP needs a good dose of reality and to stop her self pity. She is disgusting and you need to shut up your stupid comments. Both of you are disgusting.

Therapy would be your friend.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP get over it.

I have zero empathy for this subject.

Before having children you did understand the stats about how children are conceived right?

UGH....

Wow, so helpful. Why even bother posting a reply if you’re going to be a jerk?
People are allowed to be disappointed and work through it.

Spraking truth not being a jerk. You and OP are the jerks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why were comments removed from this post?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy I know with four boys desperately wanted to be “dad to a girl” guy. Fifth kid was a boy too.

OMG 5 boys. What's the prob. in that? I feel for that dad to never experience having a daughter. Of course this doesn't mean you love your kids any less by any means but it just struck me that having 5 boys is unusual.

[Anonymous]

I actually did not find out bcs I thought I’d be disappointed where if I waited I’d just be happy to have my baby.

It seems like no one waits to find out anymore, even for first kids though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually did not find out bcs I thought I’d be disappointed where if I waited I’d just be happy to have my baby.

It seems like no one waits to find out anymore, even for first kids though.

I’d never thought of it this way before, but makes a lot of sense. Gender disappointment melts away once you give birth and meet your baby. It’s very abstract before they’re born.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP get over it.

I have zero empathy for this subject.

Before having children you did understand the stats about how children are conceived right?

UGH....

Wow, so helpful. Why even bother posting a reply if you’re going to be a jerk?
People are allowed to be disappointed and work through it.

Spraking truth not being a jerk. You and OP are the jerks.

Some people cannot have kids, have kids that die, or kids with special needs that cannot lead normal lives. I really do not understand the whole I was hoping for a boy or girl thing. It’s dumb. Be grateful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP get over it.

I have zero empathy for this subject.

Before having children you did understand the stats about how children are conceived right?

UGH....

Wow, so helpful. Why even bother posting a reply if you’re going to be a jerk?
People are allowed to be disappointed and work through it.

Spraking truth not being a jerk. You and OP are the jerks.

Some people cannot have kids, have kids that die, or kids with special needs that cannot lead normal lives. I really do not understand the whole I was hoping for a boy or girl thing. It’s dumb. Be grateful.

Some people have incurable cancer. I don’t understand all these people upset about infertility. All these people who can’t have kids should be grateful they’re alive.

See how easy that is? Serves no one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually did not find out bcs I thought I’d be disappointed where if I waited I’d just be happy to have my baby.

It seems like no one waits to find out anymore, even for first kids though.

I agree. I'm always shocked how many people find out beforehand these days! When we were pregnant with one of our children, I wanted to find out the gender, just for something different. My husband said "Finding out in the delivery room is one of the only true surprises we have left in life". He convinced me and I'm so glad we were always surprised.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP get over it.

I have zero empathy for this subject.

Before having children you did understand the stats about how children are conceived right?

UGH....

Wow, so helpful. Why even bother posting a reply if you’re going to be a jerk?
People are allowed to be disappointed and work through it.

Spraking truth not being a jerk. You and OP are the jerks.

Your comments are unhelpful. OP expressed a valid feeling she is having and is looking for helpful ways to get the feeling to pass. Why do you need to comment if you have no empathy for someone? Just close the thread and move on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I actually did not find out bcs I thought I’d be disappointed where if I waited I’d just be happy to have my baby.

It seems like no one waits to find out anymore, even for first kids though.

I agree. I'm always shocked how many people find out beforehand these days! When we were pregnant with one of our children, I wanted to find out the gender, just for something different. My husband said "Finding out in the delivery room is one of the only true surprises we have left in life". He convinced me and I'm so glad we were always surprised.

Are you aware that no matter what time you find out it's a surprise? I've done it both ways and both times I was surprised!

[Anonymous]

I waited til my 3 kids were born to find out the gender. There was NOTHING better than that! Thought abut a 4th just for that thrill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually did not find out bcs I thought I’d be disappointed where if I waited I’d just be happy to have my baby.

It seems like no one waits to find out anymore, even for first kids though.

I agree. I'm always shocked how many people find out beforehand these days! When we were pregnant with one of our children, I wanted to find out the gender, just for something different. My husband said "Finding out in the delivery room is one of the only true surprises we have left in life". He convinced me and I'm so glad we were always surprised.

DP. I hate surprises and like to have as much information as possible. That's why I found out ASAP.