Meeting quality guys in their 30s

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Anonymous wrote:Why are women who were married in their 20s and happy about it always seemingly so angry on these threads?

Seriously. "I'm so happy I got married in my 20s! Better quality of life!!! if you got married after 30 you have issues!!!!"

It's DC. Pretty much no one gets married before 30 here anymore.

It's just so bizarre. The average age of marriage for women is 27. It's pretty normal to get married anytime between 25-35. I would never make assumptions about a woman nor would I claim there's something wrong with her just because she got married at a different age. I kind of suspect people aren't happy when they feel the need to be critical or nasty just because someone makes a different choice. And that absolutely goes both ways, I don't like it when women in their 30s act like it's weird to get married in your 20s. But on DCUM and on this thread specifically there are weirdly a lot of "soooo happy" women who don't seem like they're actually secure about their choice.

This is the men’s fault. They don’t make any money! Too many .gov losers and men who wasted their best years chasing PhDs to make only $50k at some non-profit or think tank.

Or all the losers who didn’t make partner track. Who wants to marry them??

Don’t. Make your own damn money.

[Anonymous]

You guys told me to dump my mediocre bf in my late 20s and now you're saying everyone good is taken by 30. WHAT IS IT.

[Anonymous]

Try dating at 49 with three kids under 13. It's hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys told me to dump my mediocre bf in my late 20s and now you're saying everyone good is taken by 30. WHAT IS IT.

It’s NEVER a good idea to stay with someone mediocre. And it’s also never good to listen to these absolutes on dcum - it’s a reflection of their own issues only.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys told me to dump my mediocre bf in my late 20s and now you're saying everyone good is taken by 30. WHAT IS IT.

If you think the person was only mediocre, then you did both of yourselves a favor by ending it. Marry someone you love and respect by 35. This usually means meeting them by your early 30's. This isn't conflicting advice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You guys told me to dump my mediocre bf in my late 20s and now you're saying everyone good is taken by 30. WHAT IS IT.

If you think the person was only mediocre, then you did both of yourselves a favor by ending it. Marry someone you love and respect by 35. This usually means meeting them by your early 30's. This isn't conflicting advice.

Yeah, that way you can be 60 at their college graduation. If you live to 60.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You guys told me to dump my mediocre bf in my late 20s and now you're saying everyone good is taken by 30. WHAT IS IT.

If you think the person was only mediocre, then you did both of yourselves a favor by ending it. Marry someone you love and respect by 35. This usually means meeting them by your early 30's. This isn't conflicting advice.

Yeah, that way you can be 60 at their college graduation. If you live to 60.

Or divorced, 50, and having raised them when you knew nothing about anything so likely hoping they will even make it to college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys told me to dump my mediocre bf in my late 20s and now you're saying everyone good is taken by 30. WHAT IS IT.

Depends, check back on I’d Hit That Thursday.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You guys told me to dump my mediocre bf in my late 20s and now you're saying everyone good is taken by 30. WHAT IS IT.

If you think the person was only mediocre, then you did both of yourselves a favor by ending it. Marry someone you love and respect by 35. This usually means meeting them by your early 30's. This isn't conflicting advice.

Yeah, that way you can be 60 at their college graduation. If you live to 60.

Is that that unusual? I say this as someone whose dad had just turned 50 right before my college graduation and he was one of the younger dads in my friend group.

My parents are on the younger side (26 and 28 when I was born) and dh's are on the older side (34 and 39 when he was born) and I would say my in-laws are much more in line with the age of our peers' parents. I definitely think you don't want to be too old when you have kids (if you can help it - if you don't get married until 40 and get pg at 42, awesome, go for it!), but I'm not sure that "you'll be 60 when they graduate from college" is shocking or "out-there." You're being a bit of a fear-monger.

[Anonymous]

I'm a 36 yo man that has had a non-traditional path. I joined the military out of high school then got an internal scholarship to a college degree at 26 and commission as an officer. I didn't want to start a family while on active duty. Left the military at 32 and have been building my civilian career in the DMV.

Dating for me has been disappointing. I'm politically moderate and honestly can't stand both sides and largely avoid the news, but I've been rejected by women in this area as being too conservative. I'm successful (senior manager in fortune 100 company) with no debts but it doesn't seem to make a difference.

Women I have dated around my age are usually successful with their own career and it seemed like unless I was an executive or high equity owner my career didn't matter to them. Women in their mid to late 20s seemed to be focused on their corporate career and just want a steady BF and nothing too serious. I haven't dated anyone younger than 25 recently.

I'm not picky but the sheer percentage of overweight women also really thins the numbers of eligible partners. Couple that with single mothers and it becomes challenging to find a long term partner for marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 36 yo man that has had a non-traditional path. I joined the military out of high school then got an internal scholarship to a college degree at 26 and commission as an officer. I didn't want to start a family while on active duty. Left the military at 32 and have been building my civilian career in the DMV.

Dating for me has been disappointing. I'm politically moderate and honestly can't stand both sides and largely avoid the news, but I've been rejected by women in this area as being too conservative. I'm successful (senior manager in fortune 100 company) with no debts but it doesn't seem to make a difference.

Women I have dated around my age are usually successful with their own career and it seemed like unless I was an executive or high equity owner my career didn't matter to them. Women in their mid to late 20s seemed to be focused on their corporate career and just want a steady BF and nothing too serious. I haven't dated anyone younger than 25 recently.

I'm not picky but the sheer percentage of overweight women also really thins the numbers of eligible partners. Couple that with single mothers and it becomes challenging to find a long term partner for marriage.

How would you look at a single mother of a very easy teen (fully financed by his dad), around your own age (37 y.o.) with her own fortune (a real estate trust that makes 200k/year) and a job that makes 70K/year (just for hobby and keep herself busy during the day). A great cook, entertainer, conversationalist, traditional views - goes to church, comes back from work early to have a family dinner ready for her husband. A long 15 y.o. marriage behind her shoulders that fell apart due to his adultery. That's me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a 36 yo man that has had a non-traditional path. I joined the military out of high school then got an internal scholarship to a college degree at 26 and commission as an officer. I didn't want to start a family while on active duty. Left the military at 32 and have been building my civilian career in the DMV.

Dating for me has been disappointing. I'm politically moderate and honestly can't stand both sides and largely avoid the news, but I've been rejected by women in this area as being too conservative. I'm successful (senior manager in fortune 100 company) with no debts but it doesn't seem to make a difference.

Women I have dated around my age are usually successful with their own career and it seemed like unless I was an executive or high equity owner my career didn't matter to them. Women in their mid to late 20s seemed to be focused on their corporate career and just want a steady BF and nothing too serious. I haven't dated anyone younger than 25 recently.

I'm not picky but the sheer percentage of overweight women also really thins the numbers of eligible partners. Couple that with single mothers and it becomes challenging to find a long term partner for marriage.

How would you look at a single mother of a very easy teen (fully financed by his dad), around your own age (37 y.o.) with her own fortune (a real estate trust that makes 200k/year) and a job that makes 70K/year (just for hobby and keep herself busy during the day). A great cook, entertainer, conversationalist, traditional views - goes to church, comes back from work early to have a family dinner ready for her husband. A long 15 y.o. marriage behind her shoulders that fell apart due to his adultery. That's me.

What does your $270k per year have to do with anything?

[Anonymous]

You should be dating ages 30-36. Not 20s. Your career will not blow anyone away in this area. Most have careers of their own.

I say this as a thin divorced woman with kids with my own career.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 36 yo man that has had a non-traditional path. I joined the military out of high school then got an internal scholarship to a college degree at 26 and commission as an officer. I didn't want to start a family while on active duty. Left the military at 32 and have been building my civilian career in the DMV.

Dating for me has been disappointing. I'm politically moderate and honestly can't stand both sides and largely avoid the news, but I've been rejected by women in this area as being too conservative. I'm successful (senior manager in fortune 100 company) with no debts but it doesn't seem to make a difference.

Women I have dated around my age are usually successful with their own career and it seemed like unless I was an executive or high equity owner my career didn't matter to them. Women in their mid to late 20s seemed to be focused on their corporate career and just want a steady BF and nothing too serious. I haven't dated anyone younger than 25 recently.

I'm not picky but the sheer percentage of overweight women also really thins the numbers of eligible partners. Couple that with single mothers and it becomes challenging to find a long term partner for marriage.

sorry. forgot to quote in my last response.

You should be dating ages 30-36. Not 20s. Your career will not blow anyone away in this area. Most have careers of their own.

I say this as a thin divorced woman with kids with my own career.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 36 yo man that has had a non-traditional path. I joined the military out of high school then got an internal scholarship to a college degree at 26 and commission as an officer. I didn't want to start a family while on active duty. Left the military at 32 and have been building my civilian career in the DMV.

Dating for me has been disappointing. I'm politically moderate and honestly can't stand both sides and largely avoid the news, but I've been rejected by women in this area as being too conservative. I'm successful (senior manager in fortune 100 company) with no debts but it doesn't seem to make a difference.

Women I have dated around my age are usually successful with their own career and it seemed like unless I was an executive or high equity owner my career didn't matter to them. Women in their mid to late 20s seemed to be focused on their corporate career and just want a steady BF and nothing too serious. I haven't dated anyone younger than 25 recently.

I'm not picky but the sheer percentage of overweight women also really thins the numbers of eligible partners. Couple that with single mothers and it becomes challenging to find a long term partner for marriage.

How would you look at a single mother of a very easy teen (fully financed by his dad), around your own age (37 y.o.) with her own fortune (a real estate trust that makes 200k/year) and a job that makes 70K/year (just for hobby and keep herself busy during the day). A great cook, entertainer, conversationalist, traditional views - goes to church, comes back from work early to have a family dinner ready for her husband. A long 15 y.o. marriage behind her shoulders that fell apart due to his adultery. That's me.

What does your $270k per year have to do with anything?

He seems to be seeking "successful" women, while wanting "traditional" profile at the same time. It is typically an unsolvable equation, as ladies with career won't be "traditional" or wouldn't care for his own career and support him in that. Someone with high income yet able to lead a traditional lifestyle would be a good fit for this man, in my view.