Meeting quality guys in their 30s
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Anonymous
+1. I got married in my late 20s, divorced less than 10 years later. I wish I would have waited until my 30s but I thought the millions of eggs we are born with as women were going to just shrivel up. The biological clock ticking was real. I was like, “Create a legacy you must, to continue bloodline! Marry him, you will.” (Of course I said this in my head in Yoda’s voice) |
Anonymous
| I know so many people who have met and married through recreational sports leagues. I can think of six married couples who met in their 30s. Seems to be a great way to meet people in a low pressure atmosphere, pre-covid. |
Anonymous
It's just so bizarre. The average age of marriage for women is 27. It's pretty normal to get married anytime between 25-35. I would never make assumptions about a woman nor would I claim there's something wrong with her just because she got married at a different age. I kind of suspect people aren't happy when they feel the need to be critical or nasty just because someone makes a different choice. And that absolutely goes both ways, I don't like it when women in their 30s act like it's weird to get married in your 20s. But on DCUM and on this thread specifically there are weirdly a lot of "soooo happy" women who don't seem like they're actually secure about their choice. |
Anonymous
| ^^Also, it's a bit funny watching a bunch of women who have never dated in their 30s dropping "facts" about dating in your 30s. |
Anonymous
Oh, no I agree. The only time I'm thrown by someone getting married super young is if it's before 25. But my friends in DC have all gotten married within the last ten years and they ranged from age 24-32 on their wedding day. I don't think it's that weird to get married in your 20s but the fact of the matter is, people in DC do tend to marry older. So there are still plenty of normal, single men in their early 30s in the area. |
Anonymous
Seriously, "I haven't dated in 20 years and married my college sweetheart. Here's some advice about dating in 2021". |
Anonymous
They’re still recommending a snap and go car seat, too. 
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Anonymous
"I'm a 39 year old divorcee with 3 kids, I assume a 30 year old woman with no kids has the same options that I do." |
Anonymous
So the people getting married at 32 probably met when they were 30-31, maybe younger. The point stands that by 35, there are very few quality single men and women left. |
Anonymous
You're pretty much supporting the assertion that the dating pool gets worse by age 35. These people getting married at 25-35 likely started dating by 33 or before, so they weren't even on the market at 35. |
Anonymous
We cannot all be unicorns. But it happens.  🌈 🦄
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Anonymous
This is the men’s fault. They don’t make any money! Too many .gov losers and men who wasted their best years chasing PhDs to make only $50k at some non-profit or think tank. Or all the losers who didn’t make partner track. Who wants to marry them?? |
Anonymous
30 isn't 35. |
Anonymous
“In the game of thrones, there are no ‘winners’ or ‘losers’. Either you win; or you die.” Cersei Lannister 👑 |
Anonymous
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I’ve dated in this area during several stages of life. I can say that the caliber and access to men that would score high on the DCUM likert has not changed much. Actually, the odds seem to be getting better as I get older! I’m divorced with children and this was a pleasant surprise. The anxiety of family planning takes the pressure off and oddly men can sense this authentic feeling of IDGAF and they’re drawn to it like moths to a flame. This is the secret, at all ages, no matter what — love yourself without vanity or haughtiness, and try to grow love in others. Be yourself and no one else. You’ll be surprised at how things work together when you aren’t following someone else’s recipe to life.
Encouragement! Boom. |