New roommate emails to request they be given the desk and bed by the window. Wwyd?

[Anonymous]

There is nothing wrong with the request. Let your kid deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Can they not arrange the beds or desks so that both are reasonably close to the window?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's totally fair. They were there before. They only cleaned out their crap because they didn't know if they'd be coming back.

Tell your kid not to stand on ceremony about "lack of pleasantries" for the rest of their life. It'll serve them well.

How is it fair? They had it last semester now it is someone else's turn. At the very least they should ask to discuss it when they get there in person.

I would say lets decide when i get there

[Anonymous]

I would have phrased your subject line differently.

"New Roommate emails to request TO KEEP desk and bed by window."

Would you feel differently about it then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:New roommate emails to say “Hi, I see we will be roommates for Spring Semester. I was on campus last semester and had the bed and desk by the window. For break I had to pack everything as we did not know if we would return to campus. I am not sure of your move in date, mine is ____. If you arrive before me can you please leave the bed and desk by the window for me to move into?”
Child (recipient of email) is not pleased with the general lack of pleasantries in email and the request itself. Child is hoping they get off the waitlist for a single room before their move in date.
Wwyd?

Personally, I would try for the single but if not, I would yield to the request. Not that much difference and you need to pick your battles.

But probably be in search of a new room mate for next year. Being self centered is a character trait that is unlikely to go away in just a few months.

+1

[Anonymous]

I had a suitemate one summer who laid claim to anything she saw that she wanted when entering the suite. She took the larger room, the popcorn popper someone left behind and proceeded to be a PITA for the rest of the summer. She was from NY and the rest of us West Coasters weren’t used to such aggressiveness. Suggest the “flip for it” response before the new roommate takes a mile.

[Anonymous]

I don't think the substance of the request is off, given that the person was there and had it last time, but I do agree that the lack of plesantries or a friendly tone suggests that this will not be a great roomate experience. Who wants to live in a room with someone who is not especially friendly or warm?

[Anonymous]

First come, first served. If OP’s kid gets there first, she gets to choose which bed wants. Most people enjoy looking out a window when they study.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would say “sure no problem.” I would be a little annoyed but giving up the bed I want is not as bad as starting off in the wrong foot with somebody I have to live with. And it’s not a crazy request.

+1 Nothing to go to war over, and mommy needs to butt out.

Dp. Nowhere did op say she was going to get directly involved. Your comment was unnecessary. I do think roommate was rude in the way they made the request. Just because one thinks that doesnt mean anyone is "going to war" how absurd to even compare

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a suitemate one summer who laid claim to anything she saw that she wanted when entering the suite. She took the larger room, the popcorn popper someone left behind and proceeded to be a PITA for the rest of the summer. She was from NY and the rest of us West Coasters weren’t used to such aggressiveness. Suggest the “flip for it” response before the new roommate takes a mile.

That sounds really annoying but it’s quite a different situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised so many are against rooming together. I was in a triple and loved it! I'm an only child who always had my own bedroom and bath, but I thought it was an adventure. We also had a hall bath for the floor. I liked getting ready in there with all the girls. I'm 32 and I know things are changing though.

suites are the best case for freshman. Everyone gets their own bedroom, but a shared living area and bathroom between three bedrooms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think the substance of the request is off, given that the person was there and had it last time, but I do agree that the lack of plesantries or a friendly tone suggests that this will not be a great roomate experience. Who wants to live in a room with someone who is not especially friendly or warm?

In person I am friendly and warm, but sometimes I just bumble phone calls and emails and come off awkward and cold. I don’t know if you can say what her personality is like just from this one email.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think the substance of the request is off, given that the person was there and had it last time, but I do agree that the lack of plesantries or a friendly tone suggests that this will not be a great roomate experience. Who wants to live in a room with someone who is not especially friendly or warm?

I Agree! She could have said ....hello, looking forward to meeting you, fyi and a little awkward but I was given/ took/ won window spot for year but because of covid packed up in case of no return, my plan is to just move back to same spot so heads up in case you get there before me. It’s a great room/ warm room/ lots of sunlight room and I know you’ll be comfortable......

Some people are self-centered and do not communicate well. Tell dd to go along and look for single or roommate of choosing for future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would say “sure no problem.” I would be a little annoyed but giving up the bed I want is not as bad as starting off in the wrong foot with somebody I have to live with. And it’s not a crazy request.

+1 Nothing to go to war over, and mommy needs to butt out.

Dp. Nowhere did op say she was going to get directly involved. Your comment was unnecessary. I do think roommate was rude in the way they made the request. Just because one thinks that doesnt mean anyone is "going to war" how absurd to even compare

“Hi, I see we will be roommates for Spring Semester. I was on campus last semester and had the bed and desk by the window. For break I had to pack everything as we did not know if we would return to campus. I am not sure of your move in date, mine is ____. If you arrive before me can you please leave the bed and desk by the window for me to move into?”

Where's the rudeness, exactly? It's a reasonable request, and the roommate said please. OP's kid can say no, which is an option, but it will not be conducive to a pleasant living arrangement. And OP should butt out.

[Anonymous]

I don't think the substance of the request is off, given that the person was there and had it last time, but I do agree that the lack of plesantries or a friendly tone suggests that this will not be a great roomate experience. Who wants to live in a room with someone who is not especially friendly or warm?


In person I am friendly and warm, but sometimes I just bumble phone calls and emails and come off awkward and cold. I don’t know if you can say what her personality is like just from this one email.

Um, generally asking something about the new roomate (interests, major, anything at all) rather than just staing that you would like to have the bed and desk you had before, seems like basic courtesy and warmth. The email is bad.