New roommate emails to request they be given the desk and bed by the window. Wwyd?

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Haven’t read all the replies so sorry if already said but I would respond that that sounds good for quarter 3 and then we can switch for quarter 4. The person who shows up first doesn’t keep the best bed and desk for an entire semester or year.

[Anonymous]

OP, your “child” is now an adult and should be left to figure this out on his/her own.

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Anonymous wrote:What a pain in the neck for the roommate to pack everything up for winter break and the unpack it again.

Tell me about it. My kid is a freshman and had to pack and haul all his crap home from a double turned single for COVID. And back it goes next week. And he’s not great adapting to new environments kid. His school made a singles for the whole year COVID plan, so he’s safe. But otherwise, I could see getting “his” bed back being an issue. But, he’s an insomniac and found the bed he is comfortable in, and I can see it bothering him to have to change. Of course, in his case, he doesn’t want the one by the window because the outside courtyard can be loud at night. I can see him being flexible about his desk, certainly closet space, furnishings, how the room is arranged otherwise— pretty much anything else. Except the bed location. And, his bed isn’t even in a particularly amazing location in the room. So, I could see this being the hill he would die on.

All of which is to say, it is a more reasonable request if it’s her room from last semester, she only had to move out due to COVID, and she’s asking for the same piece of real estate she had. Because that’s the bed and desk she feels comfortable in. If the roommate is blocking all the natural light and that’s important to your kid, she should say so, and ask for an arrangement where her bed or desk has a window view. But, if she’s just pushing back to push back, why?

She should not pull the passive aggressive, email, what email? Stunt. Old enough to go to college means old enough to address problems head on.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do colleges insist on this outdated idea of roommates anyway? My eighth grader, who is an only child, insists that she would rather commute to George Mason when she is in college than share a room.

Are there schools where single rooms the norm, or at least a possibility for a freshman?

I hope your child is planning for a career field that will afford her the opportunity to live alone for the rest of her life.

Sharing an apartment is not the same as sharing a room.

And when she gets married?

Sharing a room with a stranger is not the same as sharing a room with your partner for life. Though she has said that she plans to never marry. Not all 13 year old girls are busy planning their weddings.

You seem to think that your 13 year old really has it all planned out. Take a break from the College Forum for a few years. Trust us, she'll change her mind about a lot of things.