New roommate emails to request they be given the desk and bed by the window. Wwyd?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP - your child missing out on being near the window is so less important than the damage you are doing by being this involved

Who's paying the room and board fees?

NP. I pay room and board, and yet I don't feel the need to help my kid decide on bed placement, or how to kindly respond to a very typical roommate email. Stupid, this isn't a college question.

Well I pay room and board, and helped my daughter create a schedule for the bathroom. I pay for it, the roommate should not be able to monopolize prime bathroom sink and mirror time simply because she set her alarm earlier.

Hilarious. Spot on, PP.

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Is taking a dump in a bad roommate's bed still a thing people do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - your child missing out on being near the window is so less important than the damage you are doing by being this involved

Who's paying the room and board fees?

NP. I pay room and board, and yet I don't feel the need to help my kid decide on bed placement, or how to kindly respond to a very typical roommate email. Stupid, this isn't a college question.

Well I pay room and board, and helped my daughter create a schedule for the bathroom. I pay for it, the roommate should not be able to monopolize prime bathroom sink and mirror time simply because she set her alarm earlier.

Touche! If I weren’t already married and an irredeemable slob, I’d love to have you as a roommate!

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Anonymous wrote:OP - your child missing out on being near the window is so less important than the damage you are doing by being this involved[/quote]

Not op. Op isn't involved in real life! She is just posting to see what others think and letting her dd take the charge. Good grief we need some entertainment that doesn't cause bodily harm.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a very small issue that your child should be able to navigate on their own.

Again, her dd is navigating this but, op is just polling us and trying to be entertaining! You don't like it ...no window for you!

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Anonymous wrote:This is a very small issue that your child should be able to navigate on their own.

Again, her dd is navigating this but, op is just polling us and trying to be entertaining! You don't like it ...no window for you!

The daughter is young and probably never in a situation like this. Personally, I'd have my daughter request a roommate change as this girl/boy sounds really obnoxious and it will never really be a shared room.

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I think it's a totally reasonable request, and I don't think there's anything wrong with the way the roommate worded it.

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So I think I am mostly team roommate on the grounds that if it weren't for COVID, she wouldn't have packed up, and OP's daughter would be moving into a partially filled room. I doubt she would feel it was appropriate to say, can we flip for the bed?

However, I am kind of curious as to how this whole situation developed. Was this a double and the roommate lucked into not having a roommate in the fall and got the place to herself? IS OP's daughter is arriving on campus for the first time or is she switching rooms for whatever reasons?

If it is the former situation, maybe the roommate could be a little more flexible since everything is all packed up anyways and they are kind of starting over.

Either way, it isn't that big a deal is it? Is the window even that desirable? Maybe it is too noisy or too cold or too light?

If it is a big deal, ignoring and taking what you want is definitely not the way to go. Just be honest and say, "Could we discuss how to set up the room once I'm there?"

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Sounds like the roommate has anxiety and/or OCD and is trying to keep her life in the same order, aka a Sheldon (see Big Bang Theory). OP’s daughter is not as easy-going as her mom, aka a Leonard, and must establish boundaries and negotiate in order for the arrangement to work out. Seems like a excellent life lesson for both. Butt out mom.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the roommate has anxiety and/or OCD and is trying to keep her life in the same order, aka a Sheldon (see Big Bang Theory). OP’s daughter is not as easy-going as her mom, aka a Leonard, and must establish boundaries and negotiate in order for the arrangement to work out. Seems like a excellent life lesson for both. Butt out mom.

Sounds like you watch too much tv.

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Anonymous wrote:I also think it is possible the person’s previous roommate may have been difficult- hence the mid-year vacancy.

Or the Bedkeeper was the difficult one and the previous roommate fled. For all we know, Bedkeeper didn't actually have the bed by the window and is lying because she wanted it.

That said, I think pushing back against this is only going to make things worse. But maybe that's a lesson OP's daughter needs to learn for herself.

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Are you still reading this, OP?

The dorm rooms are so small that it doesn’t matter who is by the window because the natural light reaches all over the room. Also, the one by the window hears more outdoor noise when trying to sleep.

Tell dd to let her roommate have the window.

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It’s an obnoxious and self centered request. “I’d like the better space for myself !” DC needs to stand up for this now as there will be more coming.
No, that won’t work for me. We can flip for it when I get there. This is an obnoxious roommate. More to come. How things start is often how thing end.
Signed
3 through college already.

[Anonymous]

It’s completely unreasonable. They pack up their stuff every year/semester. It’s normal. You don’t get to say I had the better space before and I want it now too. Selfish and self centered roommate. Possible to request someone else ?

[Anonymous]

try to get assigned to another room, D had a roommate like this and was bullied all year