New roommate emails to request they be given the desk and bed by the window. Wwyd?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s completely unreasonable. They pack up their stuff every year/semester. It’s normal. You don’t get to say I had the better space before and I want it now too. Selfish and self centered roommate. Possible to request someone else ?

Nobody packs up everything and completely vacates the room between semesters. At the end of the year, sure. But in December you still leave stuff there when you know you're coming back aka when we're not in a pandemic scenario with so many unknowns, including when students return to campus.

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If after looking at social media and the email if there is a possible out for DD I would take that. It’s hard enough to share those tiny rooms without having selfish drama queen as roommate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s completely unreasonable. They pack up their stuff every year/semester. It’s normal. You don’t get to say I had the better space before and I want it now too. Selfish and self centered roommate. Possible to request someone else ?

Nobody packs up everything and completely vacates the room between semesters. At the end of the year, sure. But in December you still leave stuff there when you know you're coming back aka when we're not in a pandemic scenario with so many unknowns, including when students return to campus.

Yes there are strict requirements to move out at many schools. Not usually at a semester break but it’s temporary housing. Moving out is expected.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do colleges insist on this outdated idea of roommates anyway? My eighth grader, who is an only child, insists that she would rather commute to George Mason when she is in college than share a room.

Are there schools where single rooms the norm, or at least a possibility for a freshman?

I hope your child is planning for a career field that will afford her the opportunity to live alone for the rest of her life.

Sharing an apartment is not the same as sharing a room.

And when she gets married?

DP. Do you think sharing a room with someone you've chosen to spend the rest of your life with is the same as sharing a room with a random stranger

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Jesus Christ. This conversation is still happening?

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Your kid is an adult. Did the roommate contact you? Let your kid figure it out. Do you go to the cafeteria and cut her food for her too?

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People are focusing on the request, but I think the real issue is the lack of pleasantries - no effort at all to be friendly to a roommate they have never even met. I'd call housing and see about a switch.

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Such snowflakes
Your kids needs to learn to deal with all kinds of people. And yeah, some aren't going to be their favorites. But there may be surprising positives ... maybe the roommate is odd BUT maybe they're clean. Maybe they aren't a partier. Maybe they won't have a boyfriend sleeping over.

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Anonymous wrote:That would likely annoy both my child and me. Why should one person get to make unilateral decisions when there is a roommate? I agree with the flip for it idea.

They're not making a unilateral decision. They are making a request. Some people don't care about the window. I wouldn't.

I am very sensitive to light and would prefer to sleep *away* from the window. However, it sounds like the kids are spending more time in their rooms this year. Can the room be rearranged so that the desks are by the window, and the beds aren’t?

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's a totally reasonable request, and I don't think there's anything wrong with the way the roommate worded it.

I agree and I really am out off by OP’s daughter who sounds really rigid and judgmental and immature herself.

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It's a gat dang dorm room. Most are like 150 square feet, if that. There won't be a frigg'n bit of difference in how much "natural light" shines on one desk versus the other, since they'll only be a few feet apart regardless of which has the coveted window location. Both parties need to chill.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s completely unreasonable. They pack up their stuff every year/semester. It’s normal. You don’t get to say I had the better space before and I want it now too. Selfish and self centered roommate. Possible to request someone else ?

Nobody packs up everything and completely vacates the room between semesters. At the end of the year, sure. But in December you still leave stuff there when you know you're coming back aka when we're not in a pandemic scenario with so many unknowns, including when students return to campus.

Yes some schools have demanded a complete pack out. They are sanitizing over winter break due to COVID.
But there are red flags all over this pairing including her previous roommate left her. It’s your DDs college experience also. If there is a way to change do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you still reading this, OP?

The dorm rooms are so small that it doesn’t matter who is by the window because the natural light reaches all over the room. Also, the one by the window hears more outdoor noise when trying to sleep.

Tell dd to let her roommate have the window.

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Has your daughter seen the room, OP? If not, this could all be a debate over nothing and the window side may be the worse one. My freshman year roommate got the window bed by virtue of getting there first. I was relieved — not sure what made it desirable, since we faced a brick wall and it was often really cold by the window in the winter.

The email sounds fine, IMO. I had a full-on email exchange full of pleasantries with a different roommate and ended up moving out 2 weeks later because she was very controlling and hard to live with, despite the “OMG hey girly pop love you can’t wait to room together xoxo!!!” tone a lot of PPs seem to want. Tone is difficult to read over the Internet, anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s completely unreasonable. They pack up their stuff every year/semester. It’s normal. You don’t get to say I had the better space before and I want it now too. Selfish and self centered roommate. Possible to request someone else ?

Nobody packs up everything and completely vacates the room between semesters. At the end of the year, sure. But in December you still leave stuff there when you know you're coming back aka when we're not in a pandemic scenario with so many unknowns, including when students return to campus.

Yes some schools have demanded a complete pack out. They are sanitizing over winter break due to COVID.
But there are red flags all over this pairing including her previous roommate left her. It’s your DDs college experience also. If there is a way to change do it.

Her previous roommate may not have left her, it is also possible the roommate never materialized and she had the room to herself in the fall. I think PP's daughter has shown a few red flags herself - stalking on instagram and jumping to judgements about personality, what happened to her fall rooming placement?

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In DD’s room there are no outlets on the exterior wall so she happily took the side opposite the window!