Is this abuse? Whom is the abuser?

[Anonymous]

This whole thing is effed up. I hope y’all don’t have kids.

[Anonymous]

Women can’t be abusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women can’t be abusive.

This isn't true at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Re: if kicking is abusive, I’m just not sure OP is a reliable narrator here. Very normal when a spouse gently “kicks” to alert the other spouse that their alarm is going off. OP is clearly the person ignoring the alarm and wants to build a case that this is abuse but I sure wouldn’t want to tell a family court judge that the abuse started with alarm clock kick-nudges.

This was not a “gentle kick.” It was full in violent kicking trying to push me from the bed while hurling expletives at me. So, I did act in self defense to stop the kicking and get out.

How does throwing an alarm clock lead to you getting out of bed? If you got out of bed, and this person pursued you, then yes, throw something, but that doesn't sound like that's what happened.

You both sounds abusive. I hope there are no children involved.

[Anonymous]

I was out of bed when spouse threw the alarm clock. Reading comprehension people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was out of bed when spouse threw the alarm clock. Reading comprehension people.

Men should never put hands on a woman violently. Dw is abusive and you are, too.

[Anonymous]

OMG. OP, you realize that your spouse is on this thread abusing you here as well. Complete, anonymous stranger here, yes, she is abusive. I would leave if I were you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was out of bed when spouse threw the alarm clock. Reading comprehension people.

I am actually really confused by your story.

Who kicked who, and who threw the alarm clock at who? If the same person did both the kicking and the alarm clock throwing, then that person is the abuser. But you made it sound as though the alarm clock was thrown in retaliation for the kicking.

[Anonymous]

Perdón kicking did the throwing too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was out of bed when spouse threw the alarm clock. Reading comprehension people.

Have you called the police yet?

[Anonymous]

Something tells me this is the same OP who has been posting about issues with his wife for at least a decade. His original reason for not leaving was because of the daughter. Now the daughter is in college. So what's your reason for not leaving now OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was out of bed when spouse threw the alarm clock. Reading comprehension people.

1. Your writing isn't clear.


2. Why would your spouse throw the alarm clock at you if it wasn't going off? Why wouldn't you shut it off as soon as you got out of bed and finally



3. When did your phone change to a clock was that before or after you got out of bed?

[Anonymous]

She threw the alarm clock and hit him in the face with it. That's HIS fault?

[Anonymous]

Isn’t it “who” is the abuser?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She threw the alarm clock and hit him in the face with it. That's HIS fault?

OP can't seem to recall if it's a phone or a clock. I'd rather that is clarified first. Trolling is one thing, but I don't care for people who lie about abuse for attentionl