Is this abuse? Whom is the abuser?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, the wife who shoots her husband in self defense because he’s hitting her us abusive too. I believe the aggressor - the one who strikes first is the abuser - not the person striking back in self defense.

If you're going by that then OP is just as guilty. She kicked him. He grabbed her foot hard enough to bruise she threw a clock to stop him from grabbing her. At some point OP got out of bed it;s not clear if this was before or after the pinching/ kicking sequence.

[Anonymous]

Click was thrown after I got out of bed. Spouse went to the bathroom, came back and threw it. I’d like to divorce her, but cannot come up with the retainer for a lawyer unless I stop paying the mortgage.

[Anonymous]

I hate to say your a troll because of the seriousness of this matter, and I hope nobody would troll on such a thing. Jeff has banned people for less.

But this has all the hallmarks of a troll post. 1) a dramatic title 2) OP coming back and changing and adding details to the story to fit a particular narrative.



If you are trolling I think you should drop this thread now and let it fade into oblivion.

If you are not use one of the resources listed in the thread they can help you sort out legal fees.

[Anonymous]

Thank you. I will do that. I just needed to vent a bit.

[Anonymous]

OP I think she is abusive, but I have two questions:

1) why didn’t you just get out of bed instead of grabbing her ankle so hard that it left a bruise? This is very wrong of you... she might have started, but her kicks did not hurt as much as your ankle grabbing so you definitely escalated and became violent

2) when she threw the alarm clock, was the light on? Was she aiming at you/your face? Not that throwing something hard anywhere is right, but if she threw something bf without looking, you got hit by accidents. Still wrong and she should apologize... as you should apologize for hurting her ankle

[Anonymous]

English, please.

[Anonymous]

Holy sh$t. I’ve been on DCUM forever and this is the craziest-as$ thread I’ve seen in a long time. Like totally nutso. Happy New Year!

[Anonymous]

He sucks. The clock didn't got you hard enough.

[Anonymous]

You are both abusive and moronic. I hope you do not procreate or adopt pets/plants/humans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whats confusing?

1. OP’s phone alarm went off. He
Turned it off.

2. It went off a second time. Spouse goes starts kicking him. He used defensive love to stop the assault.

3. OP gets up out of bed and spouse wings an alarm clock at him, hitting him in the face.

Where did the alarm clock come from if the alarm was on his phone???

This doesn’t add up. I don’t know anyone who has an alarm clock and still uses a phone alarm. Makes no sense. It’s like having Spotify and a Walkman.

Are you dense?

Op uses his phone. His wife has an alarm clock. Which she threw at him, hitting him in the face.

Maybe you are OP's spouse.

Op - I think you need to leave.