At what age would you let your children's boyfriends/girlfriends to sleep over?

[Anonymous]

20

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not be okay with it ever. I am in my early 40s. My kids are in elementary.

I have to agree with the above poster, elementary school is too young to be sharing a bed together.

[Anonymous]

DW here. My in laws let me start sleeping over in DHs bed when we were 18. I was SHOCKED because that would never fly with my parents. I slept there pretty much every weekend, lied to my parents, and MIL and I always cooked Sunday morning breakfast together. 20 years later I still love my in laws dearly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My senior year of HS I had been dating a girl for about a year. Her parents let me sleep over (in the basement guest room) a few times when it was snowing so I didn't have to drive in the dark and snow.

I won't even mention what we got up to.

My daughter will not be having sleepovers.

I curious. You did this. Right?
And presumably you both enjoyed it and no one got hurt?
But you definitely don’t want to let your daughter do it. Because why?
Why was it ok for you to do it but not your daughter?

Because I ejaculated in her- sans protection- probably 100 times. We were idiotic, impulse driven, consequence blind 17 year olds. It's only dumb luck that I didn't get her pregnant.

[Anonymous]

If you force the kids to hide in order to have sex (which they will do anyway)- they're more likely to not want evidence (used condom) that you can find. I'd rather let them sleep over and tell my kid that I'm not ready to be a grandparent yet

[Anonymous]

Never.
Maybe once engaged. Otherwise the guys in the couch, alone.

[Anonymous]

Probably 16. As soon as you can drive, you're having sex somewhere. I'd rather it be in my house instead of the middle of a gun-owning farmer's field or other random places like I did with my girlfriend at that age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who think they can control whether or not other people have sex in their house are crazy. My DH and I almost always have sex when we stay in someone else's house. It's new and exciting!

Because married adults are exactly the same as college students who are your kids. 🙄🙄🙄

[Anonymous]

You are still viewing yourself as the parent of a child, but she is an adult now.

And therefore she can understand, and comply with, the rules you set in your house.

[Anonymous]

18

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People who think they can control whether or not other people have sex in their house are crazy. My DH and I almost always have sex when we stay in someone else's house. It's new and exciting!

Because married adults are exactly the same as college students who are your kids. 🙄🙄🙄

It’s still all about control. Ask yourself why you need to control other people’s sexuality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You are still viewing yourself as the parent of a child, but she is an adult now.

And therefore she can understand, and comply with, the rules you set in your house.

So no adults can have sex in your house except for you?

[Anonymous]

Hotel Gift Card time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You are still viewing yourself as the parent of a child, but she is an adult now.

And therefore she can understand, and comply with, the rules you set in your house.

So no adults can have sex in your house except for you?

If the rule is “unmarried adults don’t have sex”, it is what it is.
If the rule is “my unmarried daughter doesn’t have sex”, it is what it is.

Everyone is entitled to make their own house rules, and need not justify them to anyone.

[Anonymous]

21 is fine.