Girlfriend Cheated On Me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I got more information from her. He was a guy she was interested in but it never worked out. They had sex once before we had sex ( we had sex a week later on fifth date) and she said she realized she was more into me and wanted to only date me. It was within the first month and we were not exclusive. I’m going to move forward with her but I’m not proposing when I had planned. I think I’m going to give it more time and see how things go before I make any more decisions about it.

OP, now you are thinking rationally. Would not be surprised if this subject comes up a couple of more times? We don't know her, we're not in your shoes. Sounds like you have been very excited about this girl.

My two cents, I wouldn't necessarily call this cheating, but more something on the borderline that raises an eyebrow. The question is, can you get over it, not what she tells you.

[Anonymous]

So you're going to be hanging out with a dude who's banged your wife? No brah, just no.

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t sound like she cheated on you. It sounds like she realized that she was interested in you and quickly dropped the other guy. At your age I would think that you probably know already if she is right for you or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I got more information from her. He was a guy she was interested in but it never worked out. They had sex once before we had sex ( we had sex a week later on fifth date) and she said she realized she was more into me and wanted to only date me. It was within the first month and we were not exclusive. I’m going to move forward with her but I’m not proposing when I had planned. I think I’m going to give it more time and see how things go before I make any more decisions about it.

With this new information you should definitely move on, ut you won't you'll get married, have a couple of kids and she will actually cheat on you with her dream guy all why she complains about how you aren't good enough as a husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I got more information from her. He was a guy she was interested in but it never worked out. They had sex once before we had sex ( we had sex a week later on fifth date) and she said she realized she was more into me and wanted to only date me. It was within the first month and we were not exclusive. I’m going to move forward with her but I’m not proposing when I had planned. I think I’m going to give it more time and see how things go before I make any more decisions about it.

You should break up with her so she can find a real man who is not so whiny. You had only been on 4 dates! You can.’the even remember if you were exclusive yet! Geez...I think this is a troll. No 37 year old could sound this immature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I got more information from her. He was a guy she was interested in but it never worked out. They had sex once before we had sex ( we had sex a week later on fifth date) and she said she realized she was more into me and wanted to only date me. It was within the first month and we were not exclusive. I’m going to move forward with her but I’m not proposing when I had planned. I think I’m going to give it more time and see how things go before I make any more decisions about it.

This seems totally normal. She was dating multiple people and chose you. What’s the issue?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I got more information from her. He was a guy she was interested in but it never worked out. They had sex once before we had sex ( we had sex a week later on fifth date) and she said she realized she was more into me and wanted to only date me. It was within the first month and we were not exclusive. I’m going to move forward with her but I’m not proposing when I had planned. I think I’m going to give it more time and see how things go before I make any more decisions about it.

With this new information you should definitely move on, ut you won't you'll get married, have a couple of kids and she will actually cheat on you with her dream guy all why she complains about how you aren't good enough as a husband.

She didn’t cheat on him. She slept with the other dude before him. Other dude could have been her soulmate. He wasn’t. Now she knows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I got more information from her. He was a guy she was interested in but it never worked out. They had sex once before we had sex ( we had sex a week later on fifth date) and she said she realized she was more into me and wanted to only date me. It was within the first month and we were not exclusive. I’m going to move forward with her but I’m not proposing when I had planned. I think I’m going to give it more time and see how things go before I make any more decisions about it.

LOL she’s totally lying to you, dude. Trying to minimize it so you won’t dump her skanky ass. But go ahead and believe her if that’s what you need to do to feel ok about getting cucked.

[Anonymous]

What you have described is not cheating it's called dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What you have described is not cheating it's called dating.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She didn't tell you about it, she says it was a mistake. You are at the beginning of the relationship, nah, I would move on, she's a cheater.

If you think about it she was screwing around on you up to 2 months in and you have been dating for 9 months. So you are looking at getting engaged to someone who you have really been dating exclusively for 7 months. This is way too soon anyway.

If you do decide to stay and I get the feeling you will, I would put off ALL talk of engagements until you have dated her at least 2 years. However she won't tell you she has cheated in that time as she has already shown you she can lie about that sort of thing. Good luck.

If you think about it she dated you for two months before she decided that she knew you well enough to stop seeing other people.

FFS, give a woman some agency in life. I may like you, think you’re sexy, smart or whatever, but you can still be a dick, have different life goals, different beliefs about family and parenting, etc., and I can’t tell about any of that until we’ve spent some time together. I’m not going to give up dating in two months. Especially, not if we haven’t had a very specific and memorable conversation where you’ve explained that you want to be exclusive and why, i.e. what your relationship goals are.

If you’re not even sure that you were exclusive at that point, then you’re just treating her as damaged goods because you found out she slept with another guy. m

Shame on you for your misogyny. If you want to mark your territory, go piss on a tree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“If the tables were turned I wouldn't let this one thing from those early days”

LOL yeah I’m sure you wouldn’t be outraged at all to find out a guy was banging some other chick for two months while he was dating you. 🙄

OP here. She only slept with him once.

I wouldn’t believe she only slept with him once. Do what you want. But it wasn’t once.

[Anonymous]

You sound super insecure, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I got more information from her. He was a guy she was interested in but it never worked out. They had sex once before we had sex ( we had sex a week later on fifth date) and she said she realized she was more into me and wanted to only date me. It was within the first month and we were not exclusive. I’m going to move forward with her but I’m not proposing when I had planned. I think I’m going to give it more time and see how things go before I make any more decisions about it.

You weren’t exclusive, it sounds like she knew the other guy possibly before you, she didn’t sleep with him after she slept with you (which technically even if she did it wouldn’t have been cheating if you weren’t exclusive), she choose you AND stopped seeing the other guy early on. You had the story confirmations by a friend that she broke it off with the other guy early on and said she was serious about someone else. While it would be lovely if everyone knew after the first date that the wanted to be exclusive, reality is you my not know who you want to date exclusively after the first date and you don’t know who wants to date you exclusively.

She didn’t cheat. She just didn’t feel as strongly about you as you did about her within the first few dates before you decided to be exclusive and while that stings but she got there in a matter of what 2 weeks later and picked you over someone she had been thinking about for awhile. With all the stuff going on in the world, you shouldn’t take love or your time together for granted. Either you want to build a life with her or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I got more information from her. He was a guy she was interested in but it never worked out. They had sex once before we had sex ( we had sex a week later on fifth date) and she said she realized she was more into me and wanted to only date me. It was within the first month and we were not exclusive. I’m going to move forward with her but I’m not proposing when I had planned. I think I’m going to give it more time and see how things go before I make any more decisions about it.

You weren’t exclusive, it sounds like she knew the other guy possibly before you, she didn’t sleep with him after she slept with you (which technically even if she did it wouldn’t have been cheating if you weren’t exclusive), she choose you AND stopped seeing the other guy early on. You had the story confirmations by a friend that she broke it off with the other guy early on and said she was serious about someone else. While it would be lovely if everyone knew after the first date that the wanted to be exclusive, reality is you my not know who you want to date exclusively after the first date and you don’t know who wants to date you exclusively.

She didn’t cheat. She just didn’t feel as strongly about you as you did about her within the first few dates before you decided to be exclusive and while that stings but she got there in a matter of what 2 weeks later and picked you over someone she had been thinking about for awhile. With all the stuff going on in the world, you shouldn’t take love or your time together for granted. Either you want to build a life with her or not.

OP doesn’t deserve her. If they do end up together, he will always throw it in her face what a “whore” she was at the beginning of their relationship. OP, break up with her and let her find someone more mature than you.