Girlfriend Cheated On Me

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. I recently found out she slept with someone else early on in our relationship. I confronted her and she admitted to it. She said it was a mistake and she didn’t tell me because she was worried I would not want to pursue a relationship with her. It was in the first two months together. I can’t remember if we were exclusive at that point, but I know I stopped seeing others after the first couple of dates. I’m angry and hurt. She said she has regretted it and it has never happened again. She is afraid to lose me.

I planned to propose soon. We are talking about her moving in once her lease is up at the end of the year. It’s very serious and I feel like she is it for me. Now I don’t know what to do. We have had the best year together and now I’m wonder if that’s all a lie. I wonder if I can trust her. I don’t know if I should forgive her and move forward or breakup.

[Anonymous]

Move on.

[Anonymous]

It’s not all a lie. You don’t even know if you were exclusive. Think about what you have now big things are good during Covid then you should be good to go. Put this out of your head and move ahead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. I recently found out she slept with someone else early on in our relationship. I confronted her and she admitted to it. She said it was a mistake and she didn’t tell me because she was worried I would not want to pursue a relationship with her. It was in the first two months together. I can’t remember if we were exclusive at that point, but I know I stopped seeing others after the first couple of dates. I’m angry and hurt. She said she has regretted it and it has never happened again. She is afraid to lose me.

I planned to propose soon. We are talking about her moving in once her lease is up at the end of the year. It’s very serious and I feel like she is it for me. Now I don’t know what to do. We have had the best year together and now I’m wonder if that’s all a lie. I wonder if I can trust her. I don’t know if I should forgive her and move forward or breakup.

You seem like someone who can’t forgive. If you can’t, move on. I think what she did is forgivable but you’re framing it in the worst ways possible and it’s telling.

[Anonymous]

How did you find out?

[Anonymous]

you need to remember if you were exclusive.

[Anonymous]

To be fair, she clearly didn’t care that much about the other guy since she didn’t break up with you to go out with him instead. She stayed with you, even after straying one time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be fair, she clearly didn’t care that much about the other guy since she didn’t break up with you to go out with him instead. She stayed with you, even after straying one time.

But she also wasn’t into him enough to not have sex with someone else.

It’s super painful but I think he should break it off because the memory
will never go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did you find out?

OP here. My buddy’s co-worker is the guy. They were hanging out and he saw pics of all of us together and asked who I was. He told my friend that they had a one time thing but she stopped talking to him after she met someone she was serious about. I don’t really know the exact time they slept together but I know it was within the first two months.

[Anonymous]

Gotta pull the plug, man. Doesn’t matter if you had “agreed to be exclusive” or not. If she were genuinely into you, she wouldn’t have done that whether or not you had any such agreement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did you find out?

OP here. My buddy’s co-worker is the guy. They were hanging out and he saw pics of all of us together and asked who I was. He told my friend that they had a one time thing but she stopped talking to him after she met someone she was serious about. I don’t really know the exact time they slept together but I know it was within the first two months.

You are focused on the wrong things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did you find out?

OP here. My buddy’s co-worker is the guy. They were hanging out and he saw pics of all of us together and asked who I was. He told my friend that they had a one time thing but she stopped talking to him after she met someone she was serious about. I don’t really know the exact time they slept together but I know it was within the first two months.

Dude. She dumped the other guy for you. What’s the problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did you find out?

OP here. My buddy’s co-worker is the guy. They were hanging out and he saw pics of all of us together and asked who I was. He told my friend that they had a one time thing but she stopped talking to him after she met someone she was serious about. I don’t really know the exact time they slept together but I know it was within the first two months.

You are focused on the wrong things.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did you find out?

OP here. My buddy’s co-worker is the guy. They were hanging out and he saw pics of all of us together and asked who I was. He told my friend that they had a one time thing but she stopped talking to him after she met someone she was serious about. I don’t really know the exact time they slept together but I know it was within the first two months.

You are focused on the wrong things.

DP but curious what you mean? I don’t understand what you mean at all. I’m sure OP won’t understand either.

[Anonymous]

Dump her