Sideline Karens

[Anonymous]

Your spouse has issues and you are enabling them. It will affect your relationship with your child.

[Anonymous]

You and your spouse sound awful. I can't believe you would think this is somehow the fault of the club or people who overheard your DH.

Low class.

[Anonymous]

How humiliating to be married to such an @ss. You are both gross. What makes you think you can sit on the sidelines of a game for children and shout criticism?

Also, if he is wearing a mask as he should be, how can anyone hear him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just started travel this year, so maybe my expectations are off. Wanted to get a gut check:

Spouse gets a little enthusiastic on the sidelines. Never calls out any individual player by name (other than our kid), but may call out if the defense or offense is lacking. Nothing mean-spirited, mostly encouragement. Sure, there were also some private parent-to-parent conversations on the sideline that may have been more critical, but nothing loud enough for a player or even another parent in the stands to hear . . . unless they were eavesdropping.

Yesterday, after the tournament weekend, spouse gets a call from the OWNER of the club dressing him down for his sideline behavior. Another parent on the team got the same call. I would have thought adults could have a conversation with each other, or even with the coach, before involving the owner of the entire organization.

IS THIS NORMAL?

No. This is disgraceful. I would immediately remove your kid from the team and find a club that will welcome your family as you deserve. Sideline input from parents is very important for for the growth of the kids - and its especially important that they get feedback from parents who are not their own parents because their own parents tend to have trouble seeing the faults in their own kids' abilities. Wherever you go you should encourage your DH to carry on providing input. Some other parents may initially resist but they will come around as they see their kids improve as a consequence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just started travel this year, so maybe my expectations are off. Wanted to get a gut check:

Spouse gets a little enthusiastic on the sidelines. Never calls out any individual player by name (other than our kid), but may call out if the defense or offense is lacking. Nothing mean-spirited, mostly encouragement. Sure, there were also some private parent-to-parent conversations on the sideline that may have been more critical, but nothing loud enough for a player or even another parent in the stands to hear . . . unless they were eavesdropping.

Yesterday, after the tournament weekend, spouse gets a call from the OWNER of the club dressing him down for his sideline behavior. Another parent on the team got the same call. I would have thought adults could have a conversation with each other, or even with the coach, before involving the owner of the entire organization.

IS THIS NORMAL?

Why on God's earth would you and your spouse think it's okay to have a "private parent-to-parent conversations on the sideline that may have been more critical"? What kind of people think like this and then are stupid enough to say this stuff out loud?

[Anonymous]

Considering you are just starting out with travel is it probably best to train yourselves not to direct from the sidelines. The kids need to learn to make decisions on their own and as they get older they will really dislike and even be embarrassed by it. Also, if your child sticks with soccer and eventually goes through the recruiting process, college coaches are listening and watching parents behavior.

It is definitely hard to stay quiet at times especially if your child is being fouled or gets hurt!

[Anonymous]

your dh is a bully and a douche bag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just started travel this year, so maybe my expectations are off. Wanted to get a gut check:

Spouse gets a little enthusiastic on the sidelines. Never calls out any individual player by name (other than our kid), but may call out if the defense or offense is lacking. Nothing mean-spirited, mostly encouragement. Sure, there were also some private parent-to-parent conversations on the sideline that may have been more critical, but nothing loud enough for a player or even another parent in the stands to hear . . . unless they were eavesdropping.

Yesterday, after the tournament weekend, spouse gets a call from the OWNER of the club dressing him down for his sideline behavior. Another parent on the team got the same call. I would have thought adults could have a conversation with each other, or even with the coach, before involving the owner of the entire organization.

IS THIS NORMAL?

No. This is disgraceful. I would immediately remove your kid from the team and find a club that will welcome your family as you deserve. Sideline input from parents is very important for for the growth of the kids - and its especially important that they get feedback from parents who are not their own parents because their own parents tend to have trouble seeing the faults in their own kids' abilities. Wherever you go you should encourage your DH to carry on providing input. Some other parents may initially resist but they will come around as they see their kids improve as a consequence.

Yes, please pull your kid from this club. We don't want you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just started travel this year, so maybe my expectations are off. Wanted to get a gut check:

Spouse gets a little enthusiastic on the sidelines. Never calls out any individual player by name (other than our kid), but may call out if the defense or offense is lacking. Nothing mean-spirited, mostly encouragement. Sure, there were also some private parent-to-parent conversations on the sideline that may have been more critical, but nothing loud enough for a player or even another parent in the stands to hear . . . unless they were eavesdropping.

Yesterday, after the tournament weekend, spouse gets a call from the OWNER of the club dressing him down for his sideline behavior. Another parent on the team got the same call. I would have thought adults could have a conversation with each other, or even with the coach, before involving the owner of the entire organization.

IS THIS NORMAL?

No. This is disgraceful. I would immediately remove your kid from the team and find a club that will welcome your family as you deserve. Sideline input from parents is very important for for the growth of the kids - and its especially important that they get feedback from parents who are not their own parents because their own parents tend to have trouble seeing the faults in their own kids' abilities. Wherever you go you should encourage your DH to carry on providing input. Some other parents may initially resist but they will come around as they see their kids improve as a consequence.

Troll and/or idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:your dh is a bully and a douche bag.

Your DH lacked judgement but I fault you more than him. He wasn't thinking about his behavior and mouthing off. You on the other hand had time to reflect especially given that the owner talked to your DH about the problem so you should have understood the seriousness of the infraction. Instead you have the gall to come on here acting like you are aggrieved?

Gross is right.

[Anonymous]

Curious how clearly op and her dh are actual Karents in this situation, but decided, in a typical Karen fashion, that they are the victims!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just started travel this year, so maybe my expectations are off. Wanted to get a gut check:

Spouse gets a little enthusiastic on the sidelines. Never calls out any individual player by name (other than our kid), but may call out if the defense or offense is lacking. Nothing mean-spirited, mostly encouragement. Sure, there were also some private parent-to-parent conversations on the sideline that may have been more critical, but nothing loud enough for a player or even another parent in the stands to hear . . . unless they were eavesdropping.

Yesterday, after the tournament weekend, spouse gets a call from the OWNER of the club dressing him down for his sideline behavior. Another parent on the team got the same call. I would have thought adults could have a conversation with each other, or even with the coach, before involving the owner of the entire organization.

IS THIS NORMAL?

No. This is disgraceful. I would immediately remove your kid from the team and find a club that will welcome your family as you deserve. Sideline input from parents is very important for for the growth of the kids - and its especially important that they get feedback from parents who are not their own parents because their own parents tend to have trouble seeing the faults in their own kids' abilities. Wherever you go you should encourage your DH to carry on providing input. Some other parents may initially resist but they will come around as they see their kids improve as a consequence.

[Anonymous]

Op, all that matters is the coach thought it was too much

I would have asked if that was the coache's personal opinion, or an opinoin of some other parent. Regardless, a request has now been made by the coach, and it needs to be honored.

It may be that your DH is affecting the general mood, negatively affecting morale, being too authoratative.

[Anonymous]

In summary of all of the above:

Shush your mouth and watch the game.

[Anonymous]

I think you and your husband should keep popping off at the games so we can read about your drama.