Ex never, ever goes away.

[Anonymous]

I know it is hard OP and change sucks but you have to leave him. He is not in a good place and you deserve to be happy in a healthy, trusting relationship. This is not it, he is not the one.
Move on, do it for you. YOU DESERVE BETTER.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Does he have kids with her?

OP: Nope, no kids, so all contact is totally by choice.

PP here. Dump him. I was giving the benefit of the doubt, but dude has issues.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Does he have kids with her?

OP: Nope, no kids, so all contact is totally by choice.

PP here. Dump him. I was giving the benefit of the doubt, but dude has issues.

+1

Yeahhhh I'm not one to usually say DTMF but seriously. Dump him.

[Anonymous]

DTMFA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am getting divorced from a man who cheated on me with men, and it doesn't negate that we have grown up together and will always be friends. We've had a terrible sex life forever (duh), and we have no desire to have sex again. All these paranoid PPs who can't fathom a friendship with the ex -- what kind of weak emotional connection did they have that they cant fathom this? Hes been hiding his phone because he knows youre irrational about this. Team boyfriend all the way. But you should break up because you aren't mature or intuitive enough to understand such a relationship.

He cheated on you but you’re still the best of friends? You’re not mature, you’re a doormat.

[Anonymous]

OP, they've been divorced FIVE years. If its such a great, on the level friendship, why aren't you included in it? Dont believe anyone who tries to convince you that you are the problem/jealous/etc.

Its fine for someone to be friends with their ex, OUT IN THE OPEN, preferably after everyone has moved on.

He's in another relatinship with her.Dont marry this guy!!! Just end it now.

The fact that he continues to put you through this is so awful. He still considers his relationship with his ex wife more important than with the woman he claims he wants to marry. What he is telling you has less to do with his ex or his feelings toward her and more about his character and emotional maturity in general. Healthy people ready for a relationship dont need to keep in constant touch with their ex if they dont have kids together.

[Anonymous]

Why have you settled for this for 2.5 years?

[Anonymous]

DTMF

[Anonymous]

We are both adults, too old for childish games. I cannot tell you what to do or how to behave, but I can tell you how your actions make me feel, and what they make me think. In my opinion, your attachment with your ex-wife is unhealthy, and limits any growth we could have for the things we discuss about a future. If we cannot get on the same page about this, then it is only fair we be honest about how far this can go. I’m 33, and AMA is 24 months away. If we are not on the same timeline, or we do not respect the same boundaries,it is only fair to open the door to other options. I love you enough to let you go, but I love myself enough to not compromise on what is best for me and my future family.


And leave it at that. But I sense he is going to give lip service and get better at hiding. I would probably leave if he didn’t initiate things to show I could trust him.

Do they have children together?

yeah, except, she already told him this. more than once. And he swore he was not talking to his ex. So on top of everything, he's lied.

No more chances. How long will it take him to go back to his ex (in some fashion or other) once OP dumps him? a day?

[Anonymous]

He needs to break up with you ASAP you sound like ... well let's just say you are the jealous type and will never be able to let adults who have children be adults who have children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He needs to break up with you ASAP you sound like ... well let's just say you are the jealous type and will never be able to let adults who have children be adults who have children.

OP: They have no children together. None.

[Anonymous]

You’ve dealt with this for 2.5 years? Why?? He’s obviously still not over her and you have put up with this for WAY TOO LONG. move on.

[Anonymous]

Even if they had kids together, there is no reason to continue this type of and theis level of communication.

I'll Echo the others and say, dump him. In the future do not convince a man to make you his priority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why have you settled for this for 2.5 years?

He lied to her. Read up.

[Anonymous]

Hate a liar