Should I have a come to Jesus talk with my friend about her dislike for public schools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are wrong and your friend is right.

the I've got mine attitude and who cares about other kids is insanely disordered.

You need to do some serious introspection and perhaps some therapy to understand why you are so incredibly selfish.

Did you also go to a very highly rated public school because being selfish is definitely a bi-product of segregation.

Right, because private school have always been known as bastions of inclusion. Ha!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are wrong and your friend is right.

the I've got mine attitude and who cares about other kids is insanely disordered.

You need to do some serious introspection and perhaps some therapy to understand why you are so incredibly selfish.

Did you also go to a very highly rated public school because being selfish is definitely a bi-product of segregation.

+1 You aren’t an equality warrior if your kids go to Whitman or Langley. Sorry.

Right, but her friend doesn't look hypocritical at all sending her kids to private, does she.

[Anonymous]

Strikes me that the issue is not so much that she hates public schools, it's that she goes on rants and tells people how to live their lives which would be annoying and unpleasant regardless of the subject. If you're going to talk to her, I'd focus not on whether she is right or not but that her behavior is rude and puts people off.

[Anonymous]

I hope your children learn to separate thoughts into paragraphs at their public school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Private schools (except privates specifically for kids with SNs) don’t even admit kids who have 504s/IEPs in public schools. Public is far from perfect but privates don’t even try.

Why should they? Public schools are legally required to provide an education to all students who live within their boundaries. Private schools aren’t.

Well of course they aren’t required to. Privates are exclusionary by nature. Kids who don’t fit the mold are not welcome.

And? What's your point? You noted that some private schools do serve children with special needs. Others don't. You seem to have a problem with this. We are not Catholic and we don't want our kids going to a school that is promoting the Catholic faith. (We are Protestant, if it matters). So we don't send our kids to schools who serve Catholics. If you have a special needs kid, why would you want to send them to a school that doesn't serve them? I'm not offended that Catholic schools won't change their faith-based education to serve my children.

OP’s friend rants about public schools and sends her kids private when most private schools actively choose not to serve the kids with SNs. These same schools like to say how welcoming, inclusive and diverse they are. The question is not why send a kid to a school that doesn’t serve them. The question is why don’t these schools serve them? Why aren’t they actually what they say they are?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Strikes me that the issue is not so much that she hates public schools, it's that she goes on rants and tells people how to live their lives which would be annoying and unpleasant regardless of the subject. If you're going to talk to her, I'd focus not on whether she is right or not but that her behavior is rude and puts people off.

+1

I'd add, though, that it sounds like OP and her other friends are poking the bear. She mentions talking about rankings -- why are they talking about school rankings so much in the first place? Why not just talk about something other than how highly ranked your local schools are on some random metric (many of which do nothing but reflect patterns of residential segregation and wealth)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are wrong and your friend is right.

the I've got mine attitude and who cares about other kids is insanely disordered.

You need to do some serious introspection and perhaps some therapy to understand why you are so incredibly selfish.

Did you also go to a very highly rated public school because being selfish is definitely a bi-product of segregation.

+1 You aren’t an equality warrior if your kids go to Whitman or Langley. Sorry.

Right, but her friend doesn't look hypocritical at all sending her kids to private, does she.

The friend is not hypocritical. She is very clear that she dislikes public schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are wrong and your friend is right.

the I've got mine attitude and who cares about other kids is insanely disordered.

You need to do some serious introspection and perhaps some therapy to understand why you are so incredibly selfish.

Did you also go to a very highly rated public school because being selfish is definitely a bi-product of segregation.

+1 You aren’t an equality warrior if your kids go to Whitman or Langley. Sorry.

Right, but her friend doesn't look hypocritical at all sending her kids to private, does she.

The friend is not hypocritical. She is very clear that she dislikes public schools.

She is, but she says (if I understood correctly) that she doesn't like them bc they are not inclusive. Well are private schools inclusive? Racially and ability-wise? no.

I think there's nothing wrong with sending your child to private if that's what works best for your child. But it's hypocritical to blame public schools for lack of inclusivity and then send your child to private schools, where exclusivity is the name of the game.

[Anonymous]

OP here:

Those with helpful comments, thank you! I have decided I am going to talk with her but instead of being defensive, ask how I can make our school district better. I understand it’s not suppose to be a personal issue, at least when she makes her statements, as she’s trying to educate the public. Although I can’t help but get a little hurt because I feel like she’s questioning my parenting skills. I see it as another mom, a good mom friend at that, so when I feel like she’s being what I could call judgmental about where we live, I get irate. To anyone else, we live in a great school district. We pay a pretty penny to live here. Yes, my kids don’t need help and are doing excpajronallg well, so I am proud. My bubble is bursted whenever she has to remind me what not so perfect school district is it.

*They did change the reading curriculum, so now it is a great school district. They had to, as they did get in trouble for not complying with the law that stated that they would help give an adequate education to all kids, including those with IEPs, who have dyslexia. Hindsight isn’t 20/20. I didn’t know any of this until she brought it up. Of course, I didn’t care too much because it didn’t affect my kids. Although, I can now see why I should. I definitely want this to be a role model school district for change. Honestly, I do.

[Anonymous]

OP here: *exceptionally* correction

[Anonymous]

OP here: Also, what does it matter where I went to school?.
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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Private schools (except privates specifically for kids with SNs) don’t even admit kids who have 504s/IEPs in public schools. Public is far from perfect but privates don’t even try.

My child has Dyslexia and is in private school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here:

Those with helpful comments, thank you! I have decided I am going to talk with her but instead of being defensive, ask how I can make our school district better. I understand it’s not suppose to be a personal issue, at least when she makes her statements, as she’s trying to educate the public. Although I can’t help but get a little hurt because I feel like she’s questioning my parenting skills. I see it as another mom, a good mom friend at that, so when I feel like she’s being what I could call judgmental about where we live, I get irate. To anyone else, we live in a great school district. We pay a pretty penny to live here. Yes, my kids don’t need help and are doing excpajronallg well, so I am proud. My bubble is bursted whenever she has to remind me what not so perfect school district is it.

*They did change the reading curriculum, so now it is a great school district. They had to, as they did get in trouble for not complying with the law that stated that they would help give an adequate education to all kids, including those with IEPs, who have dyslexia. Hindsight isn’t 20/20. I didn’t know any of this until she brought it up. Of course, I didn’t care too much because it didn’t affect my kids. Although, I can now see why I should. I definitely want this to be a role model school district for change. Honestly, I do.

Its all the same. ''Top" (super expensive to live in) school district or "top'' (super expensive) private school. You and your friend are equally non-virtuous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Private schools (except privates specifically for kids with SNs) don’t even admit kids who have 504s/IEPs in public schools. Public is far from perfect but privates don’t even try.

My child has Dyslexia and is in private school

I'm the PP with dyslexia and a kid with dyslexia. My kid also goes to private school. No, they don't remediate for dyslexia, but neither does the public school. At least with a private school I am not gasslit - the school tells me they can't provide something, and I chose to stay or go. In public the school tries to convince me that my kid doesn't need what the evidence says he needs, and that his challenges are imaginary or...something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here:

Those with helpful comments, thank you! I have decided I am going to talk with her but instead of being defensive, ask how I can make our school district better. I understand it’s not suppose to be a personal issue, at least when she makes her statements, as she’s trying to educate the public. Although I can’t help but get a little hurt because I feel like she’s questioning my parenting skills. I see it as another mom, a good mom friend at that, so when I feel like she’s being what I could call judgmental about where we live, I get irate. To anyone else, we live in a great school district. We pay a pretty penny to live here. Yes, my kids don’t need help and are doing excpajronallg well, so I am proud. My bubble is bursted whenever she has to remind me what not so perfect school district is it.

*They did change the reading curriculum, so now it is a great school district. They had to, as they did get in trouble for not complying with the law that stated that they would help give an adequate education to all kids, including those with IEPs, who have dyslexia. Hindsight isn’t 20/20. I didn’t know any of this until she brought it up. Of course, I didn’t care too much because it didn’t affect my kids. Although, I can now see why I should. I definitely want this to be a role model school district for change. Honestly, I do.

This is about your lack of confidence in your parenting choices ...you get “a little hurt”....good grief, have a little backbone. And stop talking about what great school district you live in, what if others can’t afford it...should they be like you and feel judged? OP - the only thing you seem to care about is how others perceive you. I don’t believe you really care about the kids not being well served so long as your kids appear to go “the best” school.