Is refusing to date or marry outside of your race/culture considered racism?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That’s an incrediblely f’ed up viewpoint. I don’t owe anyone a date, a relationship, or sex. Calling someone racist because they won’t date who you tell them they have to date is straight up grooming behavior. You’re insane.

What traits do all Asian men share that makes them unattractive?

Are you saying you date every person you meet who’s not “unattractive”? Is that the bar for you?

I'm not saying anything, I simply asked you a question.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That’s an incrediblely f’ed up viewpoint. I don’t owe anyone a date, a relationship, or sex. Calling someone racist because they won’t date who you tell them they have to date is straight up grooming behavior. You’re insane.

What traits do all Asian men share that makes them unattractive?

Small penis and no, I’m not willing to dig around to find that one Asian that does not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes to answer your question - its racism.

So now I'm a racist because I am not attracted to people of a different race. OK, you folks have gone off the deep end. This is getting ridiculous.

Yeah that is a little crazy. I am not at all attracted to asian guys. I'm not racist and can be friends with anyone.

But have you ever examined WHY aren't you attracted to an entire race of men? I'm not sure it's necessarily "racist" to not be attracted to certain races, because on the surface it seems like something a person can't control... but then again, what if you have the attractions (or lack thereof) because of internalized bias and socialization?

Statically speaking, Asian men perform worse on dating sites than almost any other race (black women also do poorly). One has to wonder if this is related to the fact that for years Asian men have been emasculated in Hollywood for years + negative stereotypes (small dick size, shy, short, etc.). Same for black women- in the dating world they can be victims of negative stereotypes (trashy, rude, etc.). I think it's pretty obviously that very rarely are Asian men portrayed as "sexy"--that's one of the reasons why the movie "Crazy Rich Asians" was a big deal. And if you grow up in a mostly white (or any race really, it's definitely not just limited to white people) bubble with no positive exposure to "sexy" men/women of another race, are you going to predisposed to find them attractive? Probably not. That's not your fault, but I think it's worth being aware of.

I dunno. Religion, beliefs, personality... those are all things I chose a partner based off and affect how "attractive" I think someone is. I won't outright disqualify someone based on race alone (though of course, I won't deny race/upbringing can have an effect on the things that do matter to me).


Full disclosure, I'm a white woman who married an Asian man. I can't tell you how many friends of mine have (unprompted) said to me, "ohhh, I would never date an Asian man" then throw out some accompanying stereotype. I guess because I'm white I'm considered "safe" to confide this in? Surprise surprise, almost all of the people who have said this to me have ALL white friends/social circles and I'm privately side-eyeing the ones now posting BLM content. I mean, I don't expect anyone to be able to change who they're attracted to as that's mostly set since childhood, but if you're writing off an entire race just be conscious of the bias that plays a role and definitely don't contribute to harmful stereotypes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s an incrediblely f’ed up viewpoint. I don’t owe anyone a date, a relationship, or sex. Calling someone racist because they won’t date who you tell them they have to date is straight up grooming behavior. You’re insane.

What traits do all Asian men share that makes them unattractive?

Small penis and no, I’m not willing to dig around to find that one Asian that does not.

Yup, you're racist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s an incrediblely f’ed up viewpoint. I don’t owe anyone a date, a relationship, or sex. Calling someone racist because they won’t date who you tell them they have to date is straight up grooming behavior. You’re insane.

What traits do all Asian men share that makes them unattractive?

Are you saying you date every person you meet who’s not “unattractive”? Is that the bar for you?

I'm not saying anything, I simply asked you a question.

And I asked you one. Feel free to answer it. You seem to have a higher bar for an online conversation than you do for dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s an incrediblely f’ed up viewpoint. I don’t owe anyone a date, a relationship, or sex. Calling someone racist because they won’t date who you tell them they have to date is straight up grooming behavior. You’re insane.

What traits do all Asian men share that makes them unattractive?

Are you saying you date every person you meet who’s not “unattractive”? Is that the bar for you?

I'm not saying anything, I simply asked you a question.

And I asked you one. Feel free to answer it. You seem to have a higher bar for an online conversation than you do for dating.

You're working very hard to dodge my question. No, I don't date every person I meet who isn't unattractive. So, why don't you date Asian men?

[Anonymous]

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And I asked you one. Feel free to answer it. You seem to have a higher bar for an online conversation than you do for dating.

Found the other racist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s an incrediblely f’ed up viewpoint. I don’t owe anyone a date, a relationship, or sex. Calling someone racist because they won’t date who you tell them they have to date is straight up grooming behavior. You’re insane.

What traits do all Asian men share that makes them unattractive?

Are you saying you date every person you meet who’s not “unattractive”? Is that the bar for you?

Asians make up 2/3 of the population on this planet and PP finds ALL of them unattractive and would not date them. Other than PP being racist, how does one cancel out an entire race of people to date/consider?

[Anonymous]

I am not attracted to WASP men at all. I have dated Korean, Greek, Black and Middle Eastern men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s an incrediblely f’ed up viewpoint. I don’t owe anyone a date, a relationship, or sex. Calling someone racist because they won’t date who you tell them they have to date is straight up grooming behavior. You’re insane.

What traits do all Asian men share that makes them unattractive?

Small penis and no, I’m not willing to dig around to find that one Asian that does not.

Anddddd there's the racist stereotype, right on schedule.


Average penis size across races is pretty much the same, FYI. https://veritat.info/post/151508031722/s

[Anonymous]

It's usually possible to change your religion.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

And I asked you one. Feel free to answer it. You seem to have a higher bar for an online conversation than you do for dating.

Found the other racist.

Ok, groomer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's usually possible to change your religion.

It is always possible to change your religion

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

And I asked you one. Feel free to answer it. You seem to have a higher bar for an online conversation than you do for dating.

Found the other racist.

Ok, groomer.

Racists always try very hard to accuse people of hings once they're called out for their racism. It's strange how their own opinions offend them. Shouldn't you take pride in your thoughts?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s an incrediblely f’ed up viewpoint. I don’t owe anyone a date, a relationship, or sex. Calling someone racist because they won’t date who you tell them they have to date is straight up grooming behavior. You’re insane.

What traits do all Asian men share that makes them unattractive?

Are you saying you date every person you meet who’s not “unattractive”? Is that the bar for you?

I'm not saying anything, I simply asked you a question.

And I asked you one. Feel free to answer it. You seem to have a higher bar for an online conversation than you do for dating.

You're working very hard to dodge my question. No, I don't date every person I meet who isn't unattractive. So, why don't you date Asian men?

No, I’m rejecting your attempts to invalidate my boundaries. I date for marriage. I date within my ethnicity and my religion. I’m not Asian, therefore I’m not going to date an Asian guy. I’m not setting out to reject Asian people. I have a narrow field of people that I am open to dating. Asian guys aren’t on that list. Blondes aren’t either. Are you going to go after me for that too?