In-laws driving from FL to RI and INSIST on seeing us on their way

[Anonymous]

hang out on my deck --- this should be ok
drink wine with our glasses --- this does not have to happen
they will need to use the restroom --- not necessary

OR you meet at a park, someplace close enough to their hotel that when they need the restroom, they leave and go back to the hotel to use the restroom. You can figure this out.

[Anonymous]

If you want to avoid a fight - just tell them your neighbor who you have been socializing with and thought was social distancing has tested positive, so it isn't safe for them to stay with you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s your home, OP. I think you are being silly. It’s fine for them to visit if you can all stay six feet apart. The deck makes it easy. Have them wear a mask if they need to go inside your home to use the restroom. At this point, we have stopped trying to completely isolate. We flattened the curve. That was the goal. We are wearing masks, avoiding crowds, and washing hands constantly. But we had two of our adult kids in our home yesterday. Small groups are ok. But again, your house, your rules.

True. But your situation is different. The risk to your kids is low; and the risk you will die and leave young children without a parent is zero.

No, the risk to the kids is very low to 0. The risk that one of them will die and leave young children starts going up at age 25, but relatively low until you hit 50, and then it starts going up.

The grandparents seem to understand they are engaging in risky behavior for their age. I would have them visit outside and no hugs/contact. No coming in the house, lock the doors if you have to.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s your home, OP. I think you are being silly. It’s fine for them to visit if you can all stay six feet apart. The deck makes it easy. Have them wear a mask if they need to go inside your home to use the restroom. At this point, we have stopped trying to completely isolate. We flattened the curve. That was the goal. We are wearing masks, avoiding crowds, and washing hands constantly. But we had two of our adult kids in our home yesterday. Small groups are ok. But again, your house, your rules.

True. But your situation is different. The risk to your kids is low; and the risk you will die and leave young children without a parent is zero.

No, the risk to the kids is very low to 0. The risk that one of them will die and leave young children starts going up at age 25, but relatively low until you hit 50, and then it starts going up.

The grandparents seem to understand they are engaging in risky behavior for their age. I would have them visit outside and no hugs/contact. No coming in the house, lock the doors if you have to.

I assumed their adult kids were probably around 25, so not zero. But since they don’t have young kids, their premature death while tragic is not the horrific event of losing a parent while a minor.

[Anonymous]

So if your neighbors stopped by and talked in your driveway from 6 feet you would turn them away??? This is your family FFS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you skip your house and meet at a park? When someone needs the restroom, it's time to go home.

This is actually a good plan. Check out the parks near their motel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So if your neighbors stopped by and talked in your driveway from 6 feet you would turn them away??? This is your family FFS.

How have you been doing groceries the last 8 weeks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:hang out on my deck --- this should be ok
drink wine with our glasses --- this does not have to happen
they will need to use the restroom --- not necessary

OR you meet at a park, someplace close enough to their hotel that when they need the restroom, they leave and go back to the hotel to use the restroom. You can figure this out.

Drink wine out of the little plastic cups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:hang out on my deck --- this should be ok
drink wine with our glasses --- this does not have to happen
they will need to use the restroom --- not necessary

OR you meet at a park, someplace close enough to their hotel that when they need the restroom, they leave and go back to the hotel to use the restroom. You can figure this out.

Oh good grief. You will not die if they use your bathroom. Think about how many people use the restrooms at Walmart, Target, the grocery store, the gas station...

Take precautions, use Lysol spray but don't be super paranoid.

[Anonymous]

I agree with you, OP. Stand your ground. Tell them not to come by and you will FaceTime them later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So if your neighbors stopped by and talked in your driveway from 6 feet you would turn them away??? This is your family FFS.

No. It's her husband's family. I think that Op should just hide in a closet until the visit is over.

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Anonymous wrote:So if your neighbors stopped by and talked in your driveway from 6 feet you would turn them away??? This is your family FFS.

No. It's her husband's family. I think that Op should just hide in a closet until the visit is over.

No, your in-laws are your family. Maybe not as important to OP as her blood relatives family but give me a break with this nonsense. We get that OP doesn't like them, sure, ok whatever. But if they're willing to stay in the driveway or on the porch what's the damage? I am sure if her neighbor or a friend stopped by to chat, she would chat with them. Have some decency OP. They're your childrens' grandparents.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP ignore the PP. You are not awful. This is a pandemic, not “just the flu” like some people like to believe. I like the meeting in the park idea. When one of your family members need to use the bathroom you go home. Your ILs are driving up the coast and have no issues with public bathrooms so no need to worry about that.

Thank you, and I am so tired of people dismissing this pandemic. It's an international crisis that is a killer and people that aren't taking it seriously are making matters worse. I like the park idea, thank you. I especially like the park idea because they can't drink at the park. They are both big drinkers and will want to stay for hours and drink and talk like normal if they come to our house. Everyone knows what happens to one's judgment when they drink. Not only will the 6 feet apart get ignored, but they also will not be wearing face masks, after traveling, staying in hotels, and eating at restaurants.. Sorry not sorry.

World's worst DIL.

Says annoying stupid MIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So if your neighbors stopped by and talked in your driveway from 6 feet you would turn them away??? This is your family FFS.

No. It's her husband's family. I think that Op should just hide in a closet until the visit is over.

No, your in-laws are your family. Maybe not as important to OP as her blood relatives family but give me a break with this nonsense. We get that OP doesn't like them, sure, ok whatever. But if they're willing to stay in the driveway or on the porch what's the damage? I am sure if her neighbor or a friend stopped by to chat, she would chat with them. Have some decency OP. They're your childrens' grandparents.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP ignore the PP. You are not awful. This is a pandemic, not “just the flu” like some people like to believe. I like the meeting in the park idea. When one of your family members need to use the bathroom you go home. Your ILs are driving up the coast and have no issues with public bathrooms so no need to worry about that.

Thank you, and I am so tired of people dismissing this pandemic. It's an international crisis that is a killer and people that aren't taking it seriously are making matters worse. I like the park idea, thank you. I especially like the park idea because they can't drink at the park. They are both big drinkers and will want to stay for hours and drink and talk like normal if they come to our house. Everyone knows what happens to one's judgment when they drink. Not only will the 6 feet apart get ignored, but they also will not be wearing face masks, after traveling, staying in hotels, and eating at restaurants.. Sorry not sorry.

World's worst DIL.

Says annoying stupid MIL.

Just chiming in to say I'm a DIL and I think that you are absolutely awful. I mean really bad. Your ILs are making that long trip from FL to RI, have offered to stay in a hotel and come over and visit with you OUTSIDE and that is too much trouble for you.