In-laws driving from FL to RI and INSIST on seeing us on their way

[Anonymous]

Why don't you skip your house and meet at a park? When someone needs the restroom, it's time to go home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you skip your house and meet at a park? When someone needs the restroom, it's time to go home.

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Which home do the people travelling cross-country go to?

[Anonymous]

You are all kinds of awful, OP.

What a nut.

[Anonymous]

OP ignore the PP. You are not awful. This is a pandemic, not “just the flu” like some people like to believe. I like the meeting in the park idea. When one of your family members need to use the bathroom you go home. Your ILs are driving up the coast and have no issues with public bathrooms so no need to worry about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see the issue with them staying at your deck if you maintain six feet distance. They can wear a mask when they come in to use the bathroom. Have them wipe down the bathroom. I would try to find a reasonable solution to this.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP ignore the PP. You are not awful. This is a pandemic, not “just the flu” like some people like to believe. I like the meeting in the park idea. When one of your family members need to use the bathroom you go home. Your ILs are driving up the coast and have no issues with public bathrooms so no need to worry about that.

Thank you, and I am so tired of people dismissing this pandemic. It's an international crisis that is a killer and people that aren't taking it seriously are making matters worse. I like the park idea, thank you. I especially like the park idea because they can't drink at the park. They are both big drinkers and will want to stay for hours and drink and talk like normal if they come to our house. Everyone knows what happens to one's judgment when they drink. Not only will the 6 feet apart get ignored, but they also will not be wearing face masks, after traveling, staying in hotels, and eating at restaurants.. Sorry not sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP ignore the PP. You are not awful. This is a pandemic, not “just the flu” like some people like to believe. I like the meeting in the park idea. When one of your family members need to use the bathroom you go home. Your ILs are driving up the coast and have no issues with public bathrooms so no need to worry about that.

Thank you, and I am so tired of people dismissing this pandemic. It's an international crisis that is a killer and people that aren't taking it seriously are making matters worse. I like the park idea, thank you. I especially like the park idea because they can't drink at the park. They are both big drinkers and will want to stay for hours and drink and talk like normal if they come to our house. Everyone knows what happens to one's judgment when they drink. Not only will the 6 feet apart get ignored, but they also will not be wearing face masks, after traveling, staying in hotels, and eating at restaurants.. Sorry not sorry.

As the person who really wants the souped-up porch, I highly encourage you to check and see if the facilities are open at the park, or find some nearby. Otherwise (in my experience), I can guarantee that they will "have" to come back to your place before they can head out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP ignore the PP. You are not awful. This is a pandemic, not “just the flu” like some people like to believe. I like the meeting in the park idea. When one of your family members need to use the bathroom you go home. Your ILs are driving up the coast and have no issues with public bathrooms so no need to worry about that.

Thank you, and I am so tired of people dismissing this pandemic. It's an international crisis that is a killer and people that aren't taking it seriously are making matters worse. I like the park idea, thank you. I especially like the park idea because they can't drink at the park. They are both big drinkers and will want to stay for hours and drink and talk like normal if they come to our house. Everyone knows what happens to one's judgment when they drink. Not only will the 6 feet apart get ignored, but they also will not be wearing face masks, after traveling, staying in hotels, and eating at restaurants.. Sorry not sorry.

World's worst DIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP ignore the PP. You are not awful. This is a pandemic, not “just the flu” like some people like to believe. I like the meeting in the park idea. When one of your family members need to use the bathroom you go home. Your ILs are driving up the coast and have no issues with public bathrooms so no need to worry about that.

Thank you, and I am so tired of people dismissing this pandemic. It's an international crisis that is a killer and people that aren't taking it seriously are making matters worse. I like the park idea, thank you. I especially like the park idea because they can't drink at the park. They are both big drinkers and will want to stay for hours and drink and talk like normal if they come to our house. Everyone knows what happens to one's judgment when they drink. Not only will the 6 feet apart get ignored, but they also will not be wearing face masks, after traveling, staying in hotels, and eating at restaurants.. Sorry not sorry.

World's worst DIL.

Ah, you've tried this before, then?

[Anonymous]

This is such a foolish trip, two elderly people basically driving through every hot spot in the country! I would not reward them by letting them see family.

[Anonymous]

I saw a great quote along the lines of "social distancing does not mean do your normal social life from farther away." Many people are choosing to meet friends in backyards and on porches, but many people are not. I hope more data will help us understand different nuances of risk, and I do hope that outdoor gatherings will be considered low risk and be allowed, but right now my state has a shelter in place exec. order, so that's what we do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s your home, OP. I think you are being silly. It’s fine for them to visit if you can all stay six feet apart. The deck makes it easy. Have them wear a mask if they need to go inside your home to use the restroom. At this point, we have stopped trying to completely isolate. We flattened the curve. That was the goal. We are wearing masks, avoiding crowds, and washing hands constantly. But we had two of our adult kids in our home yesterday. Small groups are ok. But again, your house, your rules.

True. But your situation is different. The risk to your kids is low; and the risk you will die and leave young children without a parent is zero.

[Anonymous]

Op - NO they do not get to "insist" on seeing you along the way

Be a grown-up and inform them regarding how it's going to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is such a foolish trip, two elderly people basically driving through every hot spot in the country! I would not reward them by letting them see family.

Agreed. This is a silly trip. Returning home will not bring back normalcy

[Anonymous]

To recap: despite pandemic ILs either stayed in a vacation home and ended in the middle of it or intentionally traveled during pandemic.

Passing they Wild West of FL GA and SC, at hotels restaurants and bars.

Want to come to your house and use your restroom, even though they are aware in RI they need to quarantine before seeing anyone.

FINALLY they show up to your door, drink a bit of hooch and then DRIVE AWAY? Or insist they are too trunk so have to stay at your place b/c otherwise you are forcing a DUI.

Am I understanding right? No good will come of this. Maybe just catch a fever the night before they arrive.