Why can’t my family work around the kids schedules?

[Anonymous]

Your kids need to learn to be more flexible or you do with kids. Feed the kids before you go to someones house and when they are starting to melt down, you leave early. Simple. Bring a tablet for the older one to play on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids need to learn to be more flexible or you do with kids. Feed the kids before you go to someones house and when they are starting to melt down, you leave early. Simple. Bring a tablet for the older one to play on.

This.

I just fed my two youngest before heading over to our big family holiday party.

[Anonymous]

These are your kids. No one else's responsibility to change times or situations for just your family.

If you do not think the activity will work for your kids do not go.

This is simple.You will have many many times like this figure it out now.

[Anonymous]

Hey, heads up, no one really cares that much about your kids and their schedule.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Am I getting this right - brunch doesn't work, lunch doesn't work and dinner doesn't work? You wanted people to plan early breakfasts and suppers?

Yes, OP is saying brunch, lunch and dinner all don’t work for her.

I think she’s saying it doesn’t work to have all those activities planned for the same day. As in, we can skip nap to do lunch, but we can’t then also push bedtime back to 10 for the loud party. And then also do brunch the next day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Am I getting this right - brunch doesn't work, lunch doesn't work and dinner doesn't work? You wanted people to plan early breakfasts and suppers?

Yes, OP is saying brunch, lunch and dinner all don’t work for her.

I think she’s saying it doesn’t work to have all those activities planned for the same day. As in, we can skip nap to do lunch, but we can’t then also push bedtime back to 10 for the loud party. And then also do brunch the next day.

So Don't Go To All The Things. That doesn't mean the things can't still all be held. You don't need to be there for everything. Say yes and do what you want, skip what doesn't work. Simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP - I am not trying to say that everyone should revolve their schedules around me and my family, I simply think it would be nice to take young kids into consideration when planning things. DH’s family is very considerate in this respect so I know some families do this.

I get major guilt trips for skipping events or leaving early since we rarely see everyone... so if that’s the case why not just think about what may work for young kids - there are many in the family not just mine.

And I also get comments about my kids whining at the dinner table etc which are super frustrating.

OP you should have written your OP better and included the fact that you go to everything BECAUSE of this. It doesn't change the answer (oh well, they're little, you leave when you need to), but you would have gotten a little more sympathy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Am I getting this right - brunch doesn't work, lunch doesn't work and dinner doesn't work? You wanted people to plan early breakfasts and suppers?

Yes, OP is saying brunch, lunch and dinner all don’t work for her.

OP needs to learn to carry food with her. Pack a little bag of nutritious and easy to eat foods. A hungry and thirsty child is worse than a tired child.

[Anonymous]

You need your own rental car - food from the grocery store - feed your kids before the party - take them - have husband leave with them at 6:30 when they are tired - and you stay. we've done this or YEARS

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP - I am not trying to say that everyone should revolve their schedules around me and my family, I simply think it would be nice to take young kids into consideration when planning things. DH’s family is very considerate in this respect so I know some families do this.

I get major guilt trips for skipping events or leaving early since we rarely see everyone... so if that’s the case why not just think about what may work for young kids - there are many in the family not just mine.

And I also get comments about my kids whining at the dinner table etc which are super frustrating.

OP you should have written your OP better and included the fact that you go to everything BECAUSE of this. It doesn't change the answer (oh well, they're little, you leave when you need to), but you would have gotten a little more sympathy.

OP's kids should not be whining at all. Good parents don't tolerate whining, and no one else should have to, either. OP needs to feed her kids beforehand/ keep them home/ teach them how to behave- any of the above.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP - I am not trying to say that everyone should revolve their schedules around me and my family, I simply think it would be nice to take young kids into consideration when planning things. DH’s family is very considerate in this respect so I know some families do this.

I get major guilt trips for skipping events or leaving early since we rarely see everyone... so if that’s the case why not just think about what may work for young kids - there are many in the family not just mine.

And I also get comments about my kids whining at the dinner table etc which are super frustrating.

OP you should have written your OP better and included the fact that you go to everything BECAUSE of this. It doesn't change the answer (oh well, they're little, you leave when you need to), but you would have gotten a little more sympathy.

OP's kids should not be whining at all. Good parents don't tolerate whining, and no one else should have to, either. OP needs to feed her kids beforehand/ keep them home/ teach them how to behave- any of the above.

PP here. Also- this is exactly why I never include kids on invitations to friends, because I always get "why can't we also..." "they only need..." "maybe we could eat at..."
No. Not invited.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Am I getting this right - brunch doesn't work, lunch doesn't work and dinner doesn't work? You wanted people to plan early breakfasts and suppers?

Yes, OP is saying brunch, lunch and dinner all don’t work for her.

I think she’s saying it doesn’t work to have all those activities planned for the same day. As in, we can skip nap to do lunch, but we can’t then also push bedtime back to 10 for the loud party. And then also do brunch the next day.

So Don't Go To All The Things. That doesn't mean the things can't still all be held. You don't need to be there for everything. Say yes and do what you want, skip what doesn't work. Simple.

This. Rested children, or going to every event. Pick ONE.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Am I getting this right - brunch doesn't work, lunch doesn't work and dinner doesn't work? You wanted people to plan early breakfasts and suppers?

Yes, OP is saying brunch, lunch and dinner all don’t work for her.

I think she’s saying it doesn’t work to have all those activities planned for the same day. As in, we can skip nap to do lunch, but we can’t then also push bedtime back to 10 for the loud party. And then also do brunch the next day.

So Don't Go To All The Things. That doesn't mean the things can't still all be held. You don't need to be there for everything. Say yes and do what you want, skip what doesn't work. Simple.

This. Rested children, or going to every event. Pick ONE.

Oh come on. She is visiting family from out of town. She isn’t supposed to attend events or eat any meals with them?

Why can’t people just eat at normal times? Breakfast is at 7-8am, lunch is at noon, dinner at 6pm. If people would just eat at the times they normally eat instead of being on a warped vacation/holiday schedule, there would be no issue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Am I getting this right - brunch doesn't work, lunch doesn't work and dinner doesn't work? You wanted people to plan early breakfasts and suppers?

Yes, OP is saying brunch, lunch and dinner all don’t work for her.

I think she’s saying it doesn’t work to have all those activities planned for the same day. As in, we can skip nap to do lunch, but we can’t then also push bedtime back to 10 for the loud party. And then also do brunch the next day.

So Don't Go To All The Things. That doesn't mean the things can't still all be held. You don't need to be there for everything. Say yes and do what you want, skip what doesn't work. Simple.

This. Rested children, or going to every event. Pick ONE.

Oh come on. She is visiting family from out of town. She isn’t supposed to attend events or eat any meals with them?

Why can’t people just eat at normal times? Breakfast is at 7-8am, lunch is at noon, dinner at 6pm. If people would just eat at the times they normally eat instead of being on a warped vacation/holiday schedule, there would be no issue.

She has to work with THEIR schedule, not the other way around. If she can't want to, that's on her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Am I getting this right - brunch doesn't work, lunch doesn't work and dinner doesn't work? You wanted people to plan early breakfasts and suppers?

Yes, OP is saying brunch, lunch and dinner all don’t work for her.

I think she’s saying it doesn’t work to have all those activities planned for the same day. As in, we can skip nap to do lunch, but we can’t then also push bedtime back to 10 for the loud party. And then also do brunch the next day.

So Don't Go To All The Things. That doesn't mean the things can't still all be held. You don't need to be there for everything. Say yes and do what you want, skip what doesn't work. Simple.

This. Rested children, or going to every event. Pick ONE.

Oh come on. She is visiting family from out of town. She isn’t supposed to attend events or eat any meals with them?

Why can’t people just eat at normal times? Breakfast is at 7-8am, lunch is at noon, dinner at 6pm. If people would just eat at the times they normally eat instead of being on a warped vacation/holiday schedule, there would be no issue.

She has to work with THEIR schedule, not the other way around. If she can't want to, that's on her.

PP. That should be can't/ doesn't want to.