Tired from travel but DH said my turn for kids

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Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, based on the thread from a month or so ago where it was the dad who travelled. OP probably wants to see if a woman would get the same responses the dad did in the other thread. So far, yes.

This.

We are consistent at least. If you can’t jump back in after work travel, I think you need a new job.

Not the OP but I am seriously wondering if you are serious? When I travel it's usually for intense work trips, sometimes 16 hour days and long periods of being "on" in front of large groups. no dinners and socializing. my flights are usually 6 hours or so. I come back unable to function. Do I need a new job?

That or you suck it up and be a parent. A six hour flight gives you 6 hours of child free bliss. You got to sleep at night without having to worry at all about kids waking up. You got to take care of your needs and your career. . Sure you are tired afterwards, but you come home at dinner, you spend time witH your kids.

You either don't travel for work or you hate your kids. Have you been on a plane lately?

DP but yes I travel for work, and even in the middle seat of the most economy section I’m capable of using plane time to decompress. Far more relaxing than my evening routine with my preschooler and 1st grader.

You are doing the evening routine wrong then.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, based on the thread from a month or so ago where it was the dad who travelled. OP probably wants to see if a woman would get the same responses the dad did in the other thread. So far, yes.

This.

We are consistent at least. If you can’t jump back in after work travel, I think you need a new job.

Not the OP but I am seriously wondering if you are serious? When I travel it's usually for intense work trips, sometimes 16 hour days and long periods of being "on" in front of large groups. no dinners and socializing. my flights are usually 6 hours or so. I come back unable to function. Do I need a new job?

That or you suck it up and be a parent. A six hour flight gives you 6 hours of child free bliss. You got to sleep at night without having to worry at all about kids waking up. You got to take care of your needs and your career. . Sure you are tired afterwards, but you come home at dinner, you spend time witH your kids.

You either don't travel for work or you hate your kids. Have you been on a plane lately?

Do you hate your kids PP?

I’m confused. Apparently taking care of children is all unicorns and rainbows. Don’t you want to spend time with them after a long stressful trip? Since childcare is so relaxing, it seems like the perfect way to unwind - unless you hate your kids... So, do you?

Actually, I am of the opinion that both parents should be pitching in, because they are both tired. In both threads, I think the idea that the at-home parent gets to tag out immediately is ridiculous and spoiled. Caring for kids is just not that hard, and business travel is hardly some vacation. I was a SAHM, too, so I know what I am talking about as far as caring for kids. I would never have just dumped my kids on my exhausted business traveling spouse, but of course he pitched in immediately.

The difference is in your last sentence. Your dh pitched in right away. Some people want time to "recover" from their trip.

My oldest could be pure hell, his brother was easier. If I would have had a spouse with the oldest I would have expected him to pitch in after supper.

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It is your responsibility to care for the kids once you return.

Period.

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Best response I’ve read is to build in your downtime . Schedule return flights to land early morning and arrive home while kids are at school/ daycare, or arrive after they go to bed. Caveat is that spouse gets entire next day to completely veg out or decompress if desired .

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This is my marriage. Dh travels 3-4 nights per week and we have a 1 and almost 4 year old. It’s so exhausting to be alone w the kids, mentally and physically. I am also a teacher so I’m exhausted from my low paying mentally taxing on my feet all day job. I hand those kids over lightening fast when he returns.

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Anonymous wrote:Easy answer: schedule your return flight to land at 10pm, not dinnertime.




(FWIW, I prefer this both as the traveling spouse and as the at-home-solo spouse. The kids get way too riled up when a parent comes home at dinnertime, and bedtime is a nightmare no matter who’s in charge. Much better for the returning spouse to wake the kids up in the morning after everyone has had a good night’s sleep. )

My husband comes home as soon as he possibly can because...he misses us! He would never deliberately delay his flight so he didn’t have to help take care of his children! How sad.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, based on the thread from a month or so ago where it was the dad who travelled. OP probably wants to see if a woman would get the same responses the dad did in the other thread. So far, yes.

My thought exactly

That's what I was thinking, too.

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Take care of your kids.

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oh so sorry you're tired after relaxing plane sitting, and after uninterrupted sleep, and after timely meals with adults? sorry sweetie, your fun time ends the moment you get home. he is right.

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One week is nothing, both of you need to pull it together. He gets to sleep in first weekend day, you’re on. Then back to normal.

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Another vote for Team DH. How is this even a question? He’s had solo duty the whole time. Put on your comfy pants and deal with the kids.

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Anonymous wrote:suck it up buttercup. He needs time off now.

+1. You've been away, OP, "working," by which we mean staying at a hotel, eating dinners out....

Yup.

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Your husband had the mental load… Get it? when you’re on business travel you tend to just have to deal with what you have right in front of you. The person at all manages everything kid/house plus their own job. Just take it slow for a few days. You both go to bed earlier and order in a few times. Trade off sleeping in, take on a few extra kid duties this week as appreciation. See if he wants to go out for the evening, either as a couple or to do his own thing with friends.

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He's right, you're being lazy.

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I also feel like this might be a troll, but either way adding to the chorus that he is definitely right! Though my husband and I typically do it together with me being the lead because it’s nice to be together as a family again. And I take the next couple mornings. I personally hate work travel but being on your own with kids is hard work!