Tired from travel but DH said my turn for kids

[Anonymous]

Just let DH go out to the bar or visit his friend or whatever; he's been tied down all week with those kids!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Easy answer: schedule your return flight to land at 10pm, not dinnertime.




(FWIW, I prefer this both as the traveling spouse and as the at-home-solo spouse. The kids get way too riled up when a parent comes home at dinnertime, and bedtime is a nightmare no matter who’s in charge. Much better for the returning spouse to wake the kids up in the morning after everyone has had a good night’s sleep. )

+1. But then the next night the kids are all yours. And if there’s a baby in the mix traveling spouse gets night time duty after they get home at midnight.

[Anonymous]

He's right, but you can make it an easy evening together. Order in dinner, pop in a family movie and relax.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Easy answer: schedule your return flight to land at 10pm, not dinnertime.




(FWIW, I prefer this both as the traveling spouse and as the at-home-solo spouse. The kids get way too riled up when a parent comes home at dinnertime, and bedtime is a nightmare no matter who’s in charge. Much better for the returning spouse to wake the kids up in the morning after everyone has had a good night’s sleep. )

I prefer this arrival as well. No traffic as I drive home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Got back at dinner time last night from a short work trip. DH was taking care the two kids all week and doing great. I get in tired and he expects me to take care the kids that night. I’m of the opinion that I need to decompress after my trip. He’s of the opinion that he’s been on solo child care and needs to decompress. I have more trips to come so who’s right?

He is.

[Anonymous]

He's right! It is your turn, obviously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, based on the thread from a month or so ago where it was the dad who travelled. OP probably wants to see if a woman would get the same responses the dad did in the other thread. So far, yes.

This.

We are consistent at least. If you can’t jump back in after work travel, I think you need a new job.

Not the OP but I am seriously wondering if you are serious? When I travel it's usually for intense work trips, sometimes 16 hour days and long periods of being "on" in front of large groups. no dinners and socializing. my flights are usually 6 hours or so. I come back unable to function. Do I need a new job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, based on the thread from a month or so ago where it was the dad who travelled. OP probably wants to see if a woman would get the same responses the dad did in the other thread. So far, yes.

This.

We are consistent at least. If you can’t jump back in after work travel, I think you need a new job.

Not the OP but I am seriously wondering if you are serious? When I travel it's usually for intense work trips, sometimes 16 hour days and long periods of being "on" in front of large groups. no dinners and socializing. my flights are usually 6 hours or so. I come back unable to function. Do I need a new job?

This is what my work trips are like too. Very long days of work, long flights, totally exhausting. I go to bed late and get up early. This concept of a fun, relaxing business trip is utterly foreign.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, based on the thread from a month or so ago where it was the dad who travelled. OP probably wants to see if a woman would get the same responses the dad did in the other thread. So far, yes.

This.

We are consistent at least. If you can’t jump back in after work travel, I think you need a new job.

Not the OP but I am seriously wondering if you are serious? When I travel it's usually for intense work trips, sometimes 16 hour days and long periods of being "on" in front of large groups. no dinners and socializing. my flights are usually 6 hours or so. I come back unable to function. Do I need a new job?

DP, but frankly yes. If your job requires you to completely check out on your family, either get a new job or accept that you’re a shitty spouse and parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, based on the thread from a month or so ago where it was the dad who travelled. OP probably wants to see if a woman would get the same responses the dad did in the other thread. So far, yes.

This.

We are consistent at least. If you can’t jump back in after work travel, I think you need a new job.

Not the OP but I am seriously wondering if you are serious? When I travel it's usually for intense work trips, sometimes 16 hour days and long periods of being "on" in front of large groups. no dinners and socializing. my flights are usually 6 hours or so. I come back unable to function. Do I need a new job?

That or you suck it up and be a parent. A six hour flight gives you 6 hours of child free bliss. You got to sleep at night without having to worry at all about kids waking up. You got to take care of your needs and your career. . Sure you are tired afterwards, but you come home at dinner, you spend time witH your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, based on the thread from a month or so ago where it was the dad who travelled. OP probably wants to see if a woman would get the same responses the dad did in the other thread. So far, yes.

This.

We are consistent at least. If you can’t jump back in after work travel, I think you need a new job.

Not the OP but I am seriously wondering if you are serious? When I travel it's usually for intense work trips, sometimes 16 hour days and long periods of being "on" in front of large groups. no dinners and socializing. my flights are usually 6 hours or so. I come back unable to function. Do I need a new job?

This is what my work trips are like too. Very long days of work, long flights, totally exhausting. I go to bed late and get up early. This concept of a fun, relaxing business trip is utterly foreign.

The concept of a fun relaxing time taking care of young kids with no help is foreign as well.

If you can’t function after a work trip, then I hope you’re at least making bank so you can hire help for your spouse when you’re gone. Otherwise, yes, you should get a new job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, based on the thread from a month or so ago where it was the dad who travelled. OP probably wants to see if a woman would get the same responses the dad did in the other thread. So far, yes.

This.

We are consistent at least. If you can’t jump back in after work travel, I think you need a new job.

Not the OP but I am seriously wondering if you are serious? When I travel it's usually for intense work trips, sometimes 16 hour days and long periods of being "on" in front of large groups. no dinners and socializing. my flights are usually 6 hours or so. I come back unable to function. Do I need a new job?

That or you suck it up and be a parent. A six hour flight gives you 6 hours of child free bliss. You got to sleep at night without having to worry at all about kids waking up. You got to take care of your needs and your career. . Sure you are tired afterwards, but you come home at dinner, you spend time witH your kids.

You either don't travel for work or you hate your kids. Have you been on a plane lately?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, based on the thread from a month or so ago where it was the dad who travelled. OP probably wants to see if a woman would get the same responses the dad did in the other thread. So far, yes.

This.

We are consistent at least. If you can’t jump back in after work travel, I think you need a new job.

Not the OP but I am seriously wondering if you are serious? When I travel it's usually for intense work trips, sometimes 16 hour days and long periods of being "on" in front of large groups. no dinners and socializing. my flights are usually 6 hours or so. I come back unable to function. Do I need a new job?

That or you suck it up and be a parent. A six hour flight gives you 6 hours of child free bliss. You got to sleep at night without having to worry at all about kids waking up. You got to take care of your needs and your career. . Sure you are tired afterwards, but you come home at dinner, you spend time witH your kids.

You either don't travel for work or you hate your kids. Have you been on a plane lately?

Do you hate your kids PP?

I’m confused. Apparently taking care of children is all unicorns and rainbows. Don’t you want to spend time with them after a long stressful trip? Since childcare is so relaxing, it seems like the perfect way to unwind - unless you hate your kids... So, do you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, based on the thread from a month or so ago where it was the dad who travelled. OP probably wants to see if a woman would get the same responses the dad did in the other thread. So far, yes.

This.

We are consistent at least. If you can’t jump back in after work travel, I think you need a new job.

Not the OP but I am seriously wondering if you are serious? When I travel it's usually for intense work trips, sometimes 16 hour days and long periods of being "on" in front of large groups. no dinners and socializing. my flights are usually 6 hours or so. I come back unable to function. Do I need a new job?

That or you suck it up and be a parent. A six hour flight gives you 6 hours of child free bliss. You got to sleep at night without having to worry at all about kids waking up. You got to take care of your needs and your career. . Sure you are tired afterwards, but you come home at dinner, you spend time witH your kids.

You either don't travel for work or you hate your kids. Have you been on a plane lately?

DP but yes I travel for work, and even in the middle seat of the most economy section I’m capable of using plane time to decompress. Far more relaxing than my evening routine with my preschooler and 1st grader.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, based on the thread from a month or so ago where it was the dad who travelled. OP probably wants to see if a woman would get the same responses the dad did in the other thread. So far, yes.

This.

We are consistent at least. If you can’t jump back in after work travel, I think you need a new job.

Not the OP but I am seriously wondering if you are serious? When I travel it's usually for intense work trips, sometimes 16 hour days and long periods of being "on" in front of large groups. no dinners and socializing. my flights are usually 6 hours or so. I come back unable to function. Do I need a new job?

That or you suck it up and be a parent. A six hour flight gives you 6 hours of child free bliss. You got to sleep at night without having to worry at all about kids waking up. You got to take care of your needs and your career. . Sure you are tired afterwards, but you come home at dinner, you spend time witH your kids.

You either don't travel for work or you hate your kids. Have you been on a plane lately?

Do you hate your kids PP?

I’m confused. Apparently taking care of children is all unicorns and rainbows. Don’t you want to spend time with them after a long stressful trip? Since childcare is so relaxing, it seems like the perfect way to unwind - unless you hate your kids... So, do you?

Actually, I am of the opinion that both parents should be pitching in, because they are both tired. In both threads, I think the idea that the at-home parent gets to tag out immediately is ridiculous and spoiled. Caring for kids is just not that hard, and business travel is hardly some vacation. I was a SAHM, too, so I know what I am talking about as far as caring for kids. I would never have just dumped my kids on my exhausted business traveling spouse, but of course he pitched in immediately.