Ugh ..AP is not a downgrade
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Anonymous
Please ignore people like the original PP. Don't feed the trolls. |
Anonymous
Go away person stuck in 2004. |
Anonymous
"better"? Ugh. It's about novelty. The AP will seem great bc it's just sex and attention from a new person. It's juvenile but there it is. Enough with the haggling over upgrade/downgrade. It puts the focus on the worth of the women involved instead of the focus on the fact that the spouse and the AP are cheaters. To the OP: listen to the 180 PPs. Contact your lawyers, get your ducks in a row in case of divorce, and tell yourself over and over that your DH is the one who needs to win you back. Either way, better for you in the long run, because you are either rid of a lying cheat without remorse or he has to change. |
Anonymous
Aww somebody lost their hubby to a pretty, successful woman. Lol |
Anonymous
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Losers focus on winners and winners focus on winning.
Also, your self esteem is in the trash right now. That's your fault. Fix that and then you can make better decisions. |
Anonymous
If they didn't learn while growing up that married people are off limits...then yes they are seriously flawed. As much as the cheater. Seldom does it work out because 2 cheaters will never be able to trust each other. Often the kids disown, or distanced themselves. Anyone that is guilty of helping to break up a marriage is low rent no matter what they look like or job they have. Also, if you married a pos that cheats well best to be rid of them, if it's possible. |
Anonymous
Right??? Somewhere in the distant recesses of their minds (if they bother to think), doesn't the cheater think the AP is a low-rent liar that can't be trusted? And the AP must think the same? |
Anonymous
| I think you should post her pic and yours and let us decide. |
Anonymous
| What about a situation where the people having an affair are a genuinely better match? What do you do if you meet someone life that -- divorce first? |
Anonymous
Yes. As someone who has been in that situation, the one regret I have is both of us not ending our relationships first. It all worked out in the end, my ex and I get along and she later acknowledged I was right about us not being right for each other. Her relationship with her ex is "agreeable" at best, but it's better than when they were married. But even with all that, it still continues to weigh on me that we didn't go about it the right way. |
Anonymous
I agree. Now we know all 3 were hot messes, no prize there. Nor understanding what marriage and commitment are about. Not to mention probably all or at least a few have major substance abuse issues among others...no thanks! Now they are all middle aged to boot. |
Anonymous
Still a bad idea. Get counseling, or end your marriage first before you start looking around. One of my siblings was single but had a married couple as friends. He cheated with the wife, and now they are married. Yes probably a better match. However, all the kids involved had deep anger toward them. Her son won't visit and while they have each other if something happens that's about all they'll have. |
Anonymous
Yes that success rate is going to be pretty low. |
Anonymous
She's no winner by any means. Neither is her low down husband for that matter. OP make sure you're in a good position no matter what happens. It's always hard to suggest what to do without knowing all the facts. I've known women in their 50's this happens to, and frankly they can't afford to divorce. It would affect their retirements, health care plus splitting everything after many years is a big hit to most so I get it. However you go about it you need to confront him. Or her for that matter. |
Anonymous
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It’s so pathetic how everyone is jumping on the OW and not
OP’s husband. Maybe he told her they were separated or divorcing. We have no idea what her perception of his marital status was. HE is the cheater yet here you all go slamming the woman he may have duped and misled as well. |