Angry wife posting again

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ADHD?

This a full-on angry A-hole or ADHD Inattentive plus High Functioning Autism.

He needs a 4 hour neuropsych + proper meds + therapy.

Read up on it and spend more time with his parents and siblings to confirm; it’s highly heredity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ADHD or aspergers.

They often go together and also with anxiety, depression, borderline personality disorder and narcissism. At his age he is probably covering up his mishaps and mistreatments with layers of bad coping mechanisms, at all costs (ie costs of relationships). The hyperfocus at work, he chosen one thing to focus on, makes sense as well. He is a one trick pony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why was he tested for dementia/Alzheimer’s? How did that happen?

Great question.

What a red herring.

This guy has Neuro-atypical written all over him. That would drive anyone crazy day in and day out. Get therapy for yourself and kids. Unf if you stay together you will all have to actively ignore him, disassociate, and not rely on him for much. Not great, but you’ll be sane. Still get your kids therapy so they can ID healthy people going forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get the outlet fixed, do your own shopping and stop complaining.

I hope he makes a shit-ton if income well beyond the absent minded professor type of this is all he’s got.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know why everyone is blaming you OP. I would not put up with his behavior at all. If he can't behave like an adult, then there is a problem.

80% divorce rate of one spouse is on the spectrum. 80%.

He has to want to manage his symptoms and then manage his symptoms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my ex-wife became a total control freak, I started to act like that. Treat me like a child, I'll act like a child, moron.

Wow, you are sure a piece of work. Someone asks you a simple question and you go lunatic on them on purpose!? Good riddance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know why everyone is blaming you OP. I would not put up with his behavior at all. If he can't behave like an adult, then there is a problem.

Plus 1

Agree. This is terrible! But weren’t these symptoms present before marriage?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. He’s a dick. Gaslighting ass. The unplugging of kids device story... really? That’s not ADHD, that’s intent to be cruel.

Or he's just dumb or crazy?

he has serious issues; that’s him literally shutting down right in front of you and the kids. I know someone like this; he won’t even acknowledge nor respond to someone telling him to do something right now (catch the falling baby, don’t step on the sunglasses, what kind of sandiwch ham or turkey). He literally freezes something in his brain and blocks everything out. We vacationed with him once and by day 5 we thought he was from the Twilight Zone. His wife does t leave him alone with the kids, even when she travels for work. She will get a morning and after school sitter, he cannot be trusted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG! You are exhausting!! DO you keep a Fing journal of all the little mistakes your H makes, or when he fails to live up to your petty expectations?

BTW, I'll bet that is a switched outlet and all you need to do is turn on the right switch.

Stop the whining.

I hope she does. I hope she uses it too before something bad happens and someone gets injured.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you do sound quite uptight. If you give off vibes in person as you do in your email, your husband absolutely knows what you think.

I agree with the previous PP that the yogurt and blueberries story was funny. If I were in your shoes I would have laughed and had a good story to tell. He was actually kind of clever in this situation!

As for the milk in the coffee - you better sleep with one eye open.

Seriously though, this doesn't sound like a match made in heaven. I think he sounds normal and I hate it when ppl on DCUM scream "DIVORCE HIM!" but this just doesn't sound like it is going to work.

Best of luck.

Someone giving their spouse a known allergen sounds normal to you? And plugging a device into an outlet that they know doesn't work and when called out on it, repeatedly plugging the device in and out as though that would magically make it work? That sounds normal to you?

I don't know who's crazier. The person who's doing these things or the person who thinks this normal.

Lady, I hope you aren't feeding your spouse things they're allergic to.

[Anonymous]

He sounds like a lazy jerk and you are high maintenance. How are you surprised by his behavior? He doesn't think to use a credit card if he doesn't have enough cash on him? This is weird. I find it hard to believe you didn't know how he was prior to this week.

[Anonymous]

His putting milk into your coffee when you are allergic is unacceptable.

There does seem to be a lot of gaslighting going on.

You should do your own grocery shopping. I would work on yourself at this stage. I would not rely on him for anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ADHD or aspergers.

They often go together and also with anxiety, depression, borderline personality disorder and narcissism. At his age he is probably covering up his mishaps and mistreatments with layers of bad coping mechanisms, at all costs (ie costs of relationships). The hyperfocus at work, he chosen one thing to focus on, makes sense as well. He is a one trick pony.

This.

[Anonymous]

Why do so many people point to ADHD as the cause of bad behavior by a male spouse? You want to drug him? Give him his marching orders.

[Anonymous]

OP, no offense but I think you really care about what us DCUM posters think of you.

And you take all the anonymous advice too close to heart.