OMG - New preschool cliques... the moms!

[Anonymous]

That stinks, OP. We met our "tribe" of mom friends when our older son transitioned from daycare in DC to preschool in Rockville. Our son is now 6 and going into first grade and these were the women I called up when my wife (we're a same sex couple to avoid confusion) celebrated her birthday a few months ago and they came through with an amazing surprise appearance during our night out. Hoping things get easier for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live in an exurb and this nonsense happens all of the time. Matching shirts for someone’s birthday ( with the posts on fb of course )matching shirts for the moms to wear to play day at school. It’s truly ridiculous. Although also matching the kids clothes...I haven’t seen that before.

what state?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like they're friends who have known each other for years. They're cliquish to you simply bc you want that inner circle friendship and repitoire.

You come across as a judgemental and prickly person OP and it shows ever so subtly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like they're friends who have known each other for years. They're cliquish to you simply bc you want that inner circle friendship and repitoire.

You come across as a judgemental and prickly person OP and it shows ever so subtly.

The matching moms found you, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like they're friends who have known each other for years. They're cliquish to you simply bc you want that inner circle friendship and repitoire.

You come across as a judgemental and prickly person OP and it shows ever so subtly.

The matching moms found you, OP.

Omg hahaha. Is this DC’s version of Portlandia? Because I’m here for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live in an exurb and this nonsense happens all of the time. Matching shirts for someone’s birthday ( with the posts on fb of course )matching shirts for the moms to wear to play day at school. It’s truly ridiculous. Although also matching the kids clothes...I haven’t seen that before.

An exurb of DC? I’m horrified. I will not be wearing matching shirts to any kid’s party, ever.

[Anonymous]

OP - where do you live? Need to know if it's in the DC area or not!!

*I'm horrified, by the way. We've been dealing with cliques in our local preschool and now elementary, too (DC area) but nothing this extreme. It's more like "these four girls are dance class, soccer club, and swim lessons together, oh, and we all joined the same pool!" and once we were invited, there were so many inside jokes that DH and I just felt dumb.

[Anonymous]

Matching outfits?! That is so weird. So grown women calling each other to coordinate what they wear to a b-day party? I mean that is really, really weird! My 18 year old dd is kind of coordinating what she and her friend are wearing to Moonrise, but they are not matching it, they are all hoping to stand out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like they're friends who have known each other for years. They're cliquish to you simply bc you want that inner circle friendship and repitoire.

You come across as a judgemental and prickly person OP and it shows ever so subtly.

I am not OP and I am judging these grown women that match outfits. It sounds like they are brainless twits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yeah this sucks. this is why i moved out of Alexandria, i lived on the perfect block but was tired of feeling bad about myself, like an uncool eighth grader. i made an effort, i invited people to our house, i had good halloween candy, etc. but still was not in the core group. then when my 3 and 4 year olds wondered why they weren’t invited to the birthday party with jumpy houses across the street, and clearly everyone fro:the block was there but us, i was like “f. you, cliquey moms” and decided to just find a better fit elsewhere.

Belle Haven?

I had this exact experience in Alexandria! Moved to Bethesda and everyone is so much nicer.. it’s like opposite land. So weird. I think everyone here is successful so this nonsense stops. And almost all the moms work.

[Anonymous]

Guessing you won’t make progress with them after they read your post here, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yeah this sucks. this is why i moved out of Alexandria, i lived on the perfect block but was tired of feeling bad about myself, like an uncool eighth grader. i made an effort, i invited people to our house, i had good halloween candy, etc. but still was not in the core group. then when my 3 and 4 year olds wondered why they weren’t invited to the birthday party with jumpy houses across the street, and clearly everyone fro:the block was there but us, i was like “f. you, cliquey moms” and decided to just find a better fit elsewhere.

Belle Haven?

I had this exact experience in Alexandria! Moved to Bethesda and everyone is so much nicer.. it’s like opposite land. So weird. I think everyone here is successful so this nonsense stops. And almost all the moms work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I live in an exurb and this nonsense happens all of the time. Matching shirts for someone’s birthday ( with the posts on fb of course )matching shirts for the moms to wear to play day at school. It’s truly ridiculous. Although also matching the kids clothes...I haven’t seen that before.

An exurb of DC? I’m horrified. I will not be wearing matching shirts to any kid’s party, ever.

Exurbs of DC are soul sucking places.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - where do you live? Need to know if it's in the DC area or not!!

*I'm horrified, by the way. We've been dealing with cliques in our local preschool and now elementary, too (DC area) but nothing this extreme. It's more like "these four girls are dance class, soccer club, and swim lessons together, oh, and we all joined the same pool!" and once we were invited, there were so many inside jokes that DH and I just felt dumb.

Dumb for wanting to be part of it so badly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's like a window into some alien planet's culture ....

Leave the bubble every now and then, maybe.