OMG - New preschool cliques... the moms!

[Anonymous]

I have a 2yo and would feel bad if we were in this situation. I would not take it personally. My daughter is starting preschool this year and I hope she makes friends. If not, we have friends outside of school.

Being a 30yo high earner doesn’t really put you on a map. I was a high earner now SAHM married to a very high earner. The rich wives often stay home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No way this is real.

They wouldn't have even invited you it the first place.

Yes, they would. These people love nothing more than an audience. After all how can you really know you're part of a super cool club unless you can see who's not part of the group?

OP you need to talk to the director about getting your daughter out of that class!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m pretty sure you outed yourself already. There’s not a lot of matching outfits around here and you even described them.

Yeah... If there were really 4 moms and 4 daughters all wearing matching "Let's Party" outfits they know exactly who you are reading this. I hope you disguised details or live far far away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No way this is real.

They wouldn't have even invited you it the first place.

Yes, they would. These people love nothing more than an audience. After all how can you really know you're part of a super cool club unless you can see who's not part of the group?

OP you need to talk to the director about getting your daughter out of that class!

They are 3.

My middle child was super close to a few boys in his class at age 3. They knew each other since being in the same 2s class. Moms got along and often got together for play dates. Now he is 8 and seems to always be with the cool guys. DS is very social and athletic.

My older child also had a good friend in his preschool but it was just the two of them so probably seems less like a clique. This son is quiet and a loner.

My boys in elementary and it is the same. Some kids seem like they were friends for life, go on vacation together, mention plans without inviting you.

[Anonymous]

These kids can split up in elementary. Of the 4, 1 may get left out. It isn’t always peachy.

I do think Op outed herself. Hope she lives far away.

[Anonymous]

mention plans without inviting you

If kids to this, it's an accident. They haven't been taught manners or aren't paying close enough attention to manners. Adults should never do this. Many do, but they shouldn't ever do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How matching are we talking about here for the mom outfits? Like they all wore blue or they all wore the exact same Lilly Pulitzer dress? How weird I think this is depends on your answer.

Generally I get why you feel left out, but at least you were invited to the party!

OP here. They literally all had on the exact same print yoga pant and same black shirt with print "lets party". All moms and all of their daughters matched. It was just kind of sad to be left out like that. I haven't experienced that in a long time! I know its petty and not a big deal, but it did hurt and i was surprised we are making cliques at age THREE

the only sad thing is you being said about being left out of... this? i wouldn't wear this if they begged me.

[Anonymous]

I'm assuming it's because you're a young mom... Most mom's of 3 year olds are at least 35 around here.

[Anonymous]

They sound trashy. Who wears yoga pants to a party?

[Anonymous]

I’m really hoping one of these idiotic mothers is reading this. Matching “Let’s party” shirts?!?

My oldest is 14 and I’ve never seen such idiocy. And I’ve seen a lot of idiocy...

[Anonymous]

I live in an exurb and this nonsense happens all of the time. Matching shirts for someone’s birthday ( with the posts on fb of course )matching shirts for the moms to wear to play day at school. It’s truly ridiculous. Although also matching the kids clothes...I haven’t seen that before.

[Anonymous]

It's like a window into some alien planet's culture ....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How matching are we talking about here for the mom outfits? Like they all wore blue or they all wore the exact same Lilly Pulitzer dress? How weird I think this is depends on your answer.

Generally I get why you feel left out, but at least you were invited to the party!

OP here. They literally all had on the exact same print yoga pant and same black shirt with print "lets party". All moms and all of their daughters matched. It was just kind of sad to be left out like that. I haven't experienced that in a long time! I know its petty and not a big deal, but it did hurt and i was surprised we are making cliques at age THREE

Did this really happen and did you not ask about it? Like everyone had a matching outfit but you and no one said anything, like "oh we ordered these before you moved here, sorry we didn't have an extra" and you didn't say "why do you have these matching outfits, did we miss a memo?" or anything? The weird part here imo is that this happened and no one said anything?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How matching are we talking about here for the mom outfits? Like they all wore blue or they all wore the exact same Lilly Pulitzer dress? How weird I think this is depends on your answer.

Generally I get why you feel left out, but at least you were invited to the party!

OP here. They literally all had on the exact same print yoga pant and same black shirt with print "lets party". All moms and all of their daughters matched. It was just kind of sad to be left out like that. I haven't experienced that in a long time! I know its petty and not a big deal, but it did hurt and i was surprised we are making cliques at age THREE

Did this really happen and did you not ask about it? Like everyone had a matching outfit but you and no one said anything, like "oh we ordered these before you moved here, sorry we didn't have an extra" and you didn't say "why do you have these matching outfits, did we miss a memo?" or anything? The weird part here imo is that this happened and no one said anything?

Wait also how many people were at the party? Were the matching outfits 4/5 kids or 4/25?

[Anonymous]

I'm glad I live in an "affordable area" with the poors, don't behave to deal with this kind of weirdness.