How to announce a pet to disapproving parents?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is this such an issue if your parents don't live with you and are not supporting you financially? Simply state that you now have a dog and let them say what they want.
My parents live in Asia and have dim views of how Americans treat their pets. I have two giant dogs and don't let ther comments affect me. I keep the dogs gated away from my parents rooms when they visit me and don't allow them to slobber over my parents but otherwise we stick to our routine.

What does the bolded mean?

+1 I am curious too. Asians are know to eat dog and have mass slaughters of dogs. Hmm, dim view?

Take a chill pill and read some of the previous posts where this has been addressed. People are allowed to have opinions different from yours.

So how do you prefer your dog dish prepared?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this such an issue if your parents don't live with you and are not supporting you financially? Simply state that you now have a dog and let them say what they want.
My parents live in Asia and have dim views of how Americans treat their pets. I have two giant dogs and don't let ther comments affect me. I keep the dogs gated away from my parents rooms when they visit me and don't allow them to slobber over my parents but otherwise we stick to our routine.

What does the bolded mean?

+1 I am curious too. Asians are know to eat dog and have mass slaughters of dogs. Hmm, dim view?

Take a chill pill and read some of the previous posts where this has been addressed. People are allowed to have opinions different from yours.

So how do you prefer your dog dish prepared?

Why do people think Asians eat dogs? We don't. Maybe in some parts of Asia but don't tarnish the rest of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The unspoken truth with all these sort of things is that the child can't afford to alienate the parents becaus e they are afraid the parents would disown them and they'l never get that inheritance.

After all what else could it really be about?

+1 more often I think this is true.

[Anonymous]

OP here with an update!

I sent photos of our Christmas, including one of the kids with the dog. A really lovely, sweet, picture.

Now I just have to concoct a story of how we just got this dog before the inevitable phone call tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OP here with an update!

I sent photos of our Christmas, including one of the kids with the dog. A really lovely, sweet, picture.

Now I just have to concoct a story of how we just got this dog before the inevitable phone call tomorrow.

No, you should spent tmrw looking for a therapist not cooking up lies to your long distance parents about how you got a dog

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OP here with an update!

I sent photos of our Christmas, including one of the kids with the dog. A really lovely, sweet, picture.

Now I just have to concoct a story of how we just got this dog before the inevitable phone call tomorrow.

No stories!
“You have a dog?”
“Yeah, we got her a couple years ago. I haven’t told you because I was afraid of judgment, but we are all really happy. How was your holiday?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
OP here with an update!

I sent photos of our Christmas, including one of the kids with the dog. A really lovely, sweet, picture.

Now I just have to concoct a story of how we just got this dog before the inevitable phone call tomorrow.

No stories!
“You have a dog?”
“Yeah, we got her a couple years ago. I haven’t told you because I was afraid of judgment, but we are all really happy. How was your holiday?”

This is perfect.

Do not lie, OP. You have caused stress for yourself by hiding this dog from them, but you have done nothing wrong except made your own life more stressful. But lying about the dog would be wrong. A few simple lines to practice:

[Mom starts harangue about how awful the dog is going to be]
You: we’ve had him for a year now and he has brought a lot of joy and laughter to our home.

[Anonymous]

Them: "You didn't tell us you had a dog! They're so much work! How could you? You're already so busy! Why didn't you tell us?"

You: "Fido is sweet, and we're so happy we got him. How was Christmas?"

[Anonymous]

Dogs are a lot of work. People who don't understand this don't get it.

[Anonymous]

I think the obsession people have with their dogs is out of control - taking their dogs with them everywhere, like they're a child's security blanket.

But what may be even weirder, is pining for your parents approval when you're an adult.

Why on earth do you care, OP? As long as you're fully responsible with your pet and don't bother other people with it, it's your decision. You're an adult. You don't need to please mommy and daddy anymore.

[Anonymous]

It is your house and you can have ten dogs and ten cats if you choose. It is none of their business.

[Anonymous]

My MIL always thinks I am too busy. I think she is lazy so we cancel each other out. Otherwise, we get along great.

When she says “oh, you are so busy!” Say “just the way I like it!” In a cheery tone and move on. Don’t complain to her ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OP here with an update!

I sent photos of our Christmas, including one of the kids with the dog. A really lovely, sweet, picture.

Now I just have to concoct a story of how we just got this dog before the inevitable phone call tomorrow.

Did you pay zero attention to the previous posts? Do you plan to read the posts that follow this one? Do what a poster above says and tell your mom you've had the dog a while. Then do what a couple of us also said and find a therapist.

Do not "concoct a story." Stop that immaturity. You own the dog, now it's time to own your choices and stop catering to mom's critical ways by bending yourself into a pretzel to lie to her.

I've said it above but here goes again: Are you going to keep concocting stories for mom when the stakes are MUCH higher than a dog? Do you plan to lie to her the rest of your life and create stories when you fear she'll object to something one of your kids does? Adults don't act this way, OP. For your kids' sake stop the concocting and get help for your fear of mom's disapproval.

[Anonymous]

Bitch
I got a bitch
Fight me

[Anonymous]

Hang up on them when they call?

My mom has her own hangouts but I ignore her lectures
And got a dog even when she didn’t approve and
Guess what? We survived and now she can’t imagine life without her granddog

I’m also direct and if mom is being a bigot/prejudice I call
Her out so. We live one life and I’d rather live it with happiness doing what I want then worrying what someone
Who is so narrowed minded thinks. Their thoughts aren’t worth much then.