Punishment: No Christmas?

[Anonymous]

Great, after you "cancel Christmas" what punishment will you come up with next? You can't punish your way out of every situation. Only a fool continues with a certain course of action when it's clearly not working.

[Anonymous]

That won’t work and will backfire. Talk to her. She’s probably just a social teen and many are chronically late to class. I’m a high school teacher.

I was late to some classes and my parents were hard on me. I skipped school at times because I’d rather be hanging out with my friends. I needed to mature and there is nothing they could have done, except take away access to a car during the school day. Taking away Christmas would have made my behavior as a teen much worse, not better.

[Anonymous]

I'd buy the presents but withhold them until grades come up.

Also, add the carrot to the stick. Bribery per grade.

[Anonymous]

Do not use Christmas as a punishment.

Is spouse the dad?

[Anonymous]

Probably vaping

[Anonymous]

She is late for class because she opportunities to see her friends.

Your parenting strategy is like that song about the "big muddy" and it will end the same.

Stop escalating. Use Christmas break as a chance to rethink and regroup.

[Anonymous]

Have you talked to the school? I am sure she is not the only teen with this type of issue. I would set up an appointment with her counselor for help. I would not cancel Christmas. Family time is too precious. Grades do not matter that much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is late for class because she opportunities to see her friends.

Your parenting strategy is like that song about the "big muddy" and it will end the same.

Stop escalating. Use Christmas break as a chance to rethink and regroup.

Oh, PP, thank you for that opportunity.

Here it is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uXnJVkEX8O4

[Anonymous]

Because nothing says Christmas better than conditional love, amiright?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do any of us know why our children are depressed, have anxiety, need educational coaches? Serious question.

School is too demanding, children in middle school are not developmentally able to handle the high level executive functions required Of them.

Social media plus parents giving younger and younger kids access to smart phones.

[Anonymous]

And make sure you hug your child today - no matter how late they are or what assignments they did not turn in.

The parent's from Sandy Hook who sent their 1st graders to school do not get to have these conversations with their 7th graders today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And make sure you hug your child today - no matter how late they are or what assignments they did not turn in.

The parent's from Sandy Hook who sent their 1st graders to school do not get to have these conversations with their 7th graders today.

OMG - this is sooo true. Thank you for this. My DS is the same way 10th grade. Sometimes we loose track of what's important. Don't cancel x-mas.

[Anonymous]

This generation of children suck, because parents lack the strong bone house hold. Every parent is judged for there parenting by other parents or even worse non parenting adults. If you think that some way through to your child is discipline and no christmas then do it. I would take the kid shopping have her pick out all the things she ever wanted and take her straight to the donation center or orphanage and drop it off to the kids without a christmas no matter how good they are there is no christmas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her if she doesn't make it to class on time EVERY SINGLE CLASS next week, you will take off work and start attending class with her. Tell her teachers.

You might have to show up once but that will be the last time. Embarrass the heck out of her.

This. It will probably on take one day. You are never going to follow through with the cancel christmas thing. It is just not a realistic punishment.

That’s too restrictive- if she messes up once it eliminates the incentive to show up on time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is late for class because she opportunities to see her friends.

Your parenting strategy is like that song about the "big muddy" and it will end the same.

Stop escalating. Use Christmas break as a chance to rethink and regroup.

+1 taking away her means of communication with her friends is going to make it worse not better