Punishment: No Christmas?

[Anonymous]

Sounds exactly like my child who is a Junior, he is SLD (slow processing), ED (depression) and ADD. He takes medicine and sees a psychologist 2 times a week and we just started a behavior plan for him. I't is working, he is making it to class he will earn a reward when DC makes it to the goal of 10 on time arrivals. It had gotten bad, due to DC avoiding class, the work is too hard but he still needs to show up.

Take her to be evaluated, she is showing you that there is a problem,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds exactly like my child who is a Junior, he is SLD (slow processing), ED (depression) and ADD. He takes medicine and sees a psychologist 2 times a week and we just started a behavior plan for him. I't is working, he is making it to class he will earn a reward when DC makes it to the goal of 10 on time arrivals. It had gotten bad, due to DC avoiding class, the work is too hard but he still needs to show up.

Take her to be evaluated, she is showing you that there is a problem,

It doesn't sound like your child as OP doesn't know what is going on and you do.

[Anonymous]

Parenting sounds sub par to me—you need to figure out the issue, instead of just taking crap away. My guess is that her issues have been going on a long time and you’ve really dropped the ball here.

[Anonymous]

Tell her if she doesn't make it to class on time EVERY SINGLE CLASS next week, you will take off work and start attending class with her. Tell her teachers.

You might have to show up once but that will be the last time. Embarrass the heck out of her.

[Anonymous]

How sad. Instead of helping your daughter and trying to figure out the root of her issues and giving her tools to succeed, you just punish punish punish.

[Anonymous]

No!! Keep it separate from Christmas!

[Anonymous]

Don't do it- she'll never ever forget it. Can you imagine having that memory as an adult? "The year was 2018, and my parents canceled Christmas".

How about getting her an organizational coach.

[Anonymous]

Yeesh, are you trying to get her to change her behavior, or punish her so severely that you manage to convince her that your love is conditional?

[Anonymous]

Geez, pick up a parenting book OP. Harsh punishments don't work. What do you think you are going to accomplish by taking away Christmas?

[Anonymous]

It’s a holiday for the birth of a Redeemer who preached forgiveness.

Not a day about punishment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parenting sounds sub par to me—you need to figure out the issue, instead of just taking crap away. My guess is that her issues have been going on a long time and you’ve really dropped the ball here.

Who the heck are you ?! I’m not OP but I am offended on OP’s behalf. How is this response in any way useful. What does it even matter if the parenting is “subpar” (which I find jo evidence here to support). It is what it is and OP is obviously trying to move forward and find solutions. How is shaming going to help here? Is this how you parent? YOU sound like a subpar parent.

[Anonymous]

Well since Christmas is not about presents, I’m not sure what the big deal is.

I would still celebrate the holiday. Church and family time are a lovely way to celebrate.

That being said, it does sound like time management maybe beyond her control at this point. I would look into helping her manage that better.

[Anonymous]

Spend time figuring out why your child is in crisis. Stop spending time thinking of punishments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A family member and his parents went through this; they said he was just unmotivated. He barely graduated from high school and joined the army, where they were able to determine he has learning problems. After serving his enlistment, he's gotten more support from the VA than he's ever gotten from his parents, who are UMC and still in denial.

If he had been evaluated, tested, and the problem figured out ... he would be doing so much better now.

She is the child and you are the parent OP. Get her help and figure out what the problem is, instead of punishing her. If she doesn't know how to fix what's wrong, punishment will do no good.

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[Anonymous]