Feeling like my parents don't care about my marriage

[Anonymous]

This should maybe be posted in the lgbtq forum. I think the answers would be different. In the end, everyone is an adult and adults aren't required to acknowledge other adults milestones, anniversaries or birthdays. Op, you need to get therapy. Your parents are treating you like an adult. I don't think my parents have ever acknowledged my wedding anniversary, they even have trouble remembering their own.

[Anonymous]

You have got to be a troll. I cannot imagine a man who would be so hung up about this. Heck, men don't even remember their own anniversaries LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This should maybe be posted in the lgbtq forum. I think the answers would be different. In the end, everyone is an adult and adults aren't required to acknowledge other adults milestones, anniversaries or birthdays. Op, you need to get therapy. Your parents are treating you like an adult. I don't think my parents have ever acknowledged my wedding anniversary, they even have trouble remembering their own.

Not for me. I'm a straight woman, and I routinely forget the date of my own anniversary, let alone other people's. I didn't celebrate the signing on our first house, beyond perhaps going out to a casual dinner with DH and the kids, and wouldn't expect someone else to make a big deal out of it. Why would they?

So I really, really, cannot relate to OP, and it has nothing to do with his or her orientation.

[Anonymous]

OP - you don't get to be a whiny child any longer. You are an adult now. You are someone's spouse. If you want to be, you can be someone's parent. That's adult world stuff. Go forward and be whatever adult you want to be - and if that's being better at adulting, better at caring than your parents, so be it.

[Anonymous]

OK this is how you feel whether or not any of us get it. I think you should talk with a therapist, though, because you need help getting to the point where you accept your parents where they are

[Anonymous]

Also, I think the gift they gave you was thoughtful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound absolutely exhausting and immature. They acknowledged your anniversary but you didn’t like how they acknowledged it. I honestly expect better behavior from my 11 year old.

+1

The fact that you think this is a real problem speaks volumes about you. Your poor parents.

[Anonymous]

If OP is gay and her parents have had an issue with it in the past, I could see why she is feel sensitive about these issues.

If OP is a man...I have no words.

Really believe op is a woman though who suspects her parents wish she had married a man.

[Anonymous]

OP definitely comes across as female. Men just don’t obsess over nuanced interactions on an emotional level. It’s not the responsibility of parents to applaud every bowel movement once you’ve mastered the flush. I can’t imagine the spouse if OP is the one describing her as sensitive.

[Anonymous]

OP is definitely a woman. Not even the most insecure, immature man on the planet would write that.

If it’s not a troll post, OP, you sound 11 years old. Grow up. You live with your spouse now and not your mommy. Move on. Do not call mommy when you buy a house or wash the dog or anything else. It’s ridiculous. A pregnancy yes maybe. Nothing else.

Totally exhausting!

[Anonymous]

I doubt my parents even know when my anniversary is. It is NBD in my book. I concur with the suggestion of therapy....desperately seeking validation from your parents on this issue is not normal for a man or a woman.

[Anonymous]

Parents can never win.

[Anonymous]

What if op’s parents reacted poorly when OP came out? Perhaps they were the types to assume it was a phase she would outgrow. Now that OP is married to a woman, she is still sensitive to their initial response and looking for slights.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP are you a man or woman?

Woman is my guess

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - you don't get to be a whiny child any longer. You are an adult now. You are someone's spouse. If you want to be, you can be someone's parent. That's adult world stuff. Go forward and be whatever adult you want to be - and if that's being better at adulting, better at caring than your parents, so be it.

No if OP is a woman it’s okay. If OP is a man he should not be whinny.