Question for Women - Dating advice for 51 year old man.

[Anonymous]

For online dating, two photos only. One headshot, and one full length shot, maybe an action shot of you on a motorcycle or golfing or at a tennis court.

Brief summary of your likes and interests in music, entertainment, cultural events and activities

Meet for coffee. If you both hit it off, ask for a date. Make the date something fun like hiking or kayaking or site seeing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“How do women not understand this? It's about sex. 35 year old sex is better than 55 year old sex.”

How do you not understand that a 35 y.o. women who is heading towards her sexual peak in her 40’s is a terrible match sexually with a 55 y.o. guy who can’t get and stay hard? They may be a good match in terms of him wanting someone to be his caretaker and her wanting someone to support her (though few men can afford that if they have a family from their first marriage). But if it’s “about sex,” then a guy looking at young women doesn’t really know anything about women and sex.

+1

Nailed it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This will probably be attacked, but as a recently divorced, fit, sane, attractive, realistic 49 year old man, the idea of starting a serious relationship with a woman over the age of, say, 41 is simply laughable. It's a nonstarter.

As for OP-don't buy the hype that you're relegated to 54 year old cat ladies. Every single one of my buddies that have been divorced ended up with a younger, prettier woman. Without exception.

The whole 'creepy old man looking for teenage girl' crap is just that. Crap.

Oh, and my ex is 40.

Good for you -- but you obviously prefer younger women. And you end up single again. Big woo.

Oh, a little summer fun with someone that has a little cash. It's a win-win for a young girl. They then do home to their younger boyfriends.

Seriously. I love how the 50 year old dudes act like they’re the ones orchestrating the whole situation. These women get what they want then leave. Just ask anyone who works in elder care. These guys end up dying alone.

+1

[Anonymous]

I am a NP and a 54 yo man. I could not imagine dating anyone young enough that our life experiences are completely different. Ok. I would bang a 20 something, because I am male. But, our conversation would end the minute I make a reference to the first gulf war, and she was not born yet. (I was an adult).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Despite what you read here, women expect a man of your age to have his finances in order. Take a picture wearing your most expensive outfit and be sure to include and fancy jewelry you might own. If you are well endowed, wear tight pants to show that off. Leaving your shirt unbuttoned so we can see if you have nice chest hair is also a plus. If you own a nice car or especially a boat then we need to know that too.
Basically seel yourself on why I should pick you over the 100s of options out there

Ignore this op.

+1 Absurd.

[Anonymous]

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9. Read Modern Romance by Asis Anzari for a good examination of current dating behaviors and good tips on how to do it better.

Really? Aziz Ansari? For dating tips?



OP no don’t do this hahaha! Hopefully, you know why and if not, be current and relevant! If you just want sex you know your range. If you want FWB don’t dismiss 50ish, some are incredible in bed and look closer to 40 (without work). Promise! Just get a look and don’t pursue further, if they don’t turn you on. Don’t lower your standards or age range.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jennifer Lopez is 48. Mariah Carey is 48. Halle Berry is 51. Lucy Lui is 50. Naomi Watts is 50.

The list of attractive women over the age of 45 continues.

Age is just a number OP.

I am a 48 year old woman, single, no kids, had my tubes tied. Healthy, fun, petite, and had a blast at my 30 year high school reunion.

The women in my class are able to stay younger with hair styles and staying fit and wearing nice clothes. The men can't hide their age as well.

It's just so much more fun for me and for the guys to be around people our own age, not too old and not too young.

We have the same cultural and historical references and like the same music.

Men who just want to date a younger woman for the sake of impressing other men or proving they still got it, are probably shallow and not able to commit to long term relationships.

48 and never married: OP, you should see if any 35 year olds might be interested. They’re probably less set in their ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a NP and a 54 yo man. I could not imagine dating anyone young enough that our life experiences are completely different. Ok. I would bang a 20 something, because I am male. But, our conversation would end the minute I make a reference to the first gulf war, and she was not born yet. (I was an adult).

Finally—a sane response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a NP and a 54 yo man. I could not imagine dating anyone young enough that our life experiences are completely different. Ok. I would bang a 20 something, because I am male. But, our conversation would end the minute I make a reference to the first gulf war, and she was not born yet. (I was an adult).

Finally—a sane response.

To each his own. I’m 50 and I don’t care if they loved through the Gulf War. Younger people have their own cultural experiences that I loved through. Younger women are much less set in their ways and usually have less baggage. Go for a smart one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a NP and a 54 yo man. I could not imagine dating anyone young enough that our life experiences are completely different. Ok. I would bang a 20 something, because I am male. But, our conversation would end the minute I make a reference to the first gulf war, and she was not born yet. (I was an adult).

Finally—a sane response.

No, there's lots of sane responses here (and yes, crazy ones). Advice was offered up thread that the floor should be half your age plus seven years. That's pretty good and it's a floor, not a goal. It also applies to women.

FWIW, I am male and just a little younger than pp with his 20 something example. I've been on both sides of the seven year rule, with older women and with younger women. If you're inside of the rule, you have a real shot at a meaningful relationship. You can relate to and enjoy one another outside of the sack (sex was astounding in both of my experiences, for both parties, in case anyone's wondering and you know you are).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Despite what you read here, women expect a man of your age to have his finances in order. Take a picture wearing your most expensive outfit and be sure to include and fancy jewelry you might own. If you are well endowed, wear tight pants to show that off. Leaving your shirt unbuttoned so we can see if you have nice chest hair is also a plus. If you own a nice car or especially a boat then we need to know that too.
Basically seel yourself on why I should pick you over the 100s of options out there

WTF

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[

9. Read Modern Romance by Asis Anzari for a good examination of current dating behaviors and good tips on how to do it better.

Really? Aziz Ansari? For dating tips?



OP no don’t do this hahaha! Hopefully, you know why and if not, be current and relevant! If you just want sex you know your range. If you want FWB don’t dismiss 50ish, some are incredible in bed and look closer to 40 (without work). Promise! Just get a look and don’t pursue further, if they don’t turn you on. Don’t lower your standards or age range.

Really. This has nothing to do with his own dating behavior. This is a book based on studies he did with a sociologist and is very insightful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Despite what you read here, women expect a man of your age to have his finances in order. Take a picture wearing your most expensive outfit and be sure to include and fancy jewelry you might own. If you are well endowed, wear tight pants to show that off. Leaving your shirt unbuttoned so we can see if you have nice chest hair is also a plus. If you own a nice car or especially a boat then we need to know that too.
Basically seel yourself on why I should pick you over the 100s of options out there

This is such BS

[Anonymous]

Very surprising to hear people speak of age as something static- "I have a 39 yo gf but can't imagine dating a 42yo woman and up"- So are you saying that if you met your gf at 42, you would have automatically ruled her out? Why is age the overriding criteria? It's shallow and doesn't make good sense. Instead of thinking of numbers, take the person as a whole. If a woman is in your 'age range' criteria but is a crazy psycho, I don't think she'd make a good prospective partner even though she's above 40. Similarly, if you meet a 30-something or 50-something who is sane and sexy, don't pass her up just because she's not 'of age'.

[Anonymous]

Why is age the overriding criteria?

It isn’t. Looks are. And how fun she is in the sack.