Preschooler didn’t not get to go outside for recess

[Anonymous]

If it was a licensed child care center in DC, taking away recess is not an allowed punishment.

[Anonymous]

OP, you really overreacted. You should call the school and apologize.

I seriously hope you learn a lesson from this, but based on your post, I doubt you have the self-awareness to.

God help his future teachers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only other options are whacking his butt or tying him to a teacher - this seems better. Do you realize that your child could die running off like this??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it was a licensed child care center in DC, taking away recess is not an allowed punishment.

Is expulsion?

[Anonymous]

At 4, having to stay inside for recess will teach him to listen the next time. At 2, I’d say not appropriate yet. You need to be teaching him to listen to you as well so it’s not so hard on the teachers when they have numerous kids whose safety they’re responsible for. Sorry Op! But, let’s hope it only took one time.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think I’ve ever seen such consensus on DCUM. Op, I hope that tells you something—you were absolutely wrong in this situation.

[Anonymous]

OP, do yourself (and your kid) a favor and apologize tomorrow. Say you have thought about your actions, and the school was absolutely correct in their response. State your appreciation for the teachers, recognition that your son's behavior has been unacceptable and challenging for them to deal with, and note you will be implementing similar consequences at home for consistency when your son exhibits this behavior.

[Anonymous]

Punishing kids sucks. Trust me the teachers never want to punish their students. However, your child needs to understand that when a grown up calls him to go inside, hiding or running a away is against the rules. If he can’t follow the recess rules he can’t go outside to play. They need to explain it’s not safe and make sure he understands the rules. I would’ve been sad if my kid had to skip recess for doing what yours did but I’d understand the school’s reason for it. Safety is the most important thing.

My child did this at 2- like all the time. He had serious behavior issues at 2. More then the average. The only thing that worked was appropriate and timely punishment. His punishment of no recess was totally appropriate. If my child acted out at the playground I would carry him out kicking and screaming and hen we could try again tomorrow. Tell your son why he didn’t have recess today and that he can try again tomorrow. What happened today is a good thing in the long run. I am so glad my son doesn’t do this type of behavior anymore. I can’t imagine chasing a 4 year old or having him hide from me.

Let the teachers do their job and trust them. If you don’t then switch schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it was a licensed child care center in DC, taking away recess is not an allowed punishment.

It actually is allowed if recess itself is the problem. This was a “you screamed in class, that’s a black mark ergo no recess” punishment; it was a “you can’t safely have recess, so we had to take it away” consequence.

Imagine two boys in a fiat fight at the beginning of recess that other kids are getting drawn into. You really think a school can’t take the offenders inside for the duration of recess because that’s taking away recess as a punishment? Wrong. Reaction for safety. Same hung here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 4yr old is going through a terrible phase of running off when told it’s time to go inside from the playground. He does it with us and we often end up having to chase him, he thinks it’s a game. When his class lines up he takes off running and a teacher usually has to catch him and walk him inside. They have tried rewards, letting him be the line leader or door holder to try and give him incentive to line up but he thinks it’s hilarious to make people chase him and have all of his friend yelling for him to line up. Well this morning when it was time to line up, he hid and the teachers couldn’t find him. They finally found him underneath a slide. This afternoon they did not allow him to go outside. When I arrived he was sitting in the office with a puzzle, no longer crying but could tell he had been. I was furious. I understand he should not have hid but he is 4 not 10, and an active boy. He was extremely sad about not getting to go outside with his friends. I told the the assistant director that he is to never be forced to stay inside, and that they needed to understand how developmentally in appropriate this consequence was. My husband thinks I over reacted but I thought schools were not allowed to take away outdoor time. How would you have reacted to this scenario?

Wow. I hope the administration kicks your kid out of their school. You are fecking ridiculous

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you really overreacted. You should call the school and apologize.

I seriously hope you learn a lesson from this, but based on your post, I doubt you have the self-awareness to.

God help his future teachers.

Op is one of the most entitled posts I have ever read on DCUM and i joined a million years ago. Snowflake mom begets poorly behaved child.

[Anonymous]

Make your rotten kid doing something nice for his teachers. Turn him around before it's too late. Get help, OP. You can learn to become the mother he desperately needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 4yr old is going through a terrible phase of running off when told it’s time to go inside from the playground. He does it with us and we often end up having to chase him, he thinks it’s a game. When his class lines up he takes off running and a teacher usually has to catch him and walk him inside. They have tried rewards, letting him be the line leader or door holder to try and give him incentive to line up but he thinks it’s hilarious to make people chase him and have all of his friend yelling for him to line up. Well this morning when it was time to line up, he hid and the teachers couldn’t find him. They finally found him underneath a slide. This afternoon they did not allow him to go outside. When I arrived he was sitting in the office with a puzzle, no longer crying but could tell he had been. I was furious. I understand he should not have hid but he is 4 not 10, and an active boy. He was extremely sad about not getting to go outside with his friends. I told the the assistant director that he is to never be forced to stay inside, and that they needed to understand how developmentally in appropriate this consequence was. My husband thinks I over reacted but I thought schools were not allowed to take away outdoor time. How would you have reacted to this scenario?

Wow. I hope the administration kicks your kid out of their school. You are fecking ridiculous

Friday at pick up time is the most common time to terminate care. If they have been told they can't keep him in for recess tomorrow, they may opt to terminate when she goes to drop off.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm not going to pile on because I had a child who did stuff like this. He used to refuse to walk back from the park and I would get furious calls from the director telling me that I had to do something about it. We took it as a sign that it was just a bad fit and moved him.

I can't tell you that this move was the happy ending; we didn't choose all that well and pulled him from the new place after just a few weeks. We wound up keeping him home with a nanny for about 6 months until he started kindergarten. I worried a lot but he has never once had a disciplinary issue since starting elementary school 4 years ago.

I understand your unhappiness about losing recess - ideally it should have been discussed as a potential consequence before it happened. This would have enabled you to help reinforce the need to follow the rules, possibly helping to curtail the disobedience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 4yr old is going through a terrible phase of running off when told it’s time to go inside from the playground. He does it with us and we often end up having to chase him, he thinks it’s a game. When his class lines up he takes off running and a teacher usually has to catch him and walk him inside. They have tried rewards, letting him be the line leader or door holder to try and give him incentive to line up but he thinks it’s hilarious to make people chase him and have all of his friend yelling for him to line up. Well this morning when it was time to line up, he hid and the teachers couldn’t find him. They finally found him underneath a slide. This afternoon they did not allow him to go outside. When I arrived he was sitting in the office with a puzzle, no longer crying but could tell he had been. I was furious. I understand he should not have hid but he is 4 not 10, and an active boy. He was extremely sad about not getting to go outside with his friends. I told the the assistant director that he is to never be forced to stay inside, and that they needed to understand how developmentally in appropriate this consequence was. My husband thinks I over reacted but I thought schools were not allowed to take away outdoor time. How would you have reacted to this scenario?

Wow. I hope the administration kicks your kid out of their school. You are fecking ridiculous

Friday at pick up time is the most common time to terminate care. If they have been told they can't keep him in for recess tomorrow, they may opt to terminate when she goes to drop off.

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I hope they do and make OP rethink her attitude. She's not doing her son any favors.