Preschooler didn’t not get to go outside for recess

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Totally appropriate punishment.

+1


He’s 4, not 18mos.

[Anonymous]

I get the sense that OP doesn't really expect her little prince to be obedient. Not now, not ever. She'll always have an excuse for him. Always.

This is exactly how to groom a disastrous human being.
Mark my words, OP.

Why do mothers do this to their little boys?
Fathers typically don't spoil their boys rotten.

[Anonymous]

I think you're lucky they are continuing to let him attend school there. You need to make sure he understands that he cannot run away and you and him need to apologize to the teachers for his past behavior. It sounds like his teachers/school did what they had to to ensure his safety. You should be appreciative that they care enough to keep him safe rather than let him back outside to run away again.

[Anonymous]

Appropriate consequence. Your kid needs to listen, this isn't funny.

[Anonymous]

I would take away recess for at least a week. If the behavior continued after that I would never let him outside again for recess.

[Anonymous]

OMG, I remember a kid in my DS’s 2’s class doing this. At 4 it is ridiculous. I am generally opposed to teachers/schools taking away recess for misbehavior but that is totally appropriate here. I’m assuming this is a private preschool. If your kid can’t behave reasonably well in a group setting, they can ask him to leave the school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Furious? At yourself right? Because there teachers absolutely did the right thing.
And line leader? Children shouldn't be "rewarded" for not being able to control themselves; you were lucky they even entertained that.

You are incorrect, PP. Getting a child's buy-in is an excellent way to get better behavior. It's a good preschool that knows this and implements this. However, it doesn't always work. As we all know, there's no solution that works all the time for every child.

OP, a child shouldn't have recess taken away for misbehavior. However, for safety reasons, it sounds like he is unable to have recess outside for now. Possibly for a long time, since it will probably take him a long time to learn and understand this lesson. Kids learn when they are ready, and it sounds like your DS isn't ready to learn the rule about coming in when it's time to come in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Totally appropriate punishment.

+1. OP my 4 year old is a runner too. He does not go outside with the group. He could only run around in the gym. Alone. By himself. Totally appropriate. After about of that, he stop running away.

[Anonymous]

^After about a week of that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Totally appropriate punishment.

+1. OP my 4 year old is a runner too. He does not go outside with the group. He could only run around in the gym. Alone. By himself. Totally appropriate. After about of that, he stop running away.

Truly genius. Op? What do you think?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 4yr old is going through a terrible phase of running off when told it’s time to go inside from the playground. He does it with us and we often end up having to chase him, he thinks it’s a game. When his class lines up he takes off running and a teacher usually has to catch him and walk him inside. They have tried rewards, letting him be the line leader or door holder to try and give him incentive to line up but he thinks it’s hilarious to make people chase him and have all of his friend yelling for him to line up. Well this morning when it was time to line up, he hid and the teachers couldn’t find him. They finally found him underneath a slide. This afternoon they did not allow him to go outside. When I arrived he was sitting in the office with a puzzle, no longer crying but could tell he had been. I was furious. I understand he should not have hid but he is 4 not 10, and an active boy. He was extremely sad about not getting to go outside with his friends. I told the the assistant director that he is to never be forced to stay inside, and that they needed to understand how developmentally in appropriate this consequence was. My husband thinks I over reacted but I thought schools were not allowed to take away outdoor time. How would you have reacted to this scenario?

OP, what do you think they should have done?

[Anonymous]

I would be disappointed if my 4yo consistently behaves in this manner. The school has made a totally reasonable decision and you are being ridiculous , op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like it is long, long overdue for him to have consequences for bad behavior. That is how children learn to behave better. The teachers are responsible for keeping multiple children safe. At four, he is old enough to know what he should be doing, but he is choosing to misbehave because there are no consequences. They shouldn’t use denying recess as a penalty for other in class behaviors. They certainly should react to bad behavior at recess by not allowing him to go out if he can’t behave. That’s a measured, correct response to try to teach him to behave. If you’re unable to see this, and unable to figure out you’re raising him to do what he wants (which will not end well in his teen aged years) than you have serious parenting deficiencies. Perhaps they are having to deal with his bad behavior because you have failed to do so.

+100, taking away recess was appropriate in this scenario

I also think you should be more supportive of his teachers. Hopefully after thinking about it rationally you will understand their position.

[Anonymous]

What would you expect them to do OP? He's had how many chances to show he knows how to line up, and how many times has he run the other way or hid?

[Anonymous]

I am sure some of this is just embarrassment that you have such a poorly behaved child. Continually running after a 4 year old is not an age appropriate issue.

Your child is bad. He hasn't learned boundaries or expectations or how to be obedient and do as he is told.


You owe the school an apology for your bad behavior. Your lack of knowledge of age appropriate behavior is scary. You are 'that' mom.