Is this an emotional affair?

[Anonymous]

"He thinks he tried to kiss her in the Uber but isn't sure what happened."

He should have taken that to his grave. I was completely drugged out of my mind once (had a slight problem) and got a blow job at a strip club. When I realized what was going on I rolled out.

I told her and it just hurt her more than it was worth. I felt horrible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Go to where they were and ask the servers or bartenders what they saw? As a last resort call the woman. A kiss is terrible but definitely not grounds for divorce.

Yeah, geez, forget about it. She’s 50 and he was drunk - forget about it. He must be embarrassed. Ask him how he’s going to show his face at work again though.

"She's 50, funny and outgoing". These posters make it sound like this woman is 90. [b]I am 52 and definitely have had younger men hit on me. Geez.[b]

That’s embarrassing! And I’m 50 too. Time for a grip on reality.

What's embarrassing? That you're an unattractive 50 and younger men don't come on to you? There are 50 year olds and 50 year olds, and the first one has obviously got it going on. You don't.

[Anonymous]

OP here with an update. He said he apologized to her for his inappropriate behavior and she kind of laughed him off. She said when he started rubbing her leg at the first bar and they were talking about something sexual (won't go into specifics here as I don't want this to get moved to the explicit section) she admitted she should've shut it down. She said she felt bad for the waitress at the second bar because she's probably used to seeing people drunk at 2 am; not 2 pm and it seemed like the waitress felt like she was interrupting something. I appreciate that he was forthcoming but in some ways, I'm almost more pissed off because of what he told me. I know it sounds crazy, but even though she's 50, I can almost see why he would find her attractive. She's really outgoing, wiitty, smart, super-involved in a local charity, attractive and a very involved Mom. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

OP- thanks for the update but you know, that was just worse than your original post.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a drinking problem especially since she knew he was wasted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- thanks for the update but you know, that was just worse than your original post.

Yeah, that's pretty terrible. Better jump on that before he goes into fantasy high. I would suggest counseling.

[Anonymous]

He's an idiot for multiple reasons.

1. Getting too hammered.
2. Making a move on someone annoying and unattractive.
3. Immediately admitting to such a boneheaded move.
4. Pissing off his wife.

Why is he so wrecked?

I doubt this lady even wanted to be anywhere near him. It's unclear if she was receptive to the gestures.

[Anonymous]

OP, he was rubbing on her leg and talking about sex at the first bar, they moved to two more and he tried to kiss her? They may have been celebrating a deal, but he wanted to celebrate with much more than just booze. And now that he knows that you'll take his attempt to cheat on you with perfect equilibrium and swallow his version of the truth without question, I give it 6 months tops before he's getting it in with someone else.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Go to where they were and ask the servers or bartenders what they saw? As a last resort call the woman. A kiss is terrible but definitely not grounds for divorce.

Yeah, geez, forget about it. She’s 50 and he was drunk - forget about it. He must be embarrassed. Ask him how he’s going to show his face at work again though.

"She's 50, funny and outgoing". These posters make it sound like this woman is 90. [b]I am 52 and definitely have had younger men hit on me. Geez.[b]

That’s embarrassing! And I’m 50 too. Time for a grip on reality.

What's embarrassing? That you're an unattractive 50 and younger men don't come on to you? There are 50 year olds and 50 year olds, and the first one has obviously got it going on. You don't.

Hitting on and expecting to be hit on by younger guys is not exactly classy.

[Anonymous]

hope you guys don’t have kids, your husband sounds childish and you are blind to what’s happening. he is immature for not divorcing before cheating, you are blind to the affair and it’s odd you seem to be ok with your husbands behavior. why are you praising this other women, do you want out also?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's an idiot for multiple reasons.

1. Getting too hammered.
2. Making a move on someone annoying and unattractive.
3. Immediately admitting to such a boneheaded move.
4. Pissing off his wife.

Why is he so wrecked?

I doubt this lady even wanted to be anywhere near him. It's unclear if she was receptive to the gestures.

OP says that this woman is attractive, funny, etc- where do you get your second statement in your list? I’m in my 30’s but I’ve seen some women in their late 40’s early 50’s who look amazing (and a lot of thirty somethings- men and women- who are out of shape, dress poorly, need to up personal grooming, etc). Maybe the OP is beautiful and fit with an equally good looking spouse- or maybe not. Same with the coworker, but it’s simplistic to think age is the only deciding factor in attraction.

Agree though it was dumb to tell the wife. He should have learned a lesson, kept his mouth shut, and decide it was a one time mistake. No need to create drama at home (if all they did was kiss... big if)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Go to where they were and ask the servers or bartenders what they saw? As a last resort call the woman. A kiss is terrible but definitely not grounds for divorce.

Yeah, geez, forget about it. She’s 50 and he was drunk - forget about it. He must be embarrassed. Ask him how he’s going to show his face at work again though.

"She's 50, funny and outgoing". These posters make it sound like this woman is 90. [b]I am 52 and definitely have had younger men hit on me. Geez.[b]

That’s embarrassing! And I’m 50 too. Time for a grip on reality.

What's embarrassing? That you're an unattractive 50 and younger men don't come on to you? There are 50 year olds and 50 year olds, and the first one has obviously got it going on. You don't.

Hitting on and expecting to be hit on by younger guys is not exactly classy.

I’m in my late thirties - I get hit on by younger guys; that makes my actions not classy? Ok? How silly. I prefer older guys generally but I think men are attracted to beautiful women. Usually young women are in better shape, not overweight, pretty faces etc... but while not perfect (far from it!) I'm 5'7, 126 lbs, in the gym 4-5 a week, no wrinkles yet - so shockingly, some men seem to like my look v a 27 yr old with 60 extra lbs and bad skin. Why do people get worked up over insisting this can't be true. I promise you if you look good some men will be interested (some won't , who cares). Relax

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, he was rubbing on her leg and talking about sex at the first bar, they moved to two more and he tried to kiss her? They may have been celebrating a deal, but he wanted to celebrate with much more than just booze. And now that he knows that you'll take his attempt to cheat on you with perfect equilibrium and swallow his version of the truth without question, I give it 6 months tops before he's getting it in with someone else.

Yep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. Your husband is a moron. You never tell your wife anything about the side piece.
2. Sounds like he is getting involved with my ex-wife. He'll be sorry if he goes there....

This.. What an idiot!

[Anonymous]

No. It isn't an emotional affair. It's your husband being gross and lecherous.