He broke up with me because he said that I nag too much

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More like she'll be celebrating. Either option is a hell of a lot better than being at DCUM "my lazy man baby won't lift a finger and says childcare is 'not his problem'"

The odds of this are as slim as you shutting your big mouth: Slim to none.

Or of you getting laid. AKA a snowball's chance in hell

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone siding with op. She's the problem.

Because most of the posters here are women. Married women, so we fully understand and are used to male BS. We know exactly what "nagging" means

I bet your husband is the luckiest guy in the world if this is how you view men.

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I doubt that's the only reason. I'm sure there is more that he didn't say.

[Anonymous]

Party time now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Party time now.

Except OP is now cancelling wedding vendors and explaining to grandmothers why there won't be a wedding.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Party time now.

Except OP is now cancelling wedding vendors and explaining to grandmothers why there won't be a wedding.

OK... party time later then. Don't cancel the honeymoon-go with a friend or new dude

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Anonymous wrote:So, dating for 3 years. Engaged for 6 months. He just moved out a week ago.
He hasn't told anyone, his fb status still says engaged.

He told me that I nag too much, that is his reason.

Ok, it hit me like a ton of bricks when he said this and moved out.

Lesson learned.

How can I get him to realize that I get what he is saying. I was a nag, I was off the beam. This was the biggest reality check for me.

Help, any advice to get him to have faith in me and that I am taking this seriously?

I would call him, set up a time to meet and talk to him. Ask him how he feels and sit there and listen, don't argue with him. See if what he has to say is fair, then be really honest with yourself, how bad were you and can you really change. I know calling off a wedding is a really hard thing to do, but it is better to not get into a bad marriage than be stuck in one or going through the process of getting out of it. If you really want to be with him, postpone the wedding and make sure you guys are happy again.

The right thing for both of you may be to move on. Some women can be difficult during wedding planning, before I was married I sat next to a co-worker who was engaged, her and her close friends at work constantly trashed her fiance. They talked about how he should not be allowed to have an opinion, otherwise he would ruin the wedding. She would ask his opinion about something, she mentioned his opinion to her friends and they would convince her it would ruin the wedding. I decided then and there I would never be that kind of bride.

While I was not that bad, I was a bit of a handful from time to time during my wedding planning. My husband was the best fiance ever though, he made me agree to ground rules before the wedding planning started and he only pointed out my violations of them a fraction of the time he could have. One of the most important rules for us was he would keep his mom in check and I would keep mine in check. I never told him that I had to tell my mom when she threatened to not pay for the wedding when she was not getting her way (she wanted something I think my husband would have called off the wedding for and he would have been right to do so if I had allowed it) that would be fine but she would not be invited to the wedding not see any grandchildren ever. This was not about her paying for the wedding (she insisted she and Dad would contribute, we had planned on paying for it ourselves), it was about her threatening to withhold money if she did not get her way on something completely unacceptable. My dad really saved the day, he and mom had a big fight and didn't talk for 3 days over this because he sided with me. Funny thing is we laugh about it now and mom actually apologized to my husband for nearly ruining our marriage before it started, though he will never know the details of how.

Um this is not at all an example of functional relationship. Nothing but drama and manipulation. Toxic city.

[Anonymous]

How long have you guys been living together? Living with someone is learning to compromise and adjust.

[Anonymous]

I have a hard time believing this is out of nowhere. My guess is he talked to you about your behavior before. So reach out to him. You guys need to improve communication skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's probably lying and won't tell you the real reasons. Be glad an move on. You don't want to find out after marrying him that he's really not the one for you. Sorry.

This. Sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

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Maybe. It seems like her lucky day what with dropping the dead weight, perhaps it will cross over to lottery winnings too

OP is the loser here: She got dumped by the finance because she is a harpy and she's back on the open market, where she's sure to be alone erstwhile lusting to upgrade to a hotter, younger model.

FIFY

FIFY

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long have you lived together? What was the marriage date? What conversations have you had about nagging before?

Did I miss OP's answer?

[Anonymous]

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Maybe. It seems like her lucky day what with dropping the dead weight, perhaps it will cross over to lottery winnings too

OP is the winner here: She dodged a bullet in the form of a fiance because he's a loser with a small dick and she's back on the open market, where she's sure to find someone hot, confident, who's willing to put in his fair share, while her ex stays alone and lazy.

FIFY

FIFY

FIFY

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: next time be a better actress. You don't want him to find out about the real you until after the wedding.

Lol

[Anonymous]

I am sorry that you are struggling- life lessons are the hardest- whether they are learning about ourselves or about others- so be good to yourself, either way you are a better women now than you were yesterday- we are created to grow and learn- one thing I know might help is the fact that relationship struggles regardless of the topic most usually do not start with something out of the blue- and the other is that you cannot force anybody- that takes another learning curve and lots of practise at detaching from the outcome- you take care of you- and you are all right, regardless of outcome-- it might take some digging and self reflection- Many Blessings