He broke up with me because he said that I nag too much

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's see... is "nagging" codeword for "asked him to do an equal level of work for you isn't of allowing him to laze around?" Because that's usually what it's code for, and I would be throwing myself a party for getting out of that before i had kids.

Well she can either have her fiancee or she can stick up for bullshit feminist clap trap like this and be single.

Your choice, ladies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The man isn't always the bad guy (and I'm a woman).

You must be new here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's see... is "nagging" codeword for "asked him to do an equal level of work for you isn't of allowing him to laze around?" Because that's usually what it's code for, and I would be throwing myself a party for getting out of that before i had kids.

Well she can either have her fiancee or she can stick up for bullshit feminist clap trap like this and be single.

Your choice, ladies.

Get you a man who lets you have both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now get out there and find a hot dude to bone

LOL, get real. What makes you think "hot dudes" are going to put up with her nagging more than her fiancee?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Get you a man who lets you have both.

She might as well play Powerball.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Now get out there and find a hot dude to bone

LOL, get real. What makes you think "hot dudes" are going to put up with her nagging more than her fiancee?

Reality and life experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Get you a man who lets you have both.

She might as well play Powerball.

Maybe. It seems like her lucky day what with dropping the dead weight, perhaps it will cross over to lottery winnings too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's see... is "nagging" codeword for "asked him to do an equal level of work for you isn't of allowing him to laze around?" Because that's usually what it's code for, and I would be throwing myself a party for getting out of that before i had kids.

"Nagging" also means you're an unpleasant nag. Occam's Razor: google it.

Ah yes, because if women want to get anything in life, they are only allowed to ask for it sweetly and politely.

OP, I agree with others that you have dodged a bullet. Can you imagine raising 2 kids without any help but for a paycheck? That's the future you just dodged.

You need to get into therapy to figure out why you would stay longer than a hot second with a guy who called you a nag instead of responding to conflict with rational discussion. (For example, hey, you keep asking me to load the dishwasher with the utensils up, but I like to put them in tines down so I can only touch the handles when I unload. What do you think?)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Now get out there and find a hot dude to bone

LOL, get real. What makes you think "hot dudes" are going to put up with her nagging more than her fiancee?

Exactly. Next thing you know OP's gonna take this advice, but she'll be right back at DCUM complaining WHY CAN'T I KEEP A MAN???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Now get out there and find a hot dude to bone

LOL, get real. What makes you think "hot dudes" are going to put up with her nagging more than her fiancee?

Reality and life experience.

Keep dreaming

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Now get out there and find a hot dude to bone

LOL, get real. What makes you think "hot dudes" are going to put up with her nagging more than her fiancee?

Exactly. Next thing you know OP's gonna take this advice, but she'll be right back at DCUM complaining WHY CAN'T I KEEP A MAN???

More like she'll be celebrating. Either option is a hell of a lot better than being at DCUM "my lazy man baby won't lift a finger and says childcare is 'not his problem'"

[Anonymous]

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Maybe. It seems like her lucky day what with dropping the dead weight, perhaps it will cross over to lottery winnings too

OP's fiancee is the winner here: He dumped the nagger and he's back on the open market, where he's sure to upgrade to a hotter, younger model.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Maybe. It seems like her lucky day what with dropping the dead weight, perhaps it will cross over to lottery winnings too

OP is the winner here: She dumped the nagger and she's back on the open market, where she's sure to upgrade to a hotter, younger model.

FIFY

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More like she'll be celebrating. Either option is a hell of a lot better than being at DCUM "my lazy man baby won't lift a finger and says childcare is 'not his problem'"

The odds of this are as slim as you shutting your big mouth: Slim to none.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, dating for 3 years. Engaged for 6 months. He just moved out a week ago.
He hasn't told anyone, his fb status still says engaged.

He told me that I nag too much, that is his reason.

Ok, it hit me like a ton of bricks when he said this and moved out.

Lesson learned.

How can I get him to realize that I get what he is saying. I was a nag, I was off the beam. This was the biggest reality check for me.

Help, any advice to get him to have faith in me and that I am taking this seriously?

I would call him, set up a time to meet and talk to him. Ask him how he feels and sit there and listen, don't argue with him. See if what he has to say is fair, then be really honest with yourself, how bad were you and can you really change. I know calling off a wedding is a really hard thing to do, but it is better to not get into a bad marriage than be stuck in one or going through the process of getting out of it. If you really want to be with him, postpone the wedding and make sure you guys are happy again.

The right thing for both of you may be to move on. Some women can be difficult during wedding planning, before I was married I sat next to a co-worker who was engaged, her and her close friends at work constantly trashed her fiance. They talked about how he should not be allowed to have an opinion, otherwise he would ruin the wedding. She would ask his opinion about something, she mentioned his opinion to her friends and they would convince her it would ruin the wedding. I decided then and there I would never be that kind of bride.

While I was not that bad, I was a bit of a handful from time to time during my wedding planning. My husband was the best fiance ever though, he made me agree to ground rules before the wedding planning started and he only pointed out my violations of them a fraction of the time he could have. One of the most important rules for us was he would keep his mom in check and I would keep mine in check. I never told him that I had to tell my mom when she threatened to not pay for the wedding when she was not getting her way (she wanted something I think my husband would have called off the wedding for and he would have been right to do so if I had allowed it) that would be fine but she would not be invited to the wedding not see any grandchildren ever. This was not about her paying for the wedding (she insisted she and Dad would contribute, we had planned on paying for it ourselves), it was about her threatening to withhold money if she did not get her way on something completely unacceptable. My dad really saved the day, he and mom had a big fight and didn't talk for 3 days over this because he sided with me. Funny thing is we laugh about it now and mom actually apologized to my husband for nearly ruining our marriage before it started, though he will never know the details of how.