New girlfriend use to be a sugar baby..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman here. I don't see the big deal. To me it sounds like she was dating a guy, or sort of friends with benefits who gifted her things and money. Many couples do this. Was she a mistress? Were they just keeping things casual? it sounds like two consenting adults in a mutually beneficial relationship. This wasn't an Elliot Spitzer having sex at the Mayflower hotel with his socks on with a hooker situation.

OP, she trusted you enough to tell you. She obviously cares a lot about you to share something like this. If you honestly think you cannot deal with this info, let her go, for her sake.

Totally agree and I am a relatively conservative guy. OP, every person has skeletons in the closet, sure you do too. She took a risk telling you. One of the most important things a woman can give you is honesty. But I would talk to her about it just to clear whatever conceptions you have so that it doesn't cloud things moving forward.

If she honestly and openly tells you she is a former heroin addict with a criminal record as well as a former whore, would you overlook those "skeletons" too because she told you honestly and openly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was it a formal sugar daddy relationship, like someone she sought out for that on a website, or just a generous older guy that she dated who wanted to pay for stuff for her?

Op here. She described it as a fwb type relationship. She was 27 and he was 35. I am not jealous, btw. I make very good money.

This doesn't sound like a prostitute or sugar daddy situation. If she had been young enough to be his daughter,r or he was married and she was the OW, maybe it would be sketchy. But I don't see this anywhere close to being a hooker or prostitute situation.

But I am not you, and I am not dating her. You need to decide for yourself and own that feeling and respond accordingly, and not waste anymore of your or her time.

[Anonymous]

Anything a woman tells you about her past is an outright lie. If she tells you she slept with X guys, assume the real number is 5X or 10X. If she tells you she had a sugar daddy, you'd be wise to assume she was at least a hotel prostitute if not turning tricks on the street.

If you plan to continue the relationship, you'd be wise to run a background check on her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was it a formal sugar daddy relationship, like someone she sought out for that on a website, or just a generous older guy that she dated who wanted to pay for stuff for her?

Op here. She described it as a fwb type relationship. She was 27 and he was 35. I am not jealous, btw. I make very good money.

Of course you do. She wouldn't be with you otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was it a formal sugar daddy relationship, like someone she sought out for that on a website, or just a generous older guy that she dated who wanted to pay for stuff for her?

Op here. She described it as a fwb type relationship. She was 27 and he was 35. I am not jealous, btw. I make very good money.

Of course you do. She wouldn't be with you otherwise.

Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was it a formal sugar daddy relationship, like someone she sought out for that on a website, or just a generous older guy that she dated who wanted to pay for stuff for her?

Op here. She described it as a fwb type relationship. She was 27 and he was 35. I am not jealous, btw. I make very good money.

I think you may be seeing the relationship in a way that isn't quite accurate. Sugar baby usually implies a 22 year old with a 50-something, not FWB nearly the same age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman here. I don't see the big deal. To me it sounds like she was dating a guy, or sort of friends with benefits who gifted her things and money. Many couples do this. Was she a mistress? Were they just keeping things casual? it sounds like two consenting adults in a mutually beneficial relationship. This wasn't an Elliot Spitzer having sex at the Mayflower hotel with his socks on with a hooker situation.

OP, she trusted you enough to tell you. She obviously cares a lot about you to share something like this. If you honestly think you cannot deal with this info, let her go, for her sake.

Totally agree and I am a relatively conservative guy. OP, every person has skeletons in the closet, sure you do too. She took a risk telling you. One of the most important things a woman can give you is honesty. But I would talk to her about it just to clear whatever conceptions you have so that it doesn't cloud things moving forward.

If she honestly and openly tells you she is a former heroin addict with a criminal record as well as a former whore, would you overlook those "skeletons" too because she told you honestly and openly?

An addict who prostituted them self in order to pay for the heroin, and a criminal record as a result, compared to a person who had a relationship and sex with someone who provided them money and gifts? You totally missed the boat on that PP. For one thing, once a person is an addict or alcoholic it is a lifetime affliction never to be cured but only controlled and that certainly would have to be considered a present thing, even if not active currently, and not a past one since there is a significant percentage who relapse at some point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anything a woman tells you about her past is an outright lie. If she tells you she slept with X guys, assume the real number is 5X or 10X. If she tells you she had a sugar daddy, you'd be wise to assume she was at least a hotel prostitute if not turning tricks on the street.

If you plan to continue the relationship, you'd be wise to run a background check on her.

Liars always believe that others lie about everything just as they do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was it a formal sugar daddy relationship, like someone she sought out for that on a website, or just a generous older guy that she dated who wanted to pay for stuff for her?

Op here. She described it as a fwb type relationship. She was 27 and he was 35. I am not jealous, btw. I make very good money.

Of course you do. She wouldn't be with you otherwise.

There it is! OP you are a mark. I bet you have never had a girlfriend before?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman here. I don't see the big deal. To me it sounds like she was dating a guy, or sort of friends with benefits who gifted her things and money. Many couples do this. Was she a mistress? Were they just keeping things casual? it sounds like two consenting adults in a mutually beneficial relationship. This wasn't an Elliot Spitzer having sex at the Mayflower hotel with his socks on with a hooker situation.

OP, she trusted you enough to tell you. She obviously cares a lot about you to share something like this. If you honestly think you cannot deal with this info, let her go, for her sake.

Totally agree and I am a relatively conservative guy. OP, every person has skeletons in the closet, sure you do too. She took a risk telling you. One of the most important things a woman can give you is honesty. But I would talk to her about it just to clear whatever conceptions you have so that it doesn't cloud things moving forward.

If she honestly and openly tells you she is a former heroin addict with a criminal record as well as a former whore, would you overlook those "skeletons" too because she told you honestly and openly?

An addict who prostituted them self in order to pay for the heroin, and a criminal record as a result, compared to a person who had a relationship and sex with someone who provided them money and gifts? You totally missed the boat on that PP. For one thing, once a person is an addict or alcoholic it is a lifetime affliction never to be cured but only controlled and that certainly would have to be considered a present thing, even if not active currently, and not a past one since there is a significant percentage who relapse at some point.

LOL, if you're dumb enough to think a woman who was a whore isn't going to "relapse", I pity you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was it a formal sugar daddy relationship, like someone she sought out for that on a website, or just a generous older guy that she dated who wanted to pay for stuff for her?

Op here. She described it as a fwb type relationship. She was 27 and he was 35. I am not jealous, btw. I make very good money.

I think you may be seeing the relationship in a way that isn't quite accurate. Sugar baby usually implies a 22 year old with a 50-something, not FWB nearly the same age.

Op here. This is not true. A SD/SB relationship doesn't have to have a significant age difference. This wasn't an fwb ( I've had 2 in the past). She got together with him 2-3 times a weeks, and in exchange he took care of parts of her tuition and gave her gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was it a formal sugar daddy relationship, like someone she sought out for that on a website, or just a generous older guy that she dated who wanted to pay for stuff for her?

Op here. She described it as a fwb type relationship. She was 27 and he was 35. I am not jealous, btw. I make very good money.

Of course you do. She wouldn't be with you otherwise.

There it is! OP you are a mark. I bet you have never had a girlfriend before?

Op here. I don't think I'm a " mark". This is a genuine relationship. I have plenty of girlfriends. She also makes good money now, and doesn't need any handouts.

[Anonymous]

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She is smart, educated, good values, doesn't sleep around, etc.

I don't think those words mean what you think they mean.

Smart: She figured out a way to parlay the value of her vagina into cash.
Educated: Anyone can eke out a degree somewhere these days.
Good values: Except for the bit about prostitution.
Doesn't sleep around: Business 101 - Don't give away a product people are willing to pay for. It devalues your brand.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was it a formal sugar daddy relationship, like someone she sought out for that on a website, or just a generous older guy that she dated who wanted to pay for stuff for her?

Op here. She described it as a fwb type relationship. She was 27 and he was 35. I am not jealous, btw. I make very good money.

Of course you do. She wouldn't be with you otherwise.

There it is! OP you are a mark. I bet you have never had a girlfriend before?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anything a woman tells you about her past is an outright lie. If she tells you she slept with X guys, assume the real number is 5X or 10X. If she tells you she had a sugar daddy, you'd be wise to assume she was at least a hotel prostitute if not turning tricks on the street.

If you plan to continue the relationship, you'd be wise to run a background check on her.

Liars always believe that others lie about everything just as they do.

+1