How do some 5 year olds get to be little turds?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can not believe how many people here condone behavior like this as "kids being kids"

If I heard my child ever demean another child, there would be some serious consequences in and outside of school.

+1

Instead they target the mom. Pretty sad

Good Lord. "Target"? I wonder how many of you manage to get through the day at all with this level of drama in your day to day interactions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can not believe how many people here condone behavior like this as "kids being kids"

If I heard my child ever demean another child, there would be some serious consequences in and outside of school.

Jeez. Did anyone say there wouldn't be consequences? NO.

People are just trying to help OP expand her FTM mind so maybe she won't overreact next time.

Yep. Otherwise you are in for a very long 12 years of schooling...

Seriously. Just wait until the kids are really trying to be mean.

[Anonymous]

I will say---the snotty comments about the 'high groups' were perpetuated in our elementary school by parents. The kids overhear and repeat it. It gets worse over time.

The parents begin lobbying in K to make sure their kid is in the high group. Once in, they stay there throughout elementary even when their scores/grades/SOLs and CoGats are lower than other kids whose parents did not lobby for the high group at five years old.

My kids went through this in the early years with the snotty, busy-body kids always trying to see who got an 'A' on a test and who made the Special list, etc. It placed undue and insane pressure on kids in the early years when they should not even be worrying about any of this. My kids were just talking about this at pick-up and I asked how do the kids know everyone else's grades in the class when it's none of their business...they go around and peek was the answer.

I kept my kid out of that snot group as much as I could---but with straight As and perfect SOLs/extremely high CoGats they were required to place child there in 4th/5th. Guess what---those kids did nothing to contribute to the group projects in class either. They are used to mommy and daddy doing everything for them.

The bad behavior kids were all in these groups because they parents insisted their hyperactivity was due to their giftedness. These same parents gossip about class placement, etc. Losers.

You can see it by the way they attacked OP and ridiculed her for having a child not in a top KINDERGARTNEN group---wtf?!?!!!!! Frickin' insane tiger moms.

[Anonymous]

This is why you send your kids to preschool. Otherwise they will end up in kindergarten and not know how to spell and have poor social skills. Maybe you can spend some time working with her on both. There are other ways to deal with another child saying something you don't like besides tattling to your mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
This is why you send your kids to preschool. Otherwise they will end up in kindergarten and not know how to spell and have poor social skills. Maybe you can spend some time working with her on both. There are other ways to deal with another child saying something you don't like besides tattling to your mom.

Wow. You are a complete psycho. Tattling to mom?? You know zero about parenting, sweet cheeks. Kids should feel comfortable coming to their parents with problems. A 5-year old should discuss emotions with her parents.

Don't you have Kumon class to get to with Little Einstein? Just because a child is introduced the material earlier, does not mean they are smarter. You are in for a world of hurt later one when the play-based kids and naturally smart kids start outpacing your child down the road.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will say---the snotty comments about the 'high groups' were perpetuated in our elementary school by parents. The kids overhear and repeat it. It gets worse over time.

The parents begin lobbying in K to make sure their kid is in the high group. Once in, they stay there throughout elementary even when their scores/grades/SOLs and CoGats are lower than other kids whose parents did not lobby for the high group at five years old.

My kids went through this in the early years with the snotty, busy-body kids always trying to see who got an 'A' on a test and who made the Special list, etc. It placed undue and insane pressure on kids in the early years when they should not even be worrying about any of this. My kids were just talking about this at pick-up and I asked how do the kids know everyone else's grades in the class when it's none of their business...they go around and peek was the answer.

I kept my kid out of that snot group as much as I could---but with straight As and perfect SOLs/extremely high CoGats they were required to place child there in 4th/5th. Guess what---those kids did nothing to contribute to the group projects in class either. They are used to mommy and daddy doing everything for them.

The bad behavior kids were all in these groups because they parents insisted their hyperactivity was due to their giftedness. These same parents gossip about class placement, etc. Losers.

You can see it by the way they attacked OP and ridiculed her for having a child not in a top KINDERGARTNEN group---wtf?!?!!!!! Frickin' insane tiger moms.

And it is always the 'kids will be kids' and 'grow a backbone poster' that have the snottiest, most obnoxious children. The ones that are rude to teachers as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
This is why you send your kids to preschool. Otherwise they will end up in kindergarten and not know how to spell and have poor social skills. Maybe you can spend some time working with her on both. There are other ways to deal with another child saying something you don't like besides tattling to your mom.

Wow. You are a complete psycho. Tattling to mom?? You know zero about parenting, sweet cheeks. Kids should feel comfortable coming to their parents with problems. A 5-year old should discuss emotions with her parents.

Don't you have Kumon class to get to with Little Einstein? Just because a child is introduced the material earlier, does not mean they are smarter. You are in for a world of hurt later one when the play-based kids and naturally smart kids start outpacing your child down the road.

...you're probably right. But I am going to keep teaching my kids how to stand up for themselves and their friends and how to do their schoolwork anyway.

[Anonymous]

Some of you moms are honestly just horrendous. The ones saying this 5yr old needs to get a backbone and get over it. The OP didn't say she wasn't going to teach her that. She didn't say she was at home crying about it. She didn't say she was going to run into the school and point fingers at the kid. She is venting a mean kid said something mean and unnecessary. And you all are just throwing insults after insults at each other.

And we now see where these kids get this type of behavior and attitude from.

All of you are disgusting.

[Anonymous]

This is a good read and I agree.

http://www.scarymommy.com/if-my-kid-is-being-an-asshole-tell-me/?utm_source=FB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you moms are honestly just horrendous. The ones saying this 5yr old needs to get a backbone and get over it. The OP didn't say she wasn't going to teach her that. She didn't say she was at home crying about it. She didn't say she was going to run into the school and point fingers at the kid. She is venting a mean kid said something mean and unnecessary. And you all are just throwing insults after insults at each other.

And we now see where these kids get this type of behavior and attitude from.

All of you are disgusting.

Uh... maybe check the mirror?

[Anonymous]

Well here is the good news op. When you catch your child saying something mean to another- and you will- you can remind her of this incident and how she felt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well here is the good news op. When you catch your child saying something mean to another- and you will- you can remind her of this incident and how she felt.

OP here. I know this is hard for some of you to believe. But some kids just don't think like that. My DD (and no she is not my first child) is far from perfect. She is sensitive and shy and and is reluctant to do things independently - all things we are working on - but it would just never occur to her to tease or be mean to another child. And I think that is why it was so hard for her to understand why another child would say something like that. This same little boy finishes all of his worksheets really quickly and announces to his tablemates "I'm finished. I win!" every day. Something is up with the way this kid is being parented. You will not convince me otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well here is the good news op. When you catch your child saying something mean to another- and you will- you can remind her of this incident and how she felt.

OP here. I know this is hard for some of you to believe. But some kids just don't think like that. My DD (and no she is not my first child) is far from perfect. She is sensitive and shy and and is reluctant to do things independently - all things we are working on - but it would just never occur to her to tease or be mean to another child. And I think that is why it was so hard for her to understand why another child would say something like that. This same little boy finishes all of his worksheets really quickly and announces to his tablemates "I'm finished. I win!" every day. Something is up with the way this kid is being parented. You will not convince me otherwise.

Your DD has a personality and so does that boy. It may be due to parenting but more likely it's his personality.

I was a painfully shy girl in grade school. I don't think it's bad for your DD to learn how to deal with or ignore a stronger aggressive personality. She probably won't master that this year, but over time she will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well here is the good news op. When you catch your child saying something mean to another- and you will- you can remind her of this incident and how she felt.

OP here. I know this is hard for some of you to believe. But some kids just don't think like that. My DD (and no she is not my first child) is far from perfect. She is sensitive and shy and and is reluctant to do things independently - all things we are working on - but it would just never occur to her to tease or be mean to another child. And I think that is why it was so hard for her to understand why another child would say something like that. This same little boy finishes all of his worksheets really quickly and announces to his tablemates "I'm finished. I win!" every day. Something is up with the way this kid is being parented. You will not convince me otherwise.

Of course we won't convince you, FTM of a girl. Have a second kid, a boy, and then report back.

[Anonymous]

And seriously, if you think this kid being a little too excited about finishing his schoolwork is an issue, you have some surprises in store ahead.