How do some 5 year olds get to be little turds?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As said above, it wasn't nice but all kids are turds at times. I don't know a kid that hasn't said something hurtful, either intentionally or unintentionally.

Yep this. Kids, even when we teach them to be nice, sometimes aren't. Even your kid, OP.

Sorry but to OP's defense, I know very few kids who do this. There are just a handful of kids this bad. The fact that you all turned this around to make it OP's fault is ridiculous. So what if it is her first kid? So what if she anonomously said a non curse word to describe her feeling. You have all done the same venting to friends or your husband. Some kids (not all) can be really cruel and try to purposely hurt other kids feelings. It sucks when it first happens. The fact you turned this into making fun of the OP just shows how little people seem to care anymore about teaching and giving respect.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe people are jumping on the OP for venting on this anonymous board about somebody hurting her child's feelings. Of course the OP is upset about it and she called a child a "turd" on an anonymous forum- not to his face! Totally different. She came on here looking for empathy. People on here are ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As said above, it wasn't nice but all kids are turds at times. I don't know a kid that hasn't said something hurtful, either intentionally or unintentionally.

Yep this. Kids, even when we teach them to be nice, sometimes aren't. Even your kid, OP.

Sorry but to OP's defense, I know very few kids who do this. There are just a handful of kids this bad. The fact that you all turned this around to make it OP's fault is ridiculous. So what if it is her first kid? So what if she anonomously said a non curse word to describe her feeling. You have all done the same venting to friends or your husband. Some kids (not all) can be really cruel and try to purposely hurt other kids feelings. It sucks when it first happens. The fact you turned this into making fun of the OP just shows how little people seem to care anymore about teaching and giving respect.

I could not disagree more.

After a decade of volunteering in elementary school, I have observed that kids OFTEN say things like that, not necessarily in a mean way, and that they can be super nice the next minute. For them it's no big deal, however sensitive children can be momentarily hurt so teachers and volunteers always correct them. There are very few truly mean children, and they always have other behavior problems.

And I have NEVER even thought of calling a child a little turd or a little shit, and I don't think any parent friend of mine has either. Doesn't cross my mind to think in that way!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As said above, it wasn't nice but all kids are turds at times. I don't know a kid that hasn't said something hurtful, either intentionally or unintentionally.

Yep this. Kids, even when we teach them to be nice, sometimes aren't. Even your kid, OP.

Sorry but to OP's defense, I know very few kids who do this. There are just a handful of kids this bad. The fact that you all turned this around to make it OP's fault is ridiculous. So what if it is her first kid? So what if she anonomously said a non curse word to describe her feeling. You have all done the same venting to friends or your husband. Some kids (not all) can be really cruel and try to purposely hurt other kids feelings. It sucks when it first happens. The fact you turned this into making fun of the OP just shows how little people seem to care anymore about teaching and giving respect.

"This bad"? Really? A third hand account of a five year old saying another five year old's words are babyish is some unheard of levels of bad?

Come on. It's not kind and should be corrected, but saying some spelling words are for babies isn't some shocking level of badness. Especially since we don't know what exactly was said and how.

[Anonymous]

lol this thread

[Anonymous]

Kids say hurtful things to one another. Out of all the things, this isn't such a big deal. My older child struggled with reading for years. He never told me if anyone specifically said something negative but he was often discouraged and said he was dumb and that he was the only one in his class who could not read. Finally caught up in second grade.

Younger child is in K now. He is used to being the baby and often says things are babyish but things like toys and books. I think he just wants to confirm he is a big boy since he is now in elementary school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As said above, it wasn't nice but all kids are turds at times. I don't know a kid that hasn't said something hurtful, either intentionally or unintentionally.

Yep this. Kids, even when we teach them to be nice, sometimes aren't. Even your kid, OP.

Sorry but to OP's defense, I know very few kids who do this. There are just a handful of kids this bad. The fact that you all turned this around to make it OP's fault is ridiculous. So what if it is her first kid? So what if she anonomously said a non curse word to describe her feeling. You have all done the same venting to friends or your husband. Some kids (not all) can be really cruel and try to purposely hurt other kids feelings. It sucks when it first happens. The fact you turned this into making fun of the OP just shows how little people seem to care anymore about teaching and giving respect.

I could not disagree more.

After a decade of volunteering in elementary school, I have observed that kids OFTEN say things like that, not necessarily in a mean way, and that they can be super nice the next minute. For them it's no big deal, however sensitive children can be momentarily hurt so teachers and volunteers always correct them. There are very few truly mean children, and they always have other behavior problems.

And I have NEVER even thought of calling a child a little turd or a little shit, and I don't think any parent friend of mine has either. Doesn't cross my mind to think in that way!

I have witnessed not nice behavior in both preschool and kindergarten. I see it more in exclusion and not including kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As said above, it wasn't nice but all kids are turds at times. I don't know a kid that hasn't said something hurtful, either intentionally or unintentionally.

Yep this. Kids, even when we teach them to be nice, sometimes aren't. Even your kid, OP.

Yup.

My kid is tired/cranky at the end of the long day of K and sometimes says unkind things. Maybe that kid is struggling with something and it comes out in hostility.

Also, parents make a huge deal about "being a big boy" esp when starting K so baby v. big kid is on his mind.

Anyway, cut the very young child some slack and try to work on coping skills for you and your DD if this was so traumatizing for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As said above, it wasn't nice but all kids are turds at times. I don't know a kid that hasn't said something hurtful, either intentionally or unintentionally.

Yep this. Kids, even when we teach them to be nice, sometimes aren't. Even your kid, OP.

Sorry but to OP's defense, I know very few kids who do this. There are just a handful of kids this bad. The fact that you all turned this around to make it OP's fault is ridiculous. So what if it is her first kid? So what if she anonomously said a non curse word to describe her feeling. You have all done the same venting to friends or your husband. Some kids (not all) can be really cruel and try to purposely hurt other kids feelings. It sucks when it first happens. The fact you turned this into making fun of the OP just shows how little people seem to care anymore about teaching and giving respect.

I could not disagree more.

After a decade of volunteering in elementary school, I have observed that kids OFTEN say things like that, not necessarily in a mean way, and that they can be super nice the next minute. For them it's no big deal, however sensitive children can be momentarily hurt so teachers and volunteers always correct them. There are very few truly mean children, and they always have other behavior problems.

And I have NEVER even thought of calling a child a little turd or a little shit, and I don't think any parent friend of mine has either. Doesn't cross my mind to think in that way!

I am the PP and I have four kids, have volunteered since my 16 was in K and am now a part time aide. I have worked in various schools and rarely hear or see a child of any age, especially K students call the other kids babies or dumb because of their work. Most kids don't notice or don't care. Most K students even realize there are levels. I think you may have seen some over the past 10 years do this? yes. But all of them? Even the majority of one class? Half the class? 1/4 of the class? No. It is not the norm to behave like this. This is a case of people remember the mean things and thinking "everyone does it." No they don't.

And glad to know that you can read your friends minds and you are all perfect. When you are watching a kids game and another kid comes over and pushes a defenseless player down and then spits on them while they are laying on the ground, yup - I think that kid is a little shit. Kids that bully and steal from small kids? Laugh at crying or special needs kids? Sorry, those kids are little shits.

We will agree to disagree

[Anonymous]

I can not believe how many people here condone behavior like this as "kids being kids"

If I heard my child ever demean another child, there would be some serious consequences in and outside of school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can not believe how many people here condone behavior like this as "kids being kids"

If I heard my child ever demean another child, there would be some serious consequences in and outside of school.

Jeez. Did anyone say there wouldn't be consequences? NO.

People are just trying to help OP expand her FTM mind so maybe she won't overreact next time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can not believe how many people here condone behavior like this as "kids being kids"

If I heard my child ever demean another child, there would be some serious consequences in and outside of school.

Drama queen. Nobody here is condoning the behavior or saying there won't be serious consequences. I can think that OP and people like you are being ridiculous overreacting drama queens and enforce strict consequences at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can not believe how many people here condone behavior like this as "kids being kids"

If I heard my child ever demean another child, there would be some serious consequences in and outside of school.

+1

Instead they target the mom. Pretty sad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can not believe how many people here condone behavior like this as "kids being kids"

If I heard my child ever demean another child, there would be some serious consequences in and outside of school.

+1

Instead they target the mom. Pretty sad

Yes, because calling someone else's very young child a "terd" or "shit" is somehow OK...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can not believe how many people here condone behavior like this as "kids being kids"

If I heard my child ever demean another child, there would be some serious consequences in and outside of school.

Jeez. Did anyone say there wouldn't be consequences? NO.

People are just trying to help OP expand her FTM mind so maybe she won't overreact next time.

Yep. Otherwise you are in for a very long 12 years of schooling...