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[quote=Anonymous]OP, what was your DH's and your tone of voice during this exchange? MY DH and I get into this cycle where he will request something in an unreasonable tone ("put on DD's pants now!") and I get defensive and respond in the same unreasonable tone. He then gets defensive and things escalate from there. What I've found helps is not giving into the demand (reasonable requests are okay, demands and a disrespectful tone are not. Although putting on pants is a little unreasonable since he is capable of doing it, too) but in a courteous manner. A big smile and "no thank you, you are capable of doing that". No explaining why, no requests to ask you in a nicer voice. If he did ask you nicely all you need to do is reply (also nicely) that you will when you are done with lunch. [/quote]
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