Do you miss your AP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really miss mine. No one ever understood me like mine.

That's what they all say.

[Anonymous]

I feel sorry for all of you who have a need for an AP. Sad that whatever need you have isn't being realized at home. I'm curious - do more men or women have AP's?

[Anonymous]

I don't miss any of them, not a one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't miss any of them, not a one.

M or F?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think about him every day. Probably always will. A mixture of regret, anger at myself, and sadness that I'll never feel that way again or be that desired again.

+1. I feel all of this as well. Except the anger at myself is not anger for doing it. I am angry with myself for not being brave enough to leave the situation I am in.

+1

+2 We were both in bland nearly sexless marriages - more like living with roommates. I flew to see him and chatted often for 2+ years. I remember he tested the waters by telling me he'd walk out tomorrow and asked if I'd consider divorce. I said no - not for 15+ years as my kids were little and I had been a SAHM for 8 years at that point and was financially dependent. He said he wanted more from me. I couldn't/wouldn't give it.
He slowly backed away until he was gone.

I miss him.

a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't miss any of them, not a one.

M or F?

I am M

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He calls me once a month. I miss him when I hear his voice and for a few days after. Haven't seen him in 6 months.

I would end the calls - why are you still talking if you haven't seen him in 6 months. He is totally dragging you along - he's not with you but he wants to keep that hope alive. Yuck - make a clean break you will be so much happier!!!!

Maybe they live in different states? I still stay in contact with mine even after we moved away. We talk about once a month and see each other every few months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think about him every day. Probably always will. A mixture of regret, anger at myself, and sadness that I'll never feel that way again or be that desired again.

+1. I feel all of this as well. Except the anger at myself is not anger for doing it. I am angry with myself for not being brave enough to leave the situation I am in.

+1

+2 We were both in bland nearly sexless marriages - more like living with roommates. I flew to see him and chatted often for 2+ years. I remember he tested the waters by telling me he'd walk out tomorrow and asked if I'd consider divorce. I said no - not for 15+ years as my kids were little and I had been a SAHM for 8 years at that point and was financially dependent. He said he wanted more from me. I couldn't/wouldn't give it.
He slowly backed away until he was gone.

I miss him.

a lot.

That's sad. Why do people leave because they want more? They only end up with less. It doesn't make sense.

[Anonymous]

I miss having contact but it takes everything I have not to answer the message currently sitting in my inbox.

[Anonymous]

Not very many men in this thread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think about him every day. Probably always will. A mixture of regret, anger at myself, and sadness that I'll never feel that way again or be that desired again.

This is me too. Miss and think about him everyday. We are still in contact as friends (and I know he thinks about me too) but haven't seen each other in 4 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not very many men in this thread

They don't miss their APs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for all of you who have a need for an AP. Sad that whatever need you have isn't being realized at home. I'm curious - do more men or women have AP's?

I think for the DCUM crowd probably even. When you put together well educated, money not usually a problem, high relationship expectations, and achievement oriented, these are usually people with enormous egos and entitlements.

[Anonymous]

I miss mine every day. Think about him all the time. Doubt he thinks about me. I will always miss him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I miss mine every day. Think about him all the time. Doubt he thinks about me. I will always miss him.

I'm sorry he used you. You are probably right.