Do you miss your AP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think about him every day. Probably always will. A mixture of regret, anger at myself, and sadness that I'll never feel that way again or be that desired again.

There will be a day when you no longer think of him. Good luck moving on

[Anonymous]

What des AP stand for?

[Anonymous]

I miss the connection, the intellectual match, witty games we'd play that others wouldn't get. Add to this the sexual match and teasing, it was all too good to be true. In the end I think I was told what I wanted to hear.

[Anonymous]

i think most people miss the feeling and not the person which explains people who have multiple affair partners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What des AP stand for?

Affair Partner

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What des AP stand for?

Asinine Proposition

[Anonymous]

I think of her all the time. Certain places trigger the thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I miss the connection, the intellectual match, witty games we'd play that others wouldn't get. Add to this the sexual match and teasing, it was all too good to be true. In the end I think I was told what I wanted to hear.

I'm the PP who said no and it was about missing the feelings. What's bolded is exactly what happened with me. I made my AP into everything I wanted/needed at that time. The things he said, he did, I manipulated them into what I wanted. Therefore, of course we had an amazing connection...of course he was my soulmate...because he was a fantasy transferred onto a real person. My H couldn't compete with what I'd built up in my head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I miss the connection, the intellectual match, witty games we'd play that others wouldn't get. Add to this the sexual match and teasing, it was all too good to be true. In the end I think I was told what I wanted to hear.

I'm the PP who said no and it was about missing the feelings. What's bolded is exactly what happened with me. I made my AP into everything I wanted/needed at that time. The things he said, he did, I manipulated them into what I wanted. Therefore, of course we had an amazing connection...of course he was my soulmate...because he was a fantasy transferred onto a real person. My H couldn't compete with what I'd built up in my head.

Nobody could. Are you still married? What I would love to know is where these people get the time and energy for this stuff and get away with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I miss the connection, the intellectual match, witty games we'd play that others wouldn't get. Add to this the sexual match and teasing, it was all too good to be true. In the end I think I was told what I wanted to hear.

I'm the PP who said no and it was about missing the feelings. What's bolded is exactly what happened with me. I made my AP into everything I wanted/needed at that time. The things he said, he did, I manipulated them into what I wanted. Therefore, of course we had an amazing connection...of course he was my soulmate...because he was a fantasy transferred onto a real person. My H couldn't compete with what I'd built up in my head.

Agree that he also filled in all the missing pieces left from my H. Pure fantasy created to fill the emotional void. I felt desired and appreciated for more than looks. I'm sure it was all BS but I couldn't see it at the time.

[Anonymous]

Nobody could. Are you still married? What I would love to know is where these people get the time and energy for this stuff and get away with it.

Where there is a will there is a way

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's like a drug I keep coming back to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think about him every day. Probably always will. A mixture of regret, anger at myself, and sadness that I'll never feel that way again or be that desired again.

+1. I feel all of this as well. Except the anger at myself is not anger for doing it. I am angry with myself for not being brave enough to leave the situation I am in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think about him every day. Probably always will. A mixture of regret, anger at myself, and sadness that I'll never feel that way again or be that desired again.

+1. I feel all of this as well. Except the anger at myself is not anger for doing it. I am angry with myself for not being brave enough to leave the situation I am in.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I miss the connection, the intellectual match, witty games we'd play that others wouldn't get. Add to this the sexual match and teasing, it was all too good to be true. In the end I think I was told what I wanted to hear.

I'm the PP who said no and it was about missing the feelings. What's bolded is exactly what happened with me. I made my AP into everything I wanted/needed at that time. The things he said, he did, I manipulated them into what I wanted. Therefore, of course we had an amazing connection...of course he was my soulmate...because he was a fantasy transferred onto a real person. My H couldn't compete with what I'd built up in my head.

Agree that he also filled in all the missing pieces left from my H. Pure fantasy created to fill the emotional void. I felt desired and appreciated for more than looks. I'm sure it was all BS but I couldn't see it at the time.

+1. Emotional void. But a big part of it was feeling desired and appreciated for looks. I can't remember the last time my husband told me I looked beautiful or sexy. AP tells me every time.