He's bisexual, should I pursue a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where is the homophobia?

Saying "f you" doesn't make you look very bright. May I surmise you're in high school?

Anonymous wrote:

You have no idea if he has a bigger sample size, but your homophobia is showing. Seriously, f you.

The implication that straight women shouldn't date bisexual men unless they're into being cheated on. Sorry, I suppose the word is biphobia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is the homophobia?

Saying "f you" doesn't make you look very bright. May I surmise you're in high school?

Anonymous wrote:

You have no idea if he has a bigger sample size, but your homophobia is showing. Seriously, f you.

The implication that straight women shouldn't date bisexual men unless they're into being cheated on. Sorry, I suppose the word is biphobia.

No the implication is there are plenty of people you can date who are not going to tell you they may or may not be into your sex. Why bother unless you like the dynamics of uncertainty, self doubt and drama. This is why you do not start a dating relationship with someone who is bi or gay if you are heterosexual. Also you ignore the advice of the pp who is gay and has real life experience. Unlike you who just wishes everything will be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's true I did not conduct a formally verified survey on bisexual men. I just base on what my observations of being a sexually active and dating gay male for the last 20 years, as well as my pretty large and diverse circle of gay friends which run the gamut from campy drama queens who like to wear drag to hardcore suburban Republicans you wouldn't blink twice at in a local mall. We all have observed and agreed there is a pattern of behavior among bisexual men that repeats itself over and over again so that it's not surprising.

I'll reiterate what I said earlier. If you're interested in dating a "bisexual" man, whether in a MM or MF relationship, proceed with caution. Odds are pretty good he will cheat with the opposite gender. If that doesn't matter to you, then I won't judge your relationship (for god's sake, I'm a gay male and many of us have/had pretty open relationships) but if monogamy is important, once again, proceed with extreme caution.

Anonymous wrote:

Bisexuality may be more frequent among women. But your sample size is also not representative. You probably aren't meeting a lot of bisexual men who end up in long term monogamous relationships with women on Grindr. And honestly, it isn't your place to police someone's identity.

You're stereotyping bisexuals as cheaters. But believe what you will.

- Monogamous bisexual

Are you male or female?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is the homophobia?

Saying "f you" doesn't make you look very bright. May I surmise you're in high school?

Anonymous wrote:

You have no idea if he has a bigger sample size, but your homophobia is showing. Seriously, f you.

The implication that straight women shouldn't date bisexual men unless they're into being cheated on. Sorry, I suppose the word is biphobia.

No the implication is there are plenty of people you can date who are not going to tell you they may or may not be into your sex. Why bother unless you like the dynamics of uncertainty, self doubt and drama. This is why you do not start a dating relationship with someone who is bi or gay if you are heterosexual. Also you ignore the advice of the pp who is gay and has real life experience. Unlike you who just wishes everything will be fine.

PP is a gay man, not a bisexual man. There are bisexual men who have posted on this thread disputing what he has said. His experiences do not trump theirs just because he is also queer. To think they do is to be just as ignorant as you accuse PP of being. And if you have no personal experience, your opinion matters even less.

People who will cheat, will cheat. Take a look at the relationship forum to see how many straight men are cheating assholes. Perhaps the real lesson here is that men shouldn't be trusted, period.

[Anonymous]

Hahaha

As a gay man very familiar with the commonality of open relationships, committed partners who engage in threesomes/orgies, frequency of quiet cheating or not so quiet cheating on the sly, "bisexual" men fooling around on grindr when travelling for business, all within the gay "community," if I were a woman looking for a monogamous relationship and a man declared he was bisexual on a date, I'd say thanks very much, it was nice meeting you, leave and never look back. Maybe he's a nice man, maybe he's sincere about commitment, but hmm... no thanks. Out of the huge pool of perfectly straight men, why risk a bisexual man?

For men (most men at least) sex itself is not as sacrosanct an act as it is for women (this is backed up by studies after studies that show men tend to think of sex as just sex). Which is why sex is so easily purely carnal for many gays and dare I even say it, bisexual men, and thus the frequency of bisexual men wanting to have it all and posting on grindr without the knowledge of their female partners.

Advice for you, dear boy, if you are genuinely bisexual and reach the point where you want to enter into a committed relationship with a woman (and I'll allow that you can be genuinely monogamous, certainly some are, bisexual or not), keep your mouth shut. Trust me, the woman doesn't want to know. She really does not want to know. Except maybe if she's a college girl who gets a kick out of being progressive and edgy, but when she's 25+ and looking for the mommy / family / committed relationship track, she really does not want to know.

Anonymous wrote:
People who will cheat, will cheat. Take a look at the relationship forum to see how many straight men are cheating assholes. Perhaps the real lesson here is that men shouldn't be trusted, period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hahaha

As a gay man very familiar with the commonality of open relationships, committed partners who engage in threesomes/orgies, frequency of quiet cheating or not so quiet cheating on the sly, "bisexual" men fooling around on grindr when travelling for business, all within the gay "community," if I were a woman looking for a monogamous relationship and a man declared he was bisexual on a date, I'd say thanks very much, it was nice meeting you, leave and never look back. Maybe he's a nice man, maybe he's sincere about commitment, but hmm... no thanks. Out of the huge pool of perfectly straight men, why risk a bisexual man?

For men (most men at least) sex itself is not as sacrosanct an act as it is for women (this is backed up by studies after studies that show men tend to think of sex as just sex). Which is why sex is so easily purely carnal for many gays and dare I even say it, bisexual men, and thus the frequency of bisexual men wanting to have it all and posting on grindr without the knowledge of their female partners.

Advice for you, dear boy, if you are genuinely bisexual and reach the point where you want to enter into a committed relationship with a woman (and I'll allow that you can be genuinely monogamous, certainly some are, bisexual or not), keep your mouth shut. Trust me, the woman doesn't want to know. She really does not want to know. Except maybe if she's a college girl who gets a kick out of being progressive and edgy, but when she's 25+ and looking for the mommy / family / committed relationship track, she really does not want to know.

Anonymous wrote:
People who will cheat, will cheat. Take a look at the relationship forum to see how many straight men are cheating assholes. Perhaps the real lesson here is that men shouldn't be trusted, period.

YOu are THE MOST annoying type of gay: The Know It All.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
For men (most men at least) sex itself is not as sacrosanct an act as it is for women (this is backed up by studies after studies that show men tend to think of sex as just sex). Which is why sex is so easily purely carnal for many gays and dare I even say it, bisexual men, and thus the frequency of bisexual men wanting to have it all and posting on grindr without the knowledge of their female partners.

I met a bi man and married him 30 years ago. It was hard in those days to come out, but he came out and was honest. We didn't have sex until enough time had passed between his last sexual encounter with a man and his negative HIV test.
He still tells people he's bisexual when people come up with bi-phobic comments, but most of the time he doesn't even mention it. His opinion is that he has only had sex with me for 30 years, so there is no point in claiming the label. He still finds men and women attractive, but he doesn't act on it. We made vows of fidelity and we have kept it.

And to the quoted statement above: you perpetuate stereotypes about gay man.

[Anonymous]

An openly gay man probably has a lot more experience with the realities of the gay community or gay world than someone who isn't gay, methinks. It doesn't mean all gay men or bisexual men are going to fit the stereotypes but stereotypes do exist for a reason. And there are always the exceptions. One person's experience with one relationship doesn't invalidate another person's experiences, especially if we're comparing a straight woman's experience with her presumably loyal bisexual husband of 30 years with a gay man's experience with multiple dates and relationships.

If there's a lesson to be learned from this thread it's that everyone's opinions should be considered, but no one should be rejected or written off.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
For men (most men at least) sex itself is not as sacrosanct an act as it is for women (this is backed up by studies after studies that show men tend to think of sex as just sex). Which is why sex is so easily purely carnal for many gays and dare I even say it, bisexual men, and thus the frequency of bisexual men wanting to have it all and posting on grindr without the knowledge of their female partners.

I met a bi man and married him 30 years ago. It was hard in those days to come out, but he came out and was honest. We didn't have sex until enough time had passed between his last sexual encounter with a man and his negative HIV test.
He still tells people he's bisexual when people come up with bi-phobic comments, but most of the time he doesn't even mention it. His opinion is that he has only had sex with me for 30 years, so there is no point in claiming the label. He still finds men and women attractive, but he doesn't act on it. We made vows of fidelity and we have kept it.

And to the quoted statement above: you perpetuate stereotypes about gay man.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you male or female?

[Anonymous]

Op here: Female

[Anonymous]

If you like him, wear a strapon and bend him over.