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[quote=Anonymous]An openly gay man probably has a lot more experience with the realities of the gay community or gay world than someone who isn't gay, methinks. It doesn't mean all gay men or bisexual men are going to fit the stereotypes but stereotypes do exist for a reason. And there are always the exceptions. One person's experience with one relationship doesn't invalidate another person's experiences, especially if we're comparing a straight woman's experience with her presumably loyal bisexual husband of 30 years with a gay man's experience with multiple dates and relationships.

If there's a lesson to be learned from this thread it's that everyone's opinions should be considered, but no one should be rejected or written off.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] 
For men (most men at least) sex itself is not as sacrosanct an act as it is for women (this is backed up by studies after studies that show men tend to think of sex as just sex). Which is why sex is so easily purely carnal for many gays and dare I even say it, bisexual men, and thus the frequency of bisexual men wanting to have it all and posting on grindr without the knowledge of their female partners.
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I met a bi man and married him 30 years ago. It was hard in those days to come out, but he came out and was honest. We didn't have sex until enough time had passed between his last sexual encounter with a man and his negative HIV test. 
 He still tells people he's bisexual when people come up with bi-phobic comments, but most of the time he doesn't even mention it. His opinion is that he has only had sex with me for 30 years, so there is no point in claiming the label. He still finds men and women attractive, but he doesn't act on it. We made vows of fidelity and we have kept it.

And to the quoted statement above: you perpetuate stereotypes about gay man. 
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