He's bisexual, should I pursue a relationship.

[Anonymous]

I dated a bisexual guy for almost 3 years. It's great that he told you. That bodes well for an honest and open relationship.

I asked him for an HIV test, and I tested, too, to be fair.

We talked more about monogamy and what that meant, how important it was to both of us. And this is a conversation I highly encourage. Monogamy is monogamy, doesn't matter the sexual orientation.

What ended up breaking us up was a lack of similar values, not either's sexuality. He has since been married twice (to women), and this last marriage seems to be going strong.

Honesty and trust are crucial in any relationship. It may be even more important here, since it's a situation that you've never knowingly experienced before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you don't mind him sleeping with men, proceed. That will continue after marriage btw.

Amazing how you have so many psychic powers, and so little common sense.

[Anonymous]

Run!

[Anonymous]

You could be in for some great threesomes!

[Anonymous]

No. Move on.

[Anonymous]

At a minimum, ask for very thorough medical testing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At a minimum, ask for very thorough medical testing.

This is really a good idea when sleeping with any new person, regardless of sexuality.

[Anonymous]

Bi men, in my experience, are gay men who haven't yet fully accepted their sexuality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bi men, in my experience, are gay men who haven't yet fully accepted their sexuality.

That's a generalization, and doesn't match my experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bi men, in my experience, are gay men who haven't yet fully accepted their sexuality.

That's a generalization, and doesn't match my experience.

It matches everyone else's experience. The phrase "bi now, gay later" exists among gays for a reason.

[Anonymous]

The answer depends on whether he is monogamous and whether you agree with whatever answer he gives. You need to consider staying just friends if he says he leads a promiscuous life- - you've got kids and must reduce all risks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bi men, in my experience, are gay men who haven't yet fully accepted their sexuality.

That's a generalization, and doesn't match my experience.

It matches everyone else's experience. The phrase "bi now, gay later" exists among gays for a reason.

It doesnt match everyone else's.
It's a cute catch phrase, but so is Here today, gone tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bi men, in my experience, are gay men who haven't yet fully accepted their sexuality.

That's a generalization, and doesn't match my experience.

It matches everyone else's experience. The phrase "bi now, gay later" exists among gays for a reason.

It doesnt match everyone else's.
It's a cute catch phrase, but so is Here today, gone tomorrow.

+1. Your small, narrow minded piece of the world isn't everyone else's, biphobic PP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bi men, in my experience, are gay men who haven't yet fully accepted their sexuality.

That's a generalization, and doesn't match my experience.

It matches everyone else's experience. The phrase "bi now, gay later" exists among gays for a reason.

There are many bi men out there who don't come out because of people like PP insist on putting bi men in a cage.

There are women who will not date a bi man, and typically assume that they are all amoral libertines who "spread diseases."

Coming out as bi means being a lifetime of distrust and abuse from both straight and gay people. Bisexual men are hated more than gays.

[Anonymous]

It's great that he told you. I would never date a bi man, it's a huge turn off for me. However, I don't think the opinions of strangers should make your decision. Figure out if you are comfortable with this long term. If there is any doubt, don't waste your time.