Son left in same pull-up all day in daycare

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We skipped the pullup stage w/DD1 & arent there yet w/dd2, so I'm not sure how these things work -- if they had kept him in the same pull-up all day, but taken him to the potty so he wasnt wet/soiled, would that have been OK?

If yes, then the question is really when did he pee/poop? Right before departure wouldn't be too bad. Can your son tell you?

If not, then maybe you should clarify with the daycare staff what their practice is?

OP isn't coming back to answer any of this because she realizes what an idiot she is.

Says who? Her son was left in a full diaper and she's the idiot?

Except it's pretty clear he wasn't.

I don't think its pretty clear.

[Anonymous]

There's no way a pullup holds a days' worth of waste. No way. He either soaked it just before you got there (and had otherwise been pottying the rest of the day), or they borrowed one from another kid's stash. Overnight pullups are not rare.

[Anonymous]

Pull-ups don't hold a lot - they are not the same as a diaper. One really big pee can soak it through.

It is entirely plausible that he was dry and pottying most of the day, and then had a big pee and poop just before leaving. Some daycares are really good about making sure kids are clean before going home, others feel like it is on you.

[Anonymous]

Isn't it possible that they were treating the pull up like underwear and it was dry most of the day (so reused because he was using the toilet) and then had an accident at the end of the day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. First I'm not questioning whether to say something I'm asking who to talk to and what to say so I don't go off the deep end. I'm angry. This is a licensed naeyc center. I noticed it when I was putting him in his car seat. He is working on potty training- does only pee though. They want the kids in pull-ups or underwear no diapers which is fine.

Remain calm but make it clear to the Director that you ARE angry. You have every right to be. That doesn't have to mean screaming, yelling, off the deep end. It can just be, "This is absolutely appalling and unacceptable and I am extremely angry. If this EVER happens again I will withdraw my child and file a report with the inspection office".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. First I'm not questioning whether to say something I'm asking who to talk to and what to say so I don't go off the deep end. I'm angry. This is a licensed naeyc center. I noticed it when I was putting him in his car seat. He is working on potty training- does only pee though. They want the kids in pull-ups or underwear no diapers which is fine.

Remain calm but make it clear to the Director that you ARE angry. You have every right to be. That doesn't have to mean screaming, yelling, off the deep end. It can just be, "This is absolutely appalling and unacceptable and I am extremely angry. If this EVER happens again I will withdraw my child and file a report with the inspection office".

Document it. Send in writing to center, certified mail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't it possible that they were treating the pull up like underwear and it was dry most of the day (so reused because he was using the toilet) and then had an accident at the end of the day?

I wondered this too--or he went in the potty earlier in the day and then had an accident at the end? The condition of his bum is important--it is a good indicator of how long he was wet.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What did your SON say? My daughter is this same age, and would be able to tell me if she had been sitting in pee and poop all day.

+1 Three year olds TELL YOU if they have pooped or peed.

So adults don't need to be responsible. Nice.

Not at all. But OP seems to be confused as to what happened. Many people have said that perhaps the pull-up was treated as underwear all day, going to the bathroom and then re-using because it was clean and dry, and then he soiled it right before pick-up. That is perfectly plausible. OR, maybe, as OP seems to think, he was left in it all day. But she doesn't KNOW.

My point is...why didn't she ask him what happened? He could have told her, then she would either know he HAD been cared for all day, and it was just a pre-pickup accident, or he WASN'T cared for all day, and it's a major problem worth withdrawing her child over. Why is OP wondering instead of asking?

[Anonymous]

Why do all of you feel the need to come on here and attack OP? Whether or not you agree with her actions, the point is that she is here asking for advice about how to approach the school. Not about whether or not you think she acted the right way. And you all know as little as she does about what really happened, so stop assuming. If you don't want to actually answer her question, please just don't reply!

Please, DCUM, let's all start to be a bit more supportive of one another. This is supposed to be a community where we can help each other. If we only use it to tear one another down nobody gets anything out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What did your SON say? My daughter is this same age, and would be able to tell me if she had been sitting in pee and poop all day.

+1 Three year olds TELL YOU if they have pooped or peed.

So adults don't need to be responsible. Nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't it possible that they were treating the pull up like underwear and it was dry most of the day (so reused because he was using the toilet) and then had an accident at the end of the day?

This is a non-issue, seriously and that's probably what happened. All she has to do is ask how the potty training is going, if he's mostly keeping it dry or what.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. First I'm not questioning whether to say something I'm asking who to talk to and what to say so I don't go off the deep end. I'm angry. This is a licensed naeyc center. I noticed it when I was putting him in his car seat. He is working on potty training- does only pee though. They want the kids in pull-ups or underwear no diapers which is fine.

Remain calm but make it clear to the Director that you ARE angry. You have every right to be. That doesn't have to mean screaming, yelling, off the deep end. It can just be, "This is absolutely appalling and unacceptable and I am extremely angry. If this EVER happens again I will withdraw my child and file a report with the inspection office".

Document it. Send in writing to center, certified mail.

Bad idea, that will end up with her having to find another daycare down the road. No daycare wants "those" kinds of parents who are unreasonable and difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't it possible that they were treating the pull up like underwear and it was dry most of the day (so reused because he was using the toilet) and then had an accident at the end of the day?

This is a non-issue, seriously and that's probably what happened. All she has to do is ask how the potty training is going, if he's mostly keeping it dry or what.

So odd that this wasn't the first thing OP figured out about this situation.

[Anonymous]

DH did this do DD quite a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do all of you feel the need to come on here and attack OP? Whether or not you agree with her actions, the point is that she is here asking for advice about how to approach the school. Not about whether or not you think she acted the right way. And you all know as little as she does about what really happened, so stop assuming. If you don't want to actually answer her question, please just don't reply!

Please, DCUM, let's all start to be a bit more supportive of one another. This is supposed to be a community where we can help each other. If we only use it to tear one another down nobody gets anything out of it.

Oh, bother.