MIL hurt my dog and I want to disown her

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry OP, I'm totally on your side and would be very sad and hurt if anyone did that to my dog.
It's your house and your rules- if the dog is allwed on your couch, nobody has the right to push the dog off. I have a dog and when guests come over the dog gets up by them and I move the dog but never ever ever would I be okay with a guest or family member pushing my dog.
One time a neice said, "OFF" and I got mad at my neice for telling my dog off. My house my rules! I know I"m in the minority, but I don't think you're crazy at all. I wouldn't disown the ML forever, but I would want an apology for sure. It doesn't sound like a sustainable relationship.

That is really disrespectful to your niece who didn't want the dog on her. She has every right to get the dog off her.

My dog wasn't on her, my dog was near her on the couch. My dog is less than 10 pounds so it's not like she's filling up all the space.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You both are so mental, I think your DH is the real loser in this story.

Yup, this 100%.

You know what they say, though - every man grows up to marry his own mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jeez everyone, OP isn't the mental one here. OP's dog lives in that house, not the MIL. MIL gets no say in whether the dog gets on the furniture. If she doesn't like the rules, she's free to leave. It's as simple as that.

personally, I would humanely euthanize a pet that was in pain and needed more painful surgeries to have a good life. Millions of animals are euthanized every year for no other reason than they're homeless. They're not sick, they're not misbehaved, they don't need expensive surgeries and they don't live their lives in pain. But except for that issue, I'm with OP. Her house, her rules.

MIL was wrong to push the dog. But the dog jumped up on the chair MIL was sitting on. Most people teach their animals not to jump up/on furniture other people are sitting on. How is this dog able to jump around when it's so injured anyway?

[Anonymous]

Well, since you let a dog lick your child but make your MIL wash her hands, along with how much you obviously hate MIL anyway ... you both sound like pieces of work.

She was wrong, no doubt. But there doesn't have to be just one "wrong" person in a scenario.

You're both nuts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If anyone hurt my dog I would be completely done with them. What a horrible thing to do.

I agree. Peopke who are cruel to animals have mental problems. I would limit contract with grandma and not let her visit you.

+1

Who pushes a dog?!? Psycho bitch shouldn't be touching the fuzzy bitch.

Probably people that actually want to push their psychotic DILs but are afraid they'll lose their marbles and shoot them.

[Anonymous]

OP, the dog was just as likely to get hurt jumping on/off the furniture. Considering we are only hearing your side I have to assume your MIL would say she didn't even touch your dog who is very sickly.

But we all know this isn't about the dog.

Seems as though you two have bigger issues than your dog and perhaps both of you were looking for a fight. You had it and you both should feel bad for acting so awfully to each other. I don't know if you can move forward. Sounds like you don't want to. You don't have to be around her unless it is a family event but you can't keep your child from her (nor should you)-- because then you sound just as crazy as you are making her seem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry OP, I'm totally on your side and would be very sad and hurt if anyone did that to my dog.
It's your house and your rules- if the dog is allwed on your couch, nobody has the right to push the dog off. I have a dog and when guests come over the dog gets up by them and I move the dog but never ever ever would I be okay with a guest or family member pushing my dog.
One time a neice said, "OFF" and I got mad at my neice for telling my dog off. My house my rules! I know I"m in the minority, but I don't think you're crazy at all. I wouldn't disown the ML forever, but I would want an apology for sure. It doesn't sound like a sustainable relationship.

You got mad because your niece SAID off? You're nuts, too.

[Anonymous]

This story is wacky, but I like dogs more than most humans so I side with the dog. Mother-in-law stays in a hotel next time she comes. She would expect you to follow her rules when you visit so she needs to follow yours, crazy or not.

[Anonymous]

I have my dog curled up beside me on the couch right now.

There is absolutely no reason to push the dog hard enough that she fell off the couch. None. She could have asked OP to get the dog down.

It doesn't matter what anyone thinks of OP's rules, letting the dog on the couch etc. MIL didn't need to shove the dog.

OP I am curious though, if the dog is in that much pain how did she manage to jump up on the couch?

[Anonymous]

OP, I am so sorry your dog is hurt from this encounter with nasty human being. People who delight is hurting animals are scum and you were correct to get her out of your home.

She knew the dog was fragile and did it to be spiteful. Bitch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am so sorry your dog is hurt from this encounter with nasty human being. People who delight is hurting animals are scum and you were correct to get her out of your home.

She knew the dog was fragile and did it to be spiteful. Bitch.

People who make light of mental illness like the OP are also scum.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh first, you need to realize that this is your child's grandmother and your DH's mother. That is an important relationship for both of them to have regardless of how you feel about her. It doesn't mean you have to have a relationship with her but it means that you need to leave them to have their own.

Honestly, as a dog lover, I would have probably pushed the dog off also. We don't allow our dogs on the furniture (and never understand why others do) so my instinct would have been to correct the dog while not even thinking about what I was doing.

I am also positive after having dogs with torn ACLs and hip dysplasia that your dog should be trained gently to not jump up onto any furniture. Do this now so that no further damage is done (which can be done simply getting on and off furniture) but also for post op when your dog should not be doing this at all.

+1 to all this.

OP, you are the one who sounds like you have an undiagnosed personality disorder.

You are out of your mind. This woman is in someone else's home. Hurts the dog and verbally abuses her DIL and OP is out of line? You're insane. It does not matter that you don't allow dogs on your furniture. This is not your home. And, the proper response would be to apologize for acting like an asshole.

You are 100% in the right OP. And, I'm not saying sever ties for all time, but you need to set some boundaries now and not let this fester. Explain to her she is to NEVER touch the dog like that again. It's not prioritizing one over the other; it's simply manners and respect and being kind. Further, she is not to verbally assault you. Set your expectation that she apologize (even if she doesn't) and tell her that she will not be permitted to speak to you that way again. If she does, she will not be invited back. Stick to it. If she does, be pleasant but distant and it can work. There is no way someone would come into my home and treat me that way. None.

[Anonymous]

Accept that your relationship with MIL is broken and don't waste time and energy trying to fix it. It won't ever be good. Don't invite her into your home, let your husband maintain the relationship. Accept tour role as despised DIL. She hates you. That is clear. No access to grandchild.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have my dog curled up beside me on the couch right now.

There is absolutely no reason to push the dog hard enough that she fell off the couch. None. She could have asked OP to get the dog down.

It doesn't matter what anyone thinks of OP's rules, letting the dog on the couch etc. MIL didn't need to shove the dog.

OP I am curious though, if the dog is in that much pain how did she manage to jump up on the couch?

My dog has an autoimmune condition. She can do something sometime but not other times (like jump on the couch).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you dog is in so much pain you're doing plasma injections trying to hold on till the fall for surgery... you really need to put the dog down. For the sake of the dog.

Especially if the dog is only 4 years old. The dog is in for a lifetime of pain that you are only prolonging.

Agree with this. I hate dogs (and most dog owners for being really crappy dog owners), though your MIL seemed to act with malice.

But the dog sounds like his quality of life is poor, regardless of age. Prolonging a painful life for an animal that you love, is also unkind.

You hate dogs (and I don't much care for people like that or people with "crappy" attitudes like yours). And you don't know OP's dog or medical condition. So, you're in no position to make this call.