Do you sometimes wish you were widowed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I admit I have thought it in the past. Then an acquaintance lost her husband suddenly in December. I would not wish that on myself or anyone ever. Particularly anyone with kids.


You wouldn't wish it on yourself. Nice. Burial arrangements ARE a hassle, aren't they?

I said myself or anyone else. Nice reading comprehension.

And the question OP asked was "do YOU wish YOU were widowed" (emphasis added because, as shown above, you have difficulty understanding the written word.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Death is easier than divorce.

Not true at all for those who truly love their spouses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Death is easier than divorce.

Not true at all for those who truly love their spouses.

It would probably be worse to be truly in love and have your spouse divorce you than for them to die accidentally and you mourne with family and friends. You have to share your kids.. Constantly see.. See with a new partner.. Maybe the kids secretly like the new partner better than you.. Half of your assets gone.

Or accidental death, beautiful funeral , sympathy all around, remember the love, none of the lifetime pain or difficulty .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Death is easier than divorce.

Not true at all for those who truly love their spouses.

It would probably be worse to be truly in love and have your spouse divorce you than for them to die accidentally and you mourne with family and friends. You have to share your kids.. Constantly see.. See with a new partner.. Maybe the kids secretly like the new partner better than you.. Half of your assets gone.

Or accidental death, beautiful funeral , sympathy all around, remember the love, none of the lifetime pain or difficulty .

I've had several friends who were widowed at a young age. Your description doesn't match theirs.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

How horrible and ungrateful are some of you. If you're that unhappy just divorce. I lost a boyfriend to Cancer and it completely destroyed me. What I wouldn't give for him to be back. If not for me, then for his now fatherless kid.

[Anonymous]

I definitely wish my ex was dead. It would have been nicer if he had life insurance that he left for the kids. However, his prior plan was that his mom would take care of the kids if he died, so it's unlikely he's gotten that insurance. Still wish he was dead...

[Anonymous]

Jesus. You think a divorce would make her sad but a dead father wouldn't? You sound like you need therapy and/or a divorce if you're thinking this way. Venting is normal, but this is kind of extreme I think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Next to my children dying, this is my biggest fear. I'm not sure how I could recover .

So, how does your spouse like playing third or lower fiddle to your kids?

[Anonymous]

No. My wife led a relatively unhappy life and me and the kids would feel sad if she died. But I would have no problem if she met someone else and ended this travesty of a marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When he was shoveling during the blizzard, I kept thinking that a heart attack wouldn't be so bad.

That's really craven of you.

[Anonymous]

No. My sister and a close friend both lost their fathers (she is my half sister) when they were little and it messed them up. To this day the both suffer from depression and sleep issues. Sometimes I do wish for an amicable divorce where we can still be friends and co-parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look, fleeting thoughts and daydreams are not "disgusting" or "shameful." OP has not hired a hitman. She is not fantasizing about what it actually means to be a widow, the sorrow, the heartache, the despair, the piles of paperwork.

OP is asking, in essence, have you ever fantasized in bad times about suddenly being free, no questions asked, without any effort on your part, and no trauma. And I think everyone has. So stop condemning her.

This is true. Lots of people have had these fleeting thoughts. I had cancer and my DH treated me terribly during the most difficult part of my treatment. I had these horrible thoughts and was so angry I was the one with cancer.

[Anonymous]

I think this post is horrifying. If the OP's husband happens to die Jeff should be able to give her IP address to police.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think this post is horrifying. If the OP's husband happens to die Jeff should be able to give her IP address to police.

Please stop. Maybe the OP is having a difficult time with her DH. Even teenagers get angry sometimes and wish their parents were dead. Now the thoughts may only last for five minutes and then you realize how truly sad death is.