What makes a woman a catch?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Generational wealth, an athletic/thin body, thick long hair and a great job landed me three marriage proposals by 29. I accepted the one at 29 and have been happily married for 12 years with 4 kids.

So money, job, body, nice thick hair and lots of good long term friendships/stable family would be what I would look for in a woman, were I looking.

Is your name Narcissus? He too fell in love with his reflection.

I didn't fall in love with me, my husband did. And I do think a good job matters- no one wants a dumb wife. Or- no one I know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Generational wealth, an athletic/thin body, thick long hair and a great job landed me three marriage proposals by 29. I accepted the one at 29 and have been happily married for 12 years with 4 kids.

So money, job, body, nice thick hair and lots of good long term friendships/stable family would be what I would look for in a woman, were I looking.

Generational wealth and none of the other things would probably still do it too, toots.

I don't know. The prenup was brutal. Trustees and estate lawyers are crazy about stuff like that. Would you really marry an ugly bitchy woman for money you have zero claim to? Doubtful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Generational wealth, an athletic/thin body, thick long hair and a great job landed me three marriage proposals by 29. I accepted the one at 29 and have been happily married for 12 years with 4 kids.

So money, job, body, nice thick hair and lots of good long term friendships/stable family would be what I would look for in a woman, were I looking.

Generational wealth and none of the other things would probably still do it too, toots.

I don't know. The prenup was brutal. Trustees and estate lawyers are crazy about stuff like that. Would you really marry an ugly bitchy woman for money you have zero claim to? Doubtful.

We don't know your husband isn't dumb. Based on the way you sound, I'm betting he's a few fries short of a happy meal.
Anyone can have 3 proposals if they count the ones coming from cat callers.

[Anonymous]

Mental stability is desirable. But the tricky part is some people seem to have this until...they don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Generational wealth, an athletic/thin body, thick long hair and a great job landed me three marriage proposals by 29. I accepted the one at 29 and have been happily married for 12 years with 4 kids.

So money, job, body, nice thick hair and lots of good long term friendships/stable family would be what I would look for in a woman, were I looking.

Generational wealth and none of the other things would probably still do it too, toots.

I don't know. The prenup was brutal. Trustees and estate lawyers are crazy about stuff like that. Would you really marry an ugly bitchy woman for money you have zero claim to? Doubtful.

We don't know your husband isn't dumb. Based on the way you sound, I'm betting he's a few fries short of a happy meal.
Anyone can have 3 proposals if they count the ones coming from cat callers.

Maybe. You're right, you don't know him. He's provided for us in such a way that we haven't had to touch my trust though- and he will retire at 50, so that sounds pretty nice. If a guy can do that for a family our size living our lifestyle and be as dumb as you think he is I don't know what is wrong with the rest of DCUM slogging away to make ends meet on 2 salaries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Generational wealth, an athletic/thin body, thick long hair and a great job landed me three marriage proposals by 29. I accepted the one at 29 and have been happily married for 12 years with 4 kids.

So money, job, body, nice thick hair and lots of good long term friendships/stable family would be what I would look for in a woman, were I looking.

4 kids? On purpose?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Generational wealth, an athletic/thin body, thick long hair and a great job landed me three marriage proposals by 29. I accepted the one at 29 and have been happily married for 12 years with 4 kids.

So money, job, body, nice thick hair and lots of good long term friendships/stable family would be what I would look for in a woman, were I looking.

Generational wealth and none of the other things would probably still do it too, toots.

I don't know. The prenup was brutal. Trustees and estate lawyers are crazy about stuff like that. Would you really marry an ugly bitchy woman for money you have zero claim to? Doubtful.

We don't know your husband isn't dumb. Based on the way you sound, I'm betting he's a few fries short of a happy meal.
Anyone can have 3 proposals if they count the ones coming from cat callers.

Maybe. You're right, you don't know him. He's provided for us in such a way that we haven't had to touch my trust though- and he will retire at 50, so that sounds pretty nice. If a guy can do that for a family our size living our lifestyle and be as dumb as you think he is I don't know what is wrong with the rest of DCUM slogging away to make ends meet on 2 salaries.

Yes, yes, we know. The people you know don't do things like slog away.

The people I know recognize that smugness is transparent and universally repugnant. We don't go on message boards looking to show off. Rather, we try to be helpful and empathetic.

[Anonymous]

Of course they are. You calling my husband dumb and implying that anyone would marry someone with inherited wealth was surely one of your kind and empathetic actions of the day. Bless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Generational wealth, an athletic/thin body, thick long hair and a great job landed me three marriage proposals by 29. I accepted the one at 29 and have been happily married for 12 years with 4 kids.

So money, job, body, nice thick hair and lots of good long term friendships/stable family would be what I would look for in a woman, were I looking.

4 kids? On purpose?

Yes. Two biological and two adopted with SN as children. On purpose. We had the resources to get them the surgeries they needed to help them (they had cleft palates). So on purpose.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who I would say is a catch. Smart with a stable DC-type job (but not a crazy demanding job like lawyer or surgeon or banker), in good shape but not obsessively/fanatically fit, seems to generally enjoy life and have a lot of interests, has some friends but isn't always surrounded by a gaggle of friends, seems to have a healthy relationship with food and alcohol, not a smoker, has the type of looks that will probably age pretty well.

[Anonymous]

PP here. friend above got asked out a lot when single by men seeking long term relationbships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Generational wealth, an athletic/thin body, thick long hair and a great job landed me three marriage proposals by 29. I accepted the one at 29 and have been happily married for 12 years with 4 kids.

So money, job, body, nice thick hair and lots of good long term friendships/stable family would be what I would look for in a woman, were I looking.

4 kids? On purpose?

Yes. Two biological and two adopted with SN as children. On purpose. We had the resources to get them the surgeries they needed to help them (they had cleft palates). So on purpose.

Great response, PP. That shut them up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Blonde, not overweight (nature y , look for fat signs like armpit fat, poor thigh gap), olive skin (pale or fair ages very badly), non feminist,

It is acceptable to dye hair blonde if was blonde when young

lol who has naturally blonde hair (even just when young) and olive skin?

My teenage nephew fits that category, though not common. He is 1/4 Korean. Blond hair, blues eyes that can tan to a deep brown in the summer.

He must be gorgeous !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course they are. You calling my husband dumb and implying that anyone would marry someone with inherited wealth was surely one of your kind and empathetic actions of the day. Bless.

PP, first you put your "generational wealth" at the top of the list of things by which you apparently define yourself and that make you a catch, and then you claimed that it is all locked up in trusts anyway so couldn't have been a motive for marriage. The bottom line is that you think you're great because of your family background and you came here to tell people about it.

And people rolled their eyes at you because it was in unpleasant. And yes, I called your husband dumb because people with attitudes like yours are my least favorite.

[Anonymous]

Hey/ if you falling in love with someone and then finding out that your life will be infinitely easier because of a trust fund wouldn't seem kind of lucky to you that's great! Truly! I can admit that money makes life easier- whether it's mine or his.

If it's that off putting to you that's your issue to examine.