Anyone divorce your spouse just because of lack of sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Married Male for over 30 yrs.

Some of you don't think I tried communicating a million times with my low libido wife !!!!!!!!!!

She doesn't put the blame on anything, never has. She has never once , ever, ever, told me why she won't have sex with me. Never once gave an explanation, just simply said no. End of story. No conversation about it AT. All. She agreed to go to a sex therapist with me years ago. First time there and the Therapists realized she needed some extra attention. She went one time solo and then refused to ever go back.


I come here to vent. Others come here to vent. Leave us poor SOBs alone and let us vent. Many of you have NO fricken idea how hard it is on us. Some of us need to vent or "whine" as you say. Many of us are not going to divorce our SO over lack of sex only. If there were other things going on, then yes, I would divorce her. Meanwhile, please let me vent.

Go jerk off and stop whining. It's so goddam unattractive, maybe that's why she won't fuck you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Married Male for over 30 yrs.

Some of you don't think I tried communicating a million times with my low libido wife !!!!!!!!!!

She doesn't put the blame on anything, never has. She has never once , ever, ever, told me why she won't have sex with me. Never once gave an explanation, just simply said no. End of story. No conversation about it AT. All. She agreed to go to a sex therapist with me years ago. First time there and the Therapists realized she needed some extra attention. She went one time solo and then refused to ever go back.


I come here to vent. Others come here to vent. Leave us poor SOBs alone and let us vent. Many of you have NO fricken idea how hard it is on us. Some of us need to vent or "whine" as you say. Many of us are not going to divorce our SO over lack of sex only. If there were other things going on, then yes, I would divorce her. Meanwhile, please let me vent.

Go jerk off and stop whining. It's so goddam unattractive, maybe that's why she won't fuck you.

Says somebody who doesn't like sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:16:14, do you really, in all honesty, think that the way posters are discussing their needs not being met in their sexless marriages on an anonymous message board is the same way they discuss it with their spouses?

I'm not in a sexless marriage. However, in the last 2 years, we've gone from 3-4 times a week to maybe 1 time every 1-2 weeks. You think I haven't talked to DH about it? You think I meet him at the door when he gets home from work demanding to know why my sexual needs aren't met? I make his favorite meals, I dress nicely, I make sure the kids aren't over the top... I try to make his coming home as peaceful and relaxing as possible. When I try to discuss this topic with him I do the same. I talk about spending more time together, being more connected and intimate, don't accuse...

When I come here to vent, I'm just venting. I'm tired of being rejected. I'm tired of putting forth so much effort at home and getting nothing for it. So when I come here to complain about how he didnt even want sex the last two days before he left for a 2 week business trip, I'm not interested in sugar coating it to protect his precious feelings. Not that he'd even read a sex/relationship board anyway.

And his answer is always that he's stressed at work, tired, or has a headache, for the record. It's never me. It's always him. How do I fix that? How do I work to improve that?

I have a feeling he won't be alone on that trip...that's not natural male behavior unless there is interest somewhere else...

I'm not even going to get into the whole is he cheating debate. He's only gone some of the time. I can't imagine if he's getting any on the side while traveling that it would be enough to satisfy him when he's home. I know he's not cheating when he's home. Wouldn't he still need sex between trips? He always comes home wanting me the first day or two, then nothing for a week or more. I'm leaning toward libido issues. Maybe low t. He won't get it checked though.

Agreed that something isn't right. I suspect he's having a full blown affair and doesn't want to cheat on his side piece.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have not divorced but think of it daily. Logistics make it tough so playing the waiting game. Have not had sex in five years. I have asked to go to counseling but she refuses. Minimizes impact - tells me that I make a big deal out of not having sex. So, as others have suggested I am working on myself. Will likely start to go see someone (counseling) by myself just to deal with resulting anger issues.

I know I have stopped being a nurturing spouse. She will want to talk about her day, vent about work, have me help her get her car serviced and frankly I couldn't give a shit at this point. But I cannot say that I have divorced but I will not choice to live the rest of my life this way and I am making financial and personal plans to ensure separation.

I have told her that I view the withholding of all physical affection as a violation of her vows. It doesn't seem to sink in; when I tell her we need to go to counseling in order to avoid divorce it doesn't sink in; in our marriage she has often refused to discuss things so that she can say "we never talked about that" but in my kinder moments perhaps she is just wired differently, that we both need to recognize that, and plan accordingly.

I need to be careful though because I do find I get very angry and need to watch my tongue in front of the kids.

In my case it is the nastiest form of passive aggressive behavior I have ever experienced. And I think she will be genuinely surprised and saddened when I file but that's not a marriage. Well, then again, I realize now that for alot of women, marriage is a financial contract.

PP, for a moment I thought I had written this and forgot. Then I realized you are talking about your DW.

Signed,
A DW who had also been forced into a celibate lifestyle and nothing works to change it! I bought all new lingerie-bras and panties-lacey and sexy. nada!

[Anonymous]

Seems unfair PP, all of us with low libido spouses should be on an island together.

I agree whining is so unattractive but DH have no other outlets.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have not divorced but think of it daily. Logistics make it tough so playing the waiting game. Have not had sex in five years. I have asked to go to counseling but she refuses. Minimizes impact - tells me that I make a big deal out of not having sex. So, as others have suggested I am working on myself. Will likely start to go see someone (counseling) by myself just to deal with resulting anger issues.

I know I have stopped being a nurturing spouse. She will want to talk about her day, vent about work, have me help her get her car serviced and frankly I couldn't give a shit at this point. But I cannot say that I have divorced but I will not choice to live the rest of my life this way and I am making financial and personal plans to ensure separation.

I have told her that I view the withholding of all physical affection as a violation of her vows. It doesn't seem to sink in; when I tell her we need to go to counseling in order to avoid divorce it doesn't sink in; in our marriage she has often refused to discuss things so that she can say "we never talked about that" but in my kinder moments perhaps she is just wired differently, that we both need to recognize that, and plan accordingly.

I need to be careful though because I do find I get very angry and need to watch my tongue in front of the kids.

In my case it is the nastiest form of passive aggressive behavior I have ever experienced. And I think she will be genuinely surprised and saddened when I file but that's not a marriage. Well, then again, I realize now that for alot of women, marriage is a financial contract.

PP, for a moment I thought I had written this and forgot. Then I realized you are talking about your DW.

Signed,
A DW who had also been forced into a celibate lifestyle and nothing works to change it! I bought all new lingerie-bras and panties-lacey and sexy. nada!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Married Male for over 30 yrs.

Some of you don't think I tried communicating a million times with my low libido wife !!!!!!!!!!

She doesn't put the blame on anything, never has. She has never once , ever, ever, told me why she won't have sex with me. Never once gave an explanation, just simply said no. End of story. No conversation about it AT. All. She agreed to go to a sex therapist with me years ago. First time there and the Therapists realized she needed some extra attention. She went one time solo and then refused to ever go back.


I come here to vent. Others come here to vent. Leave us poor SOBs alone and let us vent. Many of you have NO fricken idea how hard it is on us. Some of us need to vent or "whine" as you say. Many of us are not going to divorce our SO over lack of sex only. If there were other things going on, then yes, I would divorce her. Meanwhile, please let me vent.

Go jerk off and stop whining. It's so goddam unattractive, maybe that's why she won't fuck you.

Hahaha. You sicken me, you sadistic, asexual, unfeeling dumbfuck. I am a DW not getting laid, and I would bet money right now that I am smarter and more attractive than you. Go somewhere else, you sad little person.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You have to realize that there is not such thing as divorcing purely due to lack of sex.

Few couples have exactly the same libido, all the time. If your relationship was healthy, you would be able to work out some kind of compromise that you could live with. If you can't do this, that's an emotional/relationship issue, not purely a sex issue.

Just like there are no gays in Iran, right?

It only takes one partner to sicken a relationship. A spouse's unilateral refusal to have sex or even attempt to compromise on frequency is going to cause a problem. Likewise, a spouse's refusal to understand that a mom/dad that works, has small kids, etc., won't be able to do it like they do on the Playboy Channel twice a day.

Unilaterally refusing to discuss or work on ANY issue in a marriage is going to cause a problem. All these people complaining about sexless marriages just never seem to want to talk about WHY they aren't having sex. It's ALL about their deprivation, not what is going on in the other person's head. And the problems are all reduced to being 110% about lack of sex. No wonder their marriages are failing!

I don't think you have ever been in this situation, have you? The typical pattern, repeated often it seems to me, is that the spouse who would like more sex generally speaking does ask WHY they aren't having sex, and the non-interested spouse resists conversation, and when pressed answers commonly given are some combination of "I don't know"; "It's not you, it's me"; or particular complaints that, when addressed, don't actually result in more sex -- this last scenario often repeats itself. I think you should not be so judgmental, if you haven't been on the other side of this issue, you probably don't understand how painful it can be.

I'm agreeing that a scenario where one spouse unilaterally withholds affection is screwed up. I am just doubting that that is TRULY the case in a lot of these situations. When partner a is mad at partner b for having too little sex and they bring it up it doesn't sound to me (from the way I hear about here) that partner a asks things like 'hey I notice we aren't as affectionate as we used to be and there seems to be distance growing in the marriage. what's up? lets talk it out.' It sounds like partner a says, 'you aren't meeting my sexual needs, we need to work on that.' If partner b is not into it because of a whole host of other relationship issues than that approach isn't going to get them to open up and talk about it. The tone of I-don't-get-enough-sex spouses on DCUM seems to me to be a very selfish one. They don't talk about the broader scope of the marriage generally, they don't talk about their spouse's feelings, they don't speculate on what could have dropped the spouses' interest, they talk about the libido differential and how its unfair.

I'm not saying that being rejected by a spouse isn't extraordinarily painful. I think it absolutely must be. And I think if it happens than evaluating the entire marriage as the living breathing thing it is and not focusing on the fact that you didn't get your rocks off that one night is more productive. And if it turns out you DID marry someone who is just either a) a total ahole who is withholding on purpose or b) had a legitimate physical drop in libido that they cannot change, then discussing and executing a divorce seems like a practical, if painful, solution. Sitting around whining about it all day and night on a message board (which is what feels like 50% of this forum is) seems both counter productive AND self indulgent (to me).

New poster here with a healthy sex life, so I won't pretend to have any answers, but do you not realize that people vent on here and don't care to relay to us all the details of their communication with their partners? I thought that was a basic of reading message boards. Who wants to read a thesis. I generally like to employ my critical reading skills and attempt to leave behind my narrow and limited personal experience and empathize where possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Married Male for over 30 yrs.

Some of you don't think I tried communicating a million times with my low libido wife !!!!!!!!!!

She doesn't put the blame on anything, never has. She has never once , ever, ever, told me why she won't have sex with me. Never once gave an explanation, just simply said no. End of story. No conversation about it AT. All. She agreed to go to a sex therapist with me years ago. First time there and the Therapists realized she needed some extra attention. She went one time solo and then refused to ever go back.


I come here to vent. Others come here to vent. Leave us poor SOBs alone and let us vent. Many of you have NO fricken idea how hard it is on us. Some of us need to vent or "whine" as you say. Many of us are not going to divorce our SO over lack of sex only. If there were other things going on, then yes, I would divorce her. Meanwhile, please let me vent.

Go have an affair and stop whining. It's so goddam unattractive, maybe that's why she won't fuck you.

Fixed it so it is now good advice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to realize that there is not such thing as divorcing purely due to lack of sex.

Few couples have exactly the same libido, all the time. If your relationship was healthy, you would be able to work out some kind of compromise that you could live with. If you can't do this, that's an emotional/relationship issue, not purely a sex issue.

Just like there are no gays in Iran, right?

It only takes one partner to sicken a relationship. A spouse's unilateral refusal to have sex or even attempt to compromise on frequency is going to cause a problem. Likewise, a spouse's refusal to understand that a mom/dad that works, has small kids, etc., won't be able to do it like they do on the Playboy Channel twice a day.

Unilaterally refusing to discuss or work on ANY issue in a marriage is going to cause a problem. All these people complaining about sexless marriages just never seem to want to talk about WHY they aren't having sex. It's ALL about their deprivation, not what is going on in the other person's head. And the problems are all reduced to being 110% about lack of sex. No wonder their marriages are failing!

I don't think you have ever been in this situation, have you? The typical pattern, repeated often it seems to me, is that the spouse who would like more sex generally speaking does ask WHY they aren't having sex, and the non-interested spouse resists conversation, and when pressed answers commonly given are some combination of "I don't know"; "It's not you, it's me"; or particular complaints that, when addressed, don't actually result in more sex -- this last scenario often repeats itself. I think you should not be so judgmental, if you haven't been on the other side of this issue, you probably don't understand how painful it can be.

I'm agreeing that a scenario where one spouse unilaterally withholds affection is screwed up. I am just doubting that that is TRULY the case in a lot of these situations. When partner a is mad at partner b for having too little sex and they bring it up it doesn't sound to me (from the way I hear about here) that partner a asks things like 'hey I notice we aren't as affectionate as we used to be and there seems to be distance growing in the marriage. what's up? lets talk it out.' It sounds like partner a says, 'you aren't meeting my sexual needs, we need to work on that.' If partner b is not into it because of a whole host of other relationship issues than that approach isn't going to get them to open up and talk about it. The tone of I-don't-get-enough-sex spouses on DCUM seems to me to be a very selfish one. They don't talk about the broader scope of the marriage generally, they don't talk about their spouse's feelings, they don't speculate on what could have dropped the spouses' interest, they talk about the libido differential and how its unfair.

I'm not saying that being rejected by a spouse isn't extraordinarily painful. I think it absolutely must be. And I think if it happens than evaluating the entire marriage as the living breathing thing it is and not focusing on the fact that you didn't get your rocks off that one night is more productive. And if it turns out you DID marry someone who is just either a) a total ahole who is withholding on purpose or b) had a legitimate physical drop in libido that they cannot change, then discussing and executing a divorce seems like a practical, if painful, solution. Sitting around whining about it all day and night on a message board (which is what feels like 50% of this forum is) seems both counter productive AND self indulgent (to me).

New poster here with a healthy sex life, so I won't pretend to have any answers, but do you not realize that people vent on here and don't care to relay to us all the details of their communication with their partners? I thought that was a basic of reading message boards. Who wants to read a thesis. I generally like to employ my critical reading skills and attempt to leave behind my narrow and limited personal experience and empathize where possible.

Except this crap rarely comes up in a thread that's just like "I just want vent." It's always threads asking for advice or villifying the SO. So if you just want to vent mark it as such, don't try to frame it like you're trying to be constructive or anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to realize that there is not such thing as divorcing purely due to lack of sex.

Few couples have exactly the same libido, all the time. If your relationship was healthy, you would be able to work out some kind of compromise that you could live with. If you can't do this, that's an emotional/relationship issue, not purely a sex issue.

Just like there are no gays in Iran, right?

It only takes one partner to sicken a relationship. A spouse's unilateral refusal to have sex or even attempt to compromise on frequency is going to cause a problem. Likewise, a spouse's refusal to understand that a mom/dad that works, has small kids, etc., won't be able to do it like they do on the Playboy Channel twice a day.

Unilaterally refusing to discuss or work on ANY issue in a marriage is going to cause a problem. All these people complaining about sexless marriages just never seem to want to talk about WHY they aren't having sex. It's ALL about their deprivation, not what is going on in the other person's head. And the problems are all reduced to being 110% about lack of sex. No wonder their marriages are failing!

I don't think you have ever been in this situation, have you? The typical pattern, repeated often it seems to me, is that the spouse who would like more sex generally speaking does ask WHY they aren't having sex, and the non-interested spouse resists conversation, and when pressed answers commonly given are some combination of "I don't know"; "It's not you, it's me"; or particular complaints that, when addressed, don't actually result in more sex -- this last scenario often repeats itself. I think you should not be so judgmental, if you haven't been on the other side of this issue, you probably don't understand how painful it can be.

I'm agreeing that a scenario where one spouse unilaterally withholds affection is screwed up. I am just doubting that that is TRULY the case in a lot of these situations. When partner a is mad at partner b for having too little sex and they bring it up it doesn't sound to me (from the way I hear about here) that partner a asks things like 'hey I notice we aren't as affectionate as we used to be and there seems to be distance growing in the marriage. what's up? lets talk it out.' It sounds like partner a says, 'you aren't meeting my sexual needs, we need to work on that.' If partner b is not into it because of a whole host of other relationship issues than that approach isn't going to get them to open up and talk about it. The tone of I-don't-get-enough-sex spouses on DCUM seems to me to be a very selfish one. They don't talk about the broader scope of the marriage generally, they don't talk about their spouse's feelings, they don't speculate on what could have dropped the spouses' interest, they talk about the libido differential and how its unfair.

I'm not saying that being rejected by a spouse isn't extraordinarily painful. I think it absolutely must be. And I think if it happens than evaluating the entire marriage as the living breathing thing it is and not focusing on the fact that you didn't get your rocks off that one night is more productive. And if it turns out you DID marry someone who is just either a) a total ahole who is withholding on purpose or b) had a legitimate physical drop in libido that they cannot change, then discussing and executing a divorce seems like a practical, if painful, solution. Sitting around whining about it all day and night on a message board (which is what feels like 50% of this forum is) seems both counter productive AND self indulgent (to me).

New poster here with a healthy sex life, so I won't pretend to have any answers, but do you not realize that people vent on here and don't care to relay to us all the details of their communication with their partners? I thought that was a basic of reading message boards. Who wants to read a thesis. I generally like to employ my critical reading skills and attempt to leave behind my narrow and limited personal experience and empathize where possible.

Except this crap rarely comes up in a thread that's just like "I just want vent." It's always threads asking for advice or villifying the SO. So if you just want to vent mark it as such, don't try to frame it like you're trying to be constructive or anything.

Aren't you a particularly naive troll! Do you not understand that many threads here are a combination of constructive thought and also venting? How old are you? How smart are you? Maybe step away from DCUM and reassess yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Married Male for over 30 yrs.

Some of you don't think I tried communicating a million times with my low libido wife !!!!!!!!!!

She doesn't put the blame on anything, never has. She has never once , ever, ever, told me why she won't have sex with me. Never once gave an explanation, just simply said no. End of story. No conversation about it AT. All. She agreed to go to a sex therapist with me years ago. First time there and the Therapists realized she needed some extra attention. She went one time solo and then refused to ever go back.


I come here to vent. Others come here to vent. Leave us poor SOBs alone and let us vent. Many of you have NO fricken idea how hard it is on us. Some of us need to vent or "whine" as you say. Many of us are not going to divorce our SO over lack of sex only. If there were other things going on, then yes, I would divorce her. Meanwhile, please let me vent.

Go jerk off and stop whining. It's so goddam unattractive, maybe that's why she won't fuck you.

Hahaha. You sicken me, you sadistic, asexual, unfeeling dumbfuck. I am a DW not getting laid, and I would bet money right now that I am smarter and more attractive than you. Go somewhere else, you sad little person.

I'm the pp you quoted. I just want to say Thank You for responding to that jerk for me. I don't purposely attempt to whine, it's just sometimes my raw emotions get the best of me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to realize that there is not such thing as divorcing purely due to lack of sex.

Few couples have exactly the same libido, all the time. If your relationship was healthy, you would be able to work out some kind of compromise that you could live with. If you can't do this, that's an emotional/relationship issue, not purely a sex issue.

Just like there are no gays in Iran, right?

It only takes one partner to sicken a relationship. A spouse's unilateral refusal to have sex or even attempt to compromise on frequency is going to cause a problem. Likewise, a spouse's refusal to understand that a mom/dad that works, has small kids, etc., won't be able to do it like they do on the Playboy Channel twice a day.

Unilaterally refusing to discuss or work on ANY issue in a marriage is going to cause a problem. All these people complaining about sexless marriages just never seem to want to talk about WHY they aren't having sex. It's ALL about their deprivation, not what is going on in the other person's head. And the problems are all reduced to being 110% about lack of sex. No wonder their marriages are failing!

I don't think you have ever been in this situation, have you? The typical pattern, repeated often it seems to me, is that the spouse who would like more sex generally speaking does ask WHY they aren't having sex, and the non-interested spouse resists conversation, and when pressed answers commonly given are some combination of "I don't know"; "It's not you, it's me"; or particular complaints that, when addressed, don't actually result in more sex -- this last scenario often repeats itself. I think you should not be so judgmental, if you haven't been on the other side of this issue, you probably don't understand how painful it can be.

I'm agreeing that a scenario where one spouse unilaterally withholds affection is screwed up. I am just doubting that that is TRULY the case in a lot of these situations. When partner a is mad at partner b for having too little sex and they bring it up it doesn't sound to me (from the way I hear about here) that partner a asks things like 'hey I notice we aren't as affectionate as we used to be and there seems to be distance growing in the marriage. what's up? lets talk it out.' It sounds like partner a says, 'you aren't meeting my sexual needs, we need to work on that.' If partner b is not into it because of a whole host of other relationship issues than that approach isn't going to get them to open up and talk about it. The tone of I-don't-get-enough-sex spouses on DCUM seems to me to be a very selfish one. They don't talk about the broader scope of the marriage generally, they don't talk about their spouse's feelings, they don't speculate on what could have dropped the spouses' interest, they talk about the libido differential and how its unfair.

I'm not saying that being rejected by a spouse isn't extraordinarily painful. I think it absolutely must be. And I think if it happens than evaluating the entire marriage as the living breathing thing it is and not focusing on the fact that you didn't get your rocks off that one night is more productive. And if it turns out you DID marry someone who is just either a) a total ahole who is withholding on purpose or b) had a legitimate physical drop in libido that they cannot change, then discussing and executing a divorce seems like a practical, if painful, solution. Sitting around whining about it all day and night on a message board (which is what feels like 50% of this forum is) seems both counter productive AND self indulgent (to me).

New poster here with a healthy sex life, so I won't pretend to have any answers, but do you not realize that people vent on here and don't care to relay to us all the details of their communication with their partners? I thought that was a basic of reading message boards. Who wants to read a thesis. I generally like to employ my critical reading skills and attempt to leave behind my narrow and limited personal experience and empathize where possible.

Except this crap rarely comes up in a thread that's just like "I just want vent." It's always threads asking for advice or villifying the SO. So if you just want to vent mark it as such, don't try to frame it like you're trying to be constructive or anything.

I guess I'm not on here as much as you. I just take it for what it's worth and attempt to give reasonable feedback and check my extra creative assumptions at the door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Married Male for over 30 yrs.

Some of you don't think I tried communicating a million times with my low libido wife !!!!!!!!!!

She doesn't put the blame on anything, never has. She has never once , ever, ever, told me why she won't have sex with me. Never once gave an explanation, just simply said no. End of story. No conversation about it AT. All. She agreed to go to a sex therapist with me years ago. First time there and the Therapists realized she needed some extra attention. She went one time solo and then refused to ever go back.


I come here to vent. Others come here to vent. Leave us poor SOBs alone and let us vent. Many of you have NO fricken idea how hard it is on us. Some of us need to vent or "whine" as you say. Many of us are not going to divorce our SO over lack of sex only. If there were other things going on, then yes, I would divorce her. Meanwhile, please let me vent.

Go jerk off and stop whining. It's so goddam unattractive, maybe that's why she won't fuck you.

Says somebody who doesn't like sex.

Whatever you have to say to rationalize...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Married Male for over 30 yrs.

Some of you don't think I tried communicating a million times with my low libido wife !!!!!!!!!!

She doesn't put the blame on anything, never has. She has never once , ever, ever, told me why she won't have sex with me. Never once gave an explanation, just simply said no. End of story. No conversation about it AT. All. She agreed to go to a sex therapist with me years ago. First time there and the Therapists realized she needed some extra attention. She went one time solo and then refused to ever go back.


I come here to vent. Others come here to vent. Leave us poor SOBs alone and let us vent. Many of you have NO fricken idea how hard it is on us. Some of us need to vent or "whine" as you say. Many of us are not going to divorce our SO over lack of sex only. If there were other things going on, then yes, I would divorce her. Meanwhile, please let me vent.

Go jerk off and stop whining. It's so goddam unattractive, maybe that's why she won't fuck you.

Hahaha. You sicken me, you sadistic, asexual, unfeeling dumbfuck. I am a DW not getting laid, and I would bet money right now that I am smarter and more attractive than you. Go somewhere else, you sad little person.

I can guarantee you you're not. Particularly considering the fact that you're husband won't fuck you.

[Anonymous]

PP, I am hot. If you saw me, you'd think my DH was the luckiest guy alive. I am hot and sexy! I've been told I look like SJP and Tamara from the OC. I have natural large tits, that many a man has sucked on. I have a super tight pussy that I keep bare. I love sex. BUT...my DH has zero drive. I think he's always been intimidated by my hotness. Guys send me drinks when I am out with him. It makes him crazy mad.

I am not model-type, as I am too short, but am a size 4. I'm no longer a 1, like I was in my 20s and 30s, but men can smell sex and I have a sexy smell to me.

Reality is, my DH has no drive, has ED, and ignores me as a result. I dress in a way that exentuates my tatas and my legs. I've always had thigh gap - and I've never worked out. And, I do have a post-baby tummy, thus my size 4.

I am not trying to brag or say I'm better. But, believe me, PP, your DH cranes his neck to see me when you are out and about as a couple.

My DH and I went to dinner the other week. I was giving him my full attnetion, but noticed he was not to me. So, I scoped the area, and had eye contact with all 4 guys at one table. Funny thing, their SOs were the ones facing me. These guys were turning around to check out me. I was the only blonde, large-tits, blue-eyes in the place. So, I am sure that helped. But, they did this all night long - about 1 - 1.5 hours that I was there.

SO, guess what, PP. I am hotter and sexier than you may decide to dine at your table next table. You should be nicer.